i like to play online casinos on my laptop wilst the wife is watching tv on the sofa
My husband is a non gambler also, but I do not hide my gambling from him..I also let him enjoy a spin or two when he wants..He is a smoker and I am not, so we have agreed, I will use the money he blows on his cigs for my gambling fun each month...he was very agreeable, knowing this will stop my naging him to quit smoking...You really, really should not hide this from her. Just put it in terms she can understand Gambling is not a stigma unless you allow it to be...
Cant_Get_Right:That is a very bad ideal. No need to create a bad habit for someone else
This I find a tad condescending...if you feel gambling is a BAD HABIT..then why in the world do you do it??? Everyone in this world has their own vices...some are bad, that hurts others...gambling if taken to the extreme hurts oneself..so it is a bad habit only if you consider it harming yourself..otherwise many consider gambling another form of entertainment but with rewards sometimes..
Think of it this way..and I was blown away one day by one of my co workers who came in to brag about their $200 dinner...$200!!!!
1. People blow hundreds of dollars a WEEK eating out only to have no return for it except the bathroom in 24 hours..no chance of recouping any of that money..all gone..(getting the picture)?
2. Many go out to the moveis weekly which costs an average of $20 per person plus eats..here is another few hundred a month that just disappears..
3. Ther are people that like fine wine and spirits and spend hundreds of dollars a month on their choice of spirits..or go out clubbing and spending a ton...and it disappears in less than 24 hours..
5. Some enjoy smoking..which is costing a fortune nowadays just to blow all that cash into smoke rings...hundreds of dollars a month, I know..I pay for his cigarretes..
Well, I do not smoke, or drink or go to movies, or dinners (I love cooking at home)....so my trade off with my husband is that I get a gambling allowance..which is only fair since I bring in 50% of the income...
So, do not feel gambling is to be hid...because at least with gambling you could get a nice return big enough to go to the casinos and have a weekend away and get treated like a king/queen...which is what we do together whenver we feel the urge..
One other thing...when my husband wants to go away...he always gets me to play the ponies because I actually do quite well..
So, tell her, involve her, and negotiate with her on what it is she would like in trade for you to have your fun your way too..
Sorry for going on so long...gambling is NOT a bad thing..it is another way of entertinment...and never be ashamed of it..
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