Welp, that's me done!

[Steviedoo]

Thank you again. But it's not a matter of me not taking the pills or seeking help. I've done all that, many, many times. I guarantee if you can name an anti-depressant I've trialed it for at least 6 months unless there were severe side effects.

were you the ghost or the hunter?

 

[Aryol]

I had different pills for depression and they are not always a good solution. My body reacted pretty heavy to most of them.

I have my ways to deal with my depression. Doing sport when it kicks in helps me, but everyone needs to find his way and yes life can be really bad. And often it feels like there is no way out and everyone telling you that there is a always way but not which way.

But what I can tell is, that small changes can have a big impact. No one is wrong when they say that you should try something new.

 

[deepsky2]

Thanks mate, and for all who are watching my progress.
Thanks @Casinomeister for the bump into the forgotten zone.
I know how the addiction cycle works, I've been working it my entire life. It'd been almost 6 weeks, I've done almost 3 months once before.
People have noted I have depression, yes, I do have major depressive disorder- have my entire life- gambling has been an easy way for me to mitigate it up until now.
Now I just have a life full of responsibility, lacking of any reward or escape.

I don't know what I want from this thread, my life is fucked, always has been and forever will be now I imagine.
Maybe someone will see a glimpse of themselves as I was 18 years ago and think maybe this isn't such a great way to deal with depression, although for the life of me I don't know any other way.

Anyway.. always remember you have a choice, and if you choose to gamble, at least enjoy the ride while you can.

Mind Over Mood a great book to read.

 

[greylady]

Endorphins is the natural 'medication' for depression, exercise increases the release which targets the neurotransmitters in the brain triggering the feel good factor

Get with the programme, try jogging and increase the distance every few days - I know you have to have the motivation but once you feel the 'hit', you will crave it again.

....tomorrow is another day and the start of a new life, enjoy your baby whilst you can.

 

[Bloatgoat]

Think positive, every day you wake up, having zero stress related to gambling. It's a good thing!

 

[TheresNoDInBonanza]

Two months.
Couldn't go have a beer with a friend yesterday at the golf club cos I'd be in to the pokies like a shot.
Still pretty 'meh' about the whole thing.
Thinking about maybe going back, in controlled amounts, after three months if still not feeling any better.

 

[Tirilej]

Two months.
Couldn't go have a beer with a friend yesterday at the golf club cos I'd be in to the pokies like a shot.
Still pretty 'meh' about the whole thing.
Thinking about maybe going back, in controlled amounts, after three months if still not feeling any better.

Oh no, that is the addict in you speaking! Don't listen to him.
He's trying to tell you that it really wasn't as bad as you think it was, and that you maybe could be able to control it. Guess what. He is a big liar and it was really that bad.

You would end up losing your control in no time. You've proven that before.

He is also trying to tell you that life is miserable without feeding him. Don't listen.
Take a look around and see what is really important to you. Stop focusing on how bad you feel. Stop feeding your selfish side.
You have a world around you, a beautiful one. And a family. Focus on them and tell that bad side of you that he can go to hell!!!

 

[pinnit2014]

You think you can go controlled amounts , and maybe you will the first few times, but it's unlikely that'll last IMO. I know some people say that you can train your brain with discipline re gambling addictions but, and just my view, i don't think you can. In or out, no halfway house.

Personally I'm scaling back - not because of addiction but because I don't want to look back on a life wasted looking a laptop/phone.

Rediscover the things you maybe used to enjoy and hopefully you'll realise there's a far more enjoyable life outside these allegedly random games

 

[slotplayer]

Two months.
Couldn't go have a beer with a friend yesterday at the golf club cos I'd be in to the pokies like a shot.
Still pretty 'meh' about the whole thing.
Thinking about maybe going back, in controlled amounts, after three months if still not feeling any better.

I've been down the whole "controlled amount" rationale a few times over the years, it never goes as planned. Now I know the outcome before I start and just accept it.

 

[TheresNoDInBonanza]

I've been down the whole "controlled amount" rationale a few times over the years, it never goes as planned. Now I know the outcome before I start and just accept it.

As have I.

Been gambling for longer than I haven't in my life.

I know the pitfalls.
I know the disappointments and the crushing tragedies.
And I know it's at least something. As opposed to this wretched monotonous pointlessness.

 

[Tirilej]

As have I.

Been gambling for longer than I haven't in my life.

I know the pitfalls.
I know the disappointments and the crushing tragedies.
And I know it's at least something. As opposed to this wretched monotonous pointlessness.

You're just looking for excuses to be able to gamble again.

Then do it but maybe you should ask the people around you what they think first. Give them the option to kick you out of their lives first if they don't approve.
This is not only about you. Never forget that, ever!

 

[greylady]

I don't understand the need nor having the time to gamble with a young baby in the household and a wife! Have you thought about taking her out, doing things as a family opposed to your own self obsessed needs - no apologies if that sounds harsh.

I stopped instantly, no second thoughts, I have a hound with a cancerous tumour going through chemo and other treatment right now and my priorities are with him right now financially so gambling is a mere afterthought, as it should be for you right now.

