I know many of you don't understand why I posted the flaming comment to Nifty, but in reality I was looking to be banned whilst leaving a last comment to one of the two that has made this forum a less than fun place to be.
During my time here, I started out as a fledgling poster, with all the uncertainty it carried with it. As time went on, I began to feel more confident in posting my ideas and opinions, just as everyone else here does.
I have read the rules regarding flaming, trolling and not using a casinos name unless you have permission. I tried very hard not to break these rules as time passed.
There used to be many fun threads to get involved in regarding ranting about casinos, the play, the return and so on. But they would always turn into a slug match because of a couple people that felt we had no right to have a good vent and would counter us in a negative way that was more of an attack on the posters rather than the post. The same has been done in non casino sections. Thus causing the fun in posting and participating to diminish.
Over time I had been received well by many members here and grew to enjoy being part of something more than just being home 24-7 caring for my mother in law. It was something I could do that was a bit of a distraction from the hum drum routine of daily life.
I don't dislike my roll in life, but do long at times for something more. This is natural when one never goes anywhere or does anything outside of the home.
Anyways, as time went on, I have watched many members being treated in a very unwelcoming way, to the point of them not being here anymore. Wagerwitch for example, was badgered to the point of totally vanishing, because she was mocked and made fun of her posting style way to much and treated like she was mentally less than those who badgered her.
This has been done to many members and my perception of the forum began to change as I watched the few dictate to the many so often.
On several occasions I have asked Bryan and Maxd about why those who are badgered into flaming are banned or reprimanded, but the instigators never are. The last reply I received from Bryan was he couldn't babysit 40+ year old members and try not to take things so seriously. So I realized from my previous questioning, that the instigators of flaming are okay and are free to treat people however they wish, but being incited to flame gets the "victim", infractions, reprimanded, or banned, while the inciter goes unscathed.
Obviously as long as they aren't using colorful phrases, such as I and Just Play did, then they can say whatever they want to whomever they want and we are expected to simply ignore them. We can be called stupid, or a discredit to the forum and many other things and we are to accept this, because they know not to come right out and call anyone an asshole or fricking moron, but to say it in ways that makes them the innocent in every situation.
I see no fairness in this behavior when everyone just wants to be a part of something, yet others act as if they don't want you in their playground unless you think and express as they do.
So one grows from uncertainty in being a contributing member, to being confident, to not so certain and less confident, to the totally negative. Yet the ones that partake in creating these feelings in others, take no responsibility in their part of any of it.
The way some are treated can change how over time a good member, can go sour and only negative ideas flow. Because after all the badgering, being made fun of and causing flaming has taken place, a member such as myself begins to feel unwelcomed, unappreciated and notices being ignored by the majority of the members, where they weren't before.
I don't experience such emotions in my real life, yet here I am experiencing it in this public life, just as others have been and it makes me very sad for all who have come upon, the below the radar wrath of those that think we all should talk, act, think and sound alike.
I have heard the statement, I am not here to make friends, my question then is why do you have friends on your friends list? If you are not here to be friendly and engage in many topics, then why are you here and what is your purpose? If a subject makes you so upset that you demean a poster, then why if you can't refrain from insulting someone don't you just move on or ignore, as we are expected to?
I would think the majority of members here are in the same IQ range, yet despite that, many are made to feel and appear their IQ is less than desired for participating here.
So for those of us that receive infractions, bannings and simply vanish, we may as well except that the ones that provoke these emotions will always be here and have free reign.
The thing about it is I don't dislike these members that pick on myself or others, I just don't like what they do.
There's this saying, love the sinner, but hate the sin. Well that's the way I feel about them and just wish they would stop and think, how not everyone is just like them.
So ban me, I don't have the heart for this forum anymore anyways, as all the fun threads and posters are gone or silent and there is only one bad casino issue after another now to go on endlessly about. The loss of balance of having fun that equaled out the constant streams of seriously bad news, was a needed component of the forum, but some members just can't see that.
So cheers to all those who tried to walk the pit of fire and fell along the way.
