hiding your casino play from wifey

[5250phil]

wonder if anyone can help

i like to play online casinos on my laptop wilst the wife is watching tv on the sofa

she doesnt know i play casinos and regularly pops over to see what im doing(doesnt trust me )lol

is there a way of when i reduce the casino to the sytem tray of it not being visable
at the moment it clearly shows it there and she will notice it soon i think

any help apriciated

 

[Webzcas]

Very easy to do, although I'm not going to tell you how.

If you must, read up on windows, in particular the windows toolbar ( ie system tray).

 

[BingoT]

Have her join you She may enjoy it.
If you have to hide this gambling habit from the one you love why did you get married.
Marriage is a Trust thing for both of you.
If you have no trust in something you have nothing.
Just have her on your side and take turns playing.
It's only my 2 cents
Thanks & Good Luck
~T~

 

[Cant_Get_Right]

]Have her join you She may enjoy it.
If you have to hide this gambling habit from the one you love why did you get married.
Marriage is a Trust thing for both of you.
If you have no trust in something you have nothing.
Just have her on your side and take turns playing.
It's only my 2 cents
Thanks & Good Luck
~T~

That is a very bad ideal. No need to create a bad habit for someone else. I would hope phil is the man of the house. And he shouldn't be afraid to tell his wife. Allow her to make the decision if she wants to join, accept his gambling, leave the relationship, get him help (if she feels it), etc. But to ask a non-gambler to join you, is completely WRONG! ..ie C'mon honey and hit this dust with me. You gonna love this.

 

[anniemac]

Cant_Get_Right, I don't think BingoT was saying drag you SO into the addiction. I think he meant that you could make it something you could do together. My guy doesn't gamble online but sometimes we play together, take turns spinning and stuff.

That said, if you gotta hide your gambling online from your spouse, then there might be a bigger problem going on here that needs to be addressed. Just saying.

 

[love2winalot]

Hiya: As you can see we are all slightly derailing your thread.......

You, imhop, Must tell her instead of hiding it. She must be guessing bu now you are hiding SOMETHING? Another women perhaps.........How is she suppose to know?

This also means you have to be hiding some Money, to be able to deposit in the first place........One lie just lead to another, and what is next??????

The truth does not end releationships, Lie's do.

 

[Pocketdiggers77]

wonder if anyone can help

i like to play online casinos on my laptop wilst the wife is watching tv on the sofa

she doesnt know i play casinos and regularly pops over to see what im doing(doesnt trust me )lol

is there a way of when i reduce the casino to the sytem tray of it not being visable
at the moment it clearly shows it there and she will notice it soon i think

any help apriciated

Unlock the taskbar and drag it out of view (right click it-->remove checkmark from lock the taskbar). As long as she doesnt start looking for the system time you should be fine. And when you get busted tell her at least you werent looking at porn. i thought there needed to be a guy answer since there were so many chick answers.


PD

 

[silcnlayc]

i like to play online casinos on my laptop wilst the wife is watching tv on the sofa

My husband is a non gambler also, but I do not hide my gambling from him..I also let him enjoy a spin or two when he wants..He is a smoker and I am not, so we have agreed, I will use the money he blows on his cigs for my gambling fun each month...he was very agreeable, knowing this will stop my naging him to quit smoking...You really, really should not hide this from her. Just put it in terms she can understand Gambling is not a stigma unless you allow it to be...

Cant_Get_Right:That is a very bad ideal. No need to create a bad habit for someone else

This I find a tad condescending...if you feel gambling is a BAD HABIT..then why in the world do you do it??? Everyone in this world has their own vices...some are bad, that hurts others...gambling if taken to the extreme hurts oneself..so it is a bad habit only if you consider it harming yourself..otherwise many consider gambling another form of entertainment but with rewards sometimes..

Think of it this way..and I was blown away one day by one of my co workers who came in to brag about their $200 dinner...$200!!!!

1. People blow hundreds of dollars a WEEK eating out only to have no return for it except the bathroom in 24 hours..no chance of recouping any of that money..all gone..(getting the picture)?

2. Many go out to the moveis weekly which costs an average of $20 per person plus eats..here is another few hundred a month that just disappears..

