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Discussion in 'The Attic' started by rena35, Apr 12, 2016.

    Apr 12, 2016
  1. rena35

    rena35 Senior Member

    Occupation:
    writing/poetry
    Location:
    cyber space
    I lost my brother 2 weeks ago due to stage 4 lung cancer that spread . He was a veteran and one of the strongest men i knew . We had our differences but nothing too big. All the prayers and help we gave didn't help. I feel so lost and my faith is shaken. I miss him getting up at 3am with me to drink coffee and complain of our aches and pains. I also lost my dog of 15 years before my brother . All 3 of us were sickly. I am grieving and i can't move on. My brother never wanted to go to hospice but his wife put him there. Two days later he was dead :confused:. I had just visited him that Sunday and he was sitting up , enjoying his breakfast and watching the news. He didn't even have a funeral just was cremated. I never said good bye. Hurt is an understatement. I am sorry if this is the wrong place to post. I wasn't going to post at all. I have a dr. appt today , I just feel sicker and no energy . I hope everything goes well. I don't like doctors even though i see 7.
     
  2. Apr 12, 2016
  3. Tirilej

    Tirilej On a Break

    Occupation:
    Breathing
    Location:
    Sweden
    I feel so sorry for you right now, and I so know that pain. It's a pain that will never leave you but it will be easier to carry.
    Please take care of yourself and thanks for telling us. We need to get reminded how valuable lif is and how fast all can change.

    This is the perfect place to post about a thing like this.
    I did that too 4 months ago when I nearly lost my second brother.
     
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  4. Apr 12, 2016
  5. rockycatt

    rockycatt meistercatt CAG MM

    Occupation:
    carpenter
    Location:
    Boston
    prayers said rena , god bless and ease your pain
     
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  6. Apr 12, 2016
  7. rena35

    rena35 Senior Member

    Occupation:
    writing/poetry
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    cyber space


    Thank you and i am glad you didn't lose him.
     
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  8. Apr 12, 2016
  9. lakandan

    lakandan Experienced Member

    Location:
    Philippines
    So sorry for what happened to your brother, rena . Well, we can only live with their memory . Lost my elder brother when we were young, He 14 and I'm just 12 then. Prayers to you and his family .
     
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  10. Apr 12, 2016
  11. Casinomeister

    Casinomeister Forum Cheermeister Staff Member

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    Hi Rena,

    I am so sorry for your loss. Look forward to the future, and when you think back - try not to feel sorrow for what you lost, but try to find joy in the memories of the good things that happened. Life is so precious, and the knowledge that all of us are so lucky just to exist and to be with one another can keep the grief at bay. Hold your memories of your brother close, and live on.

    You have friends here you can turn to.
     
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  12. Apr 12, 2016
  13. Steviedoo

    Steviedoo Senior Member

    Occupation:
    Writer
    Location:
    South
    i am so sorry for your loss. no words could make you feel better.

    maybe you can say goodbye to your brother in your own way. find something to do that will let you have some closure.

    i hope you find some peace within yourself. the process of grieving is what it is....time.
     
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  14. Apr 12, 2016
  15. weesie

    weesie Ueber Meister

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    Sweetie, I am so sorry to read this.

    I don't even know what to say......

    Thinking of you
     
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  16. Apr 12, 2016
  17. secret2

    secret2 irishbrit62 MM

    Occupation:
    driver
    Location:
    New York, United States
    So sorry Rena.

    You have been through so much.

    Keep this place to type out your feelings. It is your thread and keep a diary of how you feel each day. You may be helping others too , with seemingly insurmountable grief. It does get better, but how you feel right now is normal.

    We are here for you, Rena.

    God Bless.
     
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  19. Jasminebed

    Jasminebed Closer to 100 than Birth

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    Not in workforce
    Location:
    Ontario
    I'm deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my only brother a few years back.

    Don't be too hard on yourself, you say you can't move on. It's only been two weeks, obviously one doesn't just move on that easily. Grieving goes on for a long time, but at some point we go on even if we don't move on.

    East well, even if you don't feel like it. If you lack the oomph to make meals, buy things that are wholesome and don't require much fuss. A deli chicken is a good choice.

    A lot of people plant a tree or perennial in memory of a loved one.

    And you can still talk with him over your 3am coffee.

    Big hug, we get through these awful times.
     
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  20. Apr 12, 2016
  21. lotusch

    lotusch Noob Webby webby PABaccred mm2

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    Hi Rena,

    I am very sorry for your loss.
    Keep the good memories alive and I am sure your brother is now looking down on you from above,smiling at you.
    No more pains and aches as he is now in a better place.


    Hope: cdf6faca364cb21b8bc18c7c8e1a1809.jpg,Apr 12, 2016
     
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  22. Apr 12, 2016
  23. Mouche12

    Mouche12 Kitty Lover PABnononaccred PABnonaccred PABnoaccred

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    Amsterdam
    Hi Rena,

    So much pain and loss in a few weeks, just terrible. You're in my prayers too and I wish you all the strength to mourne and recover. All the best.
     
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  24. Apr 13, 2016
  25. incrediblestuff

    incrediblestuff SearchingForTheHolyGrail! CAG webmeister

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    Currently: Self employed, Previously: Manager
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    Oh dear, that's terrible news Rena:(

    I really wish you strength and i can't add much more to whats already been said, but i also want to stress that you need to think what your brother would want you to do, and the last thing would of course be to suffer in agony. Keep strong, and get well! You are a beautiful person and i wish you all the best..
     
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