Okay, I understand but you have got to analyse the situation a little bit.
I am not preaching, just trying to open up the mind.
Imo, most people gamble because they are addicted to it or enjoy it as a hobby. Those that are addicted can endure awful problems those who can control it will probably not.
The people who are addicted are gambling in the hope of hitting that “high” you get from winning. Those who are not addicted do not rely solely on gambling to hit that “high”. All gamblers are at different levels and there are various requirements of what is needed to reach that “high” dependant on what level you are at.
Most people who gamble through addiction are looking for that life changing win. This is where the problem lies because 99.9% of those will never be that lucky and if they were, they might realise that it didn’t solve anything and consequently loose it again trying to repeat that “high”. Let’s not forget gambling IS a drug.
So from there, the questions are:-
If you have more money than you can spend in a lifetime, why are you gambling? There are hundreds of really enjoyable things you could do with that money rather than sit playing slots all day so this would suggest that there is a problem and you need that “high”. The problem is if you already have enough wealth how can any win satisfy the need?
Then you have to look at what happened. You lost 14k and it hurt you, otherwise you would not have created the thread. Even though you seemed aware that the session was spiralling towards a bad outcome, you couldn’t say okay I am 3k down, enough is enough. You displayed the traits of a compulsive gambler by carrying on until it hurt you.
You then said that you felt the session was unfair and didn’t feel “random” or normal and you would take a two week break and then reassess the situation. Yet within a few days you are back playing so the question here is why? You have more money than you need and you know it could happen again but you choose to continue playing.
Time is a great healer with gambling. At the moment of reality you cannot believe what happened and you swear that you will never do that again but even then a small part of your mind knows it’s only a matter of time before the process repeats.
I have a lot of experience so I am not just making this post for the sake of it. I am a compulsive gambler and at my age there’s not much you can tell me or get past me when it comes to gambling.
Fortunately after 40 years of desperation and despair, I am still here to tell the tales and I have learnt to control my gambling. I am one of the very few compulsive gamblers that achieve this but I am not proud of it and it took 40 years of lies and deceit, that I have to live with and it’s a bad scar. Hurting people that love you and that you love is a terrible guilt to carry.
I watched your video and I could see in you, that the session in question had hurt you deeply, virtually to the point of breaking. You may say otherwise but not much gets past me.
You seem like a really decent person to me and I like to think I am a reasonably good judge. The problem is with gamblers is that nothing anybody says or does will change anything but I thought it was worth a try.
The bottom line is you are the only one that can change things. If I was you I would take some advice onboard and think long and hard about it. Do you really want to be sitting there in 5-10 years time with nothing? Knowing that you had more money than you could ever need but now it’s gone, never to return.
Like I said, I am not trying to lecture you here, just trying to perhaps take off the blinkers. After all this, ask yourself one last question. If you have so much money and gambling is just fun then why don’t you play for 20p or equivalent? Your still gambling and you will still win and lose.
I think we both know the answer and it is because winning €50 will not satisfy the need. To become significant you need to be winning €20,000 and there my friend lies the problem.
P.S. Sorry for the long post but if it helps just one person to realise they have a problem and do something about it then it was worth making. It is aimed at anyone that may be in this situation, I hope you don’t mind me using your expertise as an example.
Take care.