3. Ther are people that like fine wine and spirits and spend hundreds of dollars a month on their choice of spirits..or go out clubbing and spending a ton...and it disappears in less than 24 hours..

5. Some enjoy smoking..which is costing a fortune nowadays just to blow all that cash into smoke rings...hundreds of dollars a month, I know..I pay for his cigarretes..

Well, I do not smoke, or drink or go to movies, or dinners (I love cooking at home)....so my trade off with my husband is that I get a gambling allowance..which is only fair since I bring in 50% of the income...

So, do not feel gambling is to be hid...because at least with gambling you could get a nice return big enough to go to the casinos and have a weekend away and get treated like a king/queen...which is what we do together whenver we feel the urge..

One other thing...when my husband wants to go away...he always gets me to play the ponies because I actually do quite well..

So, tell her, involve her, and negotiate with her on what it is she would like in trade for you to have your fun your way too..

Sorry for going on so long...gambling is NOT a bad thing..it is another way of entertinment...and never be ashamed of it..

.

 

[Marie2473]

IF i was married and my husband hide things like that from me , I would be pissed of to say the least. If u are married u shpuld be able to share such things, and if not, there must be something else behind it?
Doesnt she like u gamling?

Anyways, tell her what u are up to and maybe like someone else said - u can enjoy it together =)

 

[tat00]

you all must be wifes.

i am in the same boat- you have to hide things from yous wife otherwise she GETS ALL OF IT!!!!!!!!. ASK ANY MAN. why do women think that when they classify sharing as equal when it never is.

many times we go to casino i win 1k and i give her 500 dollars of it.
when she wins 1k i get ohh maybe if im lucky 200 . and worse if i did not ask how u doing sweety i would of never known she won at all .

same thing at online casino we deposit 200 i get 100 she gets 100. but wait now that she won 500 on that spin she has 500 plus 100 and i still have only 100 to play with .. its always in the wifes favor.. it is never EQUAL!!!

oh by the way if a man ever questions why he never gets what he suppose to have u might as well get that couch ready for the weekend to sleep on

so i can understand this guys dilema here and all i can say is welcome to the mens club of marriage.

 

[tat00]

oh by the way for the post up there.


YES I AM P$%$% WHIPPED.

 

[silcnlayc]

tat00 you all must be wifes.

i am in the same boat- you have to hide things from yous wife otherwise she GETS ALL OF IT!!!!!!!!. ASK ANY MAN. why do women think that when they classify sharing as equal when it never is.

many times we go to casino i win 1k and i give her 500 dollars of it.
when she wins 1k i get ohh maybe if im lucky 200 . and worse if i did not ask how u doing sweety i would of never known she won at all .

same thing at online casino we deposit 200 i get 100 she gets 100. but wait now that she won 500 on that spin she has 500 plus 100 and i still have only 100 to play with .. its always in the wifes favor.. it is never EQUAL!!!

oh by the way if a man ever questions why he never gets what he suppose to have u might as well get that couch ready for the weekend to sleep on

so i can understand this guys dilema here and all i can say is welcome to the mens club of marriage.

OMG tat00 , too funny!! You sound just like my husband, I mean JUST LIKE HIM!!

I will tell you a little secret on this wifes part of sharing her equal ways...if we start with $200 and I win a few thousand...I ALWAYS own up to winning half that win when he asked if I did any good...why, because I save the other half for our NEXT trip...see, we wives do have a method to our madness

My husband always blows his stash way before me and always asks me for more cause he knows I am a very lucky player...so I have to be careful when I win because I like to have more play sessions and need this stash to have another good time with him (free rooms and food always included).

So, be nice to her cause I think she has done this for you too without letting on, no?

.

 

[Wildfire7]

you all must be wifes.

i am in the same boat- you have to hide things from yous wife otherwise she GETS ALL OF IT!!!!!!!!. ASK ANY MAN. why do women think that when they classify sharing as equal when it never is.

many times we go to casino i win 1k and i give her 500 dollars of it.
when she wins 1k i get ohh maybe if im lucky 200 . and worse if i did not ask how u doing sweety i would of never known she won at all .

same thing at online casino we deposit 200 i get 100 she gets 100. but wait now that she won 500 on that spin she has 500 plus 100 and i still have only 100 to play with .. its always in the wifes favor.. it is never EQUAL!!!

oh by the way if a man ever questions why he never gets what he suppose to have u might as well get that couch ready for the weekend to sleep on

so i can understand this guys dilema here and all i can say is welcome to the mens club of marriage.

