Hi everyone,
A lot has been going on so time for another update.
So, where to start...
I’ve met the other guy now. He came around to the house while she was at work and ended up staying for a few hours. I did get a text from my ex a few minutes before he arrived, politely asking me not to knock him out. I think they were both worried my wanting to meet him was just an excuse to kick ten bells out of him. It wasn’t though, I got past that stage quite a while ago.
He was very nervous, but it went alright really. This might sound strange but I actually think he’s not a bad bloke and I’ve got no issues with him being around my kids now or in the future. He said where they are concerned, what I say goes and I can’t really ask for more than that. My kids quite like him too and think he’s very nice, so there should be no issues from them. The main thing I want to take from everything that has happened is it doesn’t need to affect them negatively in the future. I get on ok with him and I get on well with her. They see that and consequently the atmosphere around the home is very good.
I’m still at home and I will be staying there now. In the next 2-3 months she will be moving out and into a bigger house with him. I’m keeping more or less everything so I’m not having to start afresh.
My second oldest daughter (12) will be staying with me and my 8 year old son will alternate one week with me and one week with her. He wanted to stay too but alternating for now I think is better. My oldest daughter is just looking forward to having her own room for once, but she did ask if she can stay whenever she wants. Obviously she can.
The two youngest will be going with her. I will have them every Wednesday and Thursday and also Sunday’s. I’ll probably have all of them every other weekend too. A few people have already said give it a month and they will all be back with me and that is a possibility. I don’t think she can cope with the youngest so we will just have to see.
I have also met someone else now! I went on a dating site for the first time in my life and I’ve had a few dates with someone who is so nice. She has no kids though so my family will be a bit of a culture shock for her! She’s only a couple of years younger than me (As opposed to a couple of decades) and we seem to have hit it off really well. My two girls really like her and keep saying dad you really have to get with her she’s so nice!
I feel so much more confident about the future now. I’ve gone from being at the lowest point in my life with no hope and fearful for what may come, to getting my confidence back and being more in control of my life.
I’ve got you guys to thank for that. This community is bloody amazing and I’ve had so much advice and friendly words of encouragement. It would have been so much harder without you all and I will never forget what you have done for me.
Thank you all so much.
To the future!
To the future! We never know what life has in store for us, and it's nice to see that you knew this and was able rise above!