 

[Aryol]

As have I.

Been gambling for longer than I haven't in my life.

I know the pitfalls.
I know the disappointments and the crushing tragedies.
And I know it's at least something. As opposed to this wretched monotonous pointlessness.

I know that it is hard to fill the day without gambling after doing this for a long time. If you desire to gamble then do it, you know the risks and maybe why at least now you should not gamble.

You should enjoy the time with your baby, the first years are important as father because the emotional connection between you and your children takes a bit more compared to the money. Later you can still gamble in controlled enviroment.

 

[slotplayer]

As have I.

Been gambling for longer than I haven't in my life.

I know the pitfalls.
I know the disappointments and the crushing tragedies.
And I know it's at least something. As opposed to this wretched monotonous pointlessness.

It's a dead end, just like all addictions.
Don't sound hopeless. Learn to count your blessings in this life.

 

[slotplayer]

I've been down the whole "controlled amount" rationale a few times over the years, it never goes as planned. Now I know the outcome before I start and just accept it.

just to be clear, if its not, when I say "I accept it", I accept the fact that gambling fun is over.

 

[goatwack]

Depression's still quite misunderstood, and this seems like a bad case here to be fair.

I, like others opining here, are bamboozled as to how someone would place gambling ahead of anything else, so there is that....

But thing with severe Depression is that there's no joy to be found in pretty much anything, try as they might. It's not as simple as just feeling depressed or down, it saps all motivation out of the simplest tasks. So whilst I don't agree with putting one's child and family in the background, and want to dish out the the platitudes myself no doubt, when someone's as indifferent to their priorities as the OP quite clearly is then it's frankly a waste of time, because the problem's far too deep-rooted to rectify via one or two cursory 'snap out of it' comments

 

[irish-ranger]

This thread stinks of hypocrisy how the hell can a bunch of gamblers preach to a guy who has problems with gambling?.
My opinion mate for all it's worth is you do what you feel you have too and if that means being taught another lesson well so be it.
These lot don't have to live with you..

 

[geordiecolin]

This thread stinks of hypocrisy how the hell can a bunch of gamblers preach to a guy who has problems with gambling?.
My opinion mate for all it's worth is you do what you feel you have too and if that means being taught another lesson well so be it.
These lot don't have to live with you..

I will tell you how we can. Because he is the op and has asked us too.Five pages worth and he is still coming back. So butt out with the insults.
What I find slightly worrying is your inference that experience counts for nothing.
What I also find truly hypocritical is you attempting to call us out for responding with our advice then you going on to give your advice.

 

[goatwack]

This thread stinks of hypocrisy how the hell can a bunch of gamblers preach to a guy who has problems with gambling?.
My opinion mate for all it's worth is you do what you feel you have too and if that means being taught another lesson well so be it.
These lot don't have to live with you..

It's not telling him to play BoD instead of Bonanza, or people claiming they have the moral superiority when it comes to gambling.

The OP threw depression into the mix and hence it became a whole different take on proceedings. And last I checked, gamblers are still human beings with empathy and different points of view!

 

[colinsunderland]

This thread stinks of hypocrisy how the hell can a bunch of gamblers preach to a guy who has problems with gambling?.
My opinion mate for all it's worth is you do what you feel you have too and if that means being taught another lesson well so be it.
These lot don't have to live with you..

You complain about people 'preaching' to the OP then go and and do exactly the same?

 

[mina1929]

Whether you're a problem gambler or not all peoples advice and experience is important to the op also letting him know that we are here to care and listen to him.

Take care @TheresNoDInBonanza

 

[Supababe]

This thread stinks of hypocrisy how the hell can a bunch of gamblers preach to a guy who has problems with gambling?.
My opinion mate for all it's worth is you do what you feel you have too and if that means being taught another lesson well so be it.
These lot don't have to live with you..

Often there is a difference between a gambler and an addict.
Some gamblers can control the need to play, some can walk away.
Some offering advice could stop in an instance. Others (like me) probably couldn’t.
Either way, we are friends here (all be it virtual) and most are caring souls who will step up to help where they can.

My advice (for what it’s worth) and as a mum to a little person is this:

Your wife NEEDS you. She needs your protection and she needs you to dig deep for the strength to support her as well as support your self. No matter how strong she appears she needs you to find the energy to hold her hand, take the baby for a quick walk In the pram to give her a minute. Or the strength to give her a great big hug just for a few minutes.

You don’t have to turn into ‘Super dad’ but I bet the grateful smile you get from her will beat a demon or two away.

 

[Gaz237]

This thread stinks of hypocrisy how the hell can a bunch of gamblers preach to a guy who has problems with gambling?.
My opinion mate for all it's worth is you do what you feel you have too and if that means being taught another lesson well so be it.
These lot don't have to live with you..

Just WOW.

Nothing to add.

 

[greylady]

Just WOW.

Nothing to add.

Wow, wow, wowzer

That's a first

 

[goatwack]