During my time here, I started out as a fledgling poster, with all the uncertainty it carried with it. As time went on, I began to feel more confident in posting my ideas and opinions, just as everyone else here does.
I have read the rules regarding flaming, trolling and not using a casinos name unless you have permission. I tried very hard not to break these rules as time passed.
There used to be many fun threads to get involved in regarding ranting about casinos, the play, the return and so on. But they would always turn into a slug match because of a couple people that felt we had no right to have a good vent and would counter us in a negative way that was more of an attack on the posters rather than the post. The same has been done in non casino sections. Thus causing the fun in posting and participating to diminish.
Over time I had been received well by many members here and grew to enjoy being part of something more than just being home 24-7 caring for my mother in law. It was something I could do that was a bit of a distraction from the hum drum routine of daily life.
I don't dislike my roll in life, but do long at times for something more. This is natural when one never goes anywhere or does anything outside of the home.
Anyways, as time went on, I have watched many members being treated in a very unwelcoming way, to the point of them not being here anymore. Wagerwitch for example, was badgered to the point of totally vanishing, because she was mocked and made fun of her posting style way to much and treated like she was mentally less than those who badgered her.
This has been done to many members and my perception of the forum began to change as I watched the few dictate to the many so often.
On several occasions I have asked Bryan and Maxd about why those who are badgered into flaming are banned or reprimanded, but the instigators never are. The last reply I received from Bryan was he couldn't babysit 40+ year old members and try not to take things so seriously. So I realized from my previous questioning, that the instigators of flaming are okay and are free to treat people however they wish, but being incited to flame gets the "victim", infractions, reprimanded, or banned, while the inciter goes unscathed.
Obviously as long as they aren't using colorful phrases, such as I and Just Play did, then they can say whatever they want to whomever they want and we are expected to simply ignore them. We can be called stupid, or a discredit to the forum and many other things and we are to accept this, because they know not to come right out and call anyone an asshole or fricking moron, but to say it in ways that makes them the innocent in every situation.
I see no fairness in this behavior when everyone just wants to be a part of something, yet others act as if they don't want you in their playground unless you think and express as they do.
So one grows from uncertainty in being a contributing member, to being confident, to not so certain and less confident, to the totally negative. Yet the ones that partake in creating these feelings in others, take no responsibility in their part of any of it.
The way some are treated can change how over time a good member, can go sour and only negative ideas flow. Because after all the badgering, being made fun of and causing flaming has taken place, a member such as myself begins to feel unwelcomed, unappreciated and notices being ignored by the majority of the members, where they weren't before.
I don't experience such emotions in my real life, yet here I am experiencing it in this public life, just as others have been and it makes me very sad for all who have come upon, the below the radar wrath of those that think we all should talk, act, think and sound alike.
I have heard the statement, I am not here to make friends, my question then is why do you have friends on your friends list? If you are not here to be friendly and engage in many topics, then why are you here and what is your purpose? If a subject makes you so upset that you demean a poster, then why if you can't refrain from insulting someone don't you just move on or ignore, as we are expected to?
I would think the majority of members here are in the same IQ range, yet despite that, many are made to feel and appear their IQ is less than desired for participating here.
So for those of us that receive infractions, bannings and simply vanish, we may as well except that the ones that provoke these emotions will always be here and have free reign.
The thing about it is I don't dislike these members that pick on myself or others, I just don't like what they do.
There's this saying, love the sinner, but hate the sin. Well that's the way I feel about them and just wish they would stop and think, how not everyone is just like them.
So ban me, I don't have the heart for this forum anymore anyways, as all the fun threads and posters are gone or silent and there is only one bad casino issue after another now to go on endlessly about. The loss of balance of having fun that equaled out the constant streams of seriously bad news, was a needed component of the forum, but some members just can't see that.
So cheers to all those who tried to walk the pit of fire and fell along the way.
is there an echo in here? 
I am frankly surprised that we all don't spend more time going ape-shit. In my experience, gamblers are not the most balanced people anyway - me definately included. Maybe needlepoint and cooking forums are warm and fuzzy. But you put a collection of the world's most avid gamblers in one place and fireworks are guaranteed.