IMO when you get married you are making a commitment, to be loyal, faithful and to share everything. Listening to some guys on here they seem to want their cake and eat it. If you want to gamble all day long and pull birds all night long then don't get married!

If you must gamble, then wait till the wife goes out to bingo or to put the lottery on!

As to the guy in this thread who made a bizarre point about how his wife would expect half his winnings, well I hope your covering her half of your losses. (Which as any gambler knows will be more than any wins).

Mike

 

[tat00]

half of losses? what are u talking about she has nothing to start with its all from money that i started with . like i said half of what ? nothing.

by the way silnlayc will u marry me

 

[silcnlayc]

tat00:by the way silnlayc will u marry me

I am so sorry tat00, but another has asked for my hand already on this forum ...but if we ever get an online divorce....I promise you can be next!

.

 

[jelsmith]

you all must be wifes.

i am in the same boat- you have to hide things from yous wife otherwise she GETS ALL OF IT!!!!!!!!. ASK ANY MAN. why do women think that when they classify sharing as equal when it never is.

many times we go to casino i win 1k and i give her 500 dollars of it.
when she wins 1k i get ohh maybe if im lucky 200 . and worse if i did not ask how u doing sweety i would of never known she won at all .

same thing at online casino we deposit 200 i get 100 she gets 100. but wait now that she won 500 on that spin she has 500 plus 100 and i still have only 100 to play with .. its always in the wifes favor.. it is never EQUAL!!!

oh by the way if a man ever questions why he never gets what he suppose to have u might as well get that couch ready for the weekend to sleep on

so i can understand this guys dilema here and all i can say is welcome to the mens club of marriage.

I AM THE WIFE.....and my hubby knows i gamble....but he is not permitted to know how much etc.....HE goes to Lowes and buys crap....I gamble....Im not one of those shopping chicks...I rarely go buy clothes etc.....so whats mine is mine and so long as it doesnt interfere with household bills....there isnt a problem...........and when i do win....I give him a little or i pay anextra bill or something.....We split everything 50/50 so I pretty much got it made.

 

[tat00]

also to all wifes out there .

i GUARANTEE all men has a secret compartment in their wallets ( we call it rat holeing it) with money they do not want their wifes to see -- so we can go out and have some fun with it without worrying what the wife will say - or use it for that extra drinks at the bar that evening..or better yet extra gambling money

ask your hubbys if they have a rat hole . they will instantly deny it but i guarante they do. maybe not in wallet but sock or undies


MARRIED MEN IS LIKE PRISON CAMP.

BUT I LOVE MY WIFE

 

[felicie]

Unlock the taskbar and drag it out of view (right click it-->remove checkmark from lock the taskbar). As long as she doesnt start looking for the system time you should be fine. And when you get busted tell her at least you werent looking at porn. i thought there needed to be a guy answer since there were so many chick answers.


PD

LOL Equality for all (and thanks for instructions)

 

[silcnlayc]

tat00:i GUARANTEE all men has a secret compartment in their wallets ( we call it rat holeing it) with money they do not want their wifes to see -- so we can go out and have some fun with it without worrying what the wife will say - or use it for that extra drinks at the bar that evening..or better yet extra gambling money

OMG, this is too much!!! I just asked for a few dollars today and he came out with a few hundred!! (We know you guys have this but we do not want to spoil your secret) Amazing...I am sitting here truly in pain from laughing...thank you tat00, for being the husband I have...never knew there were so many of him!

.

 

[tat00]

I PROBABLY BROKE THE RULE OF CONDUCT FOR MENS CLUB OF SECRECY BUT I HAD TO TELL SOMEONE -
god bless married men

 

[LaurieJim]

also to all wifes out there .

i GUARANTEE all men has a secret compartment in their wallets ( we call it rat holeing it) with money they do not want their wifes to see -- so we can go out and have some fun with it without worrying what the wife will say - or use it for that extra drinks at the bar that evening..or better yet extra gambling money

ask your hubbys if they have a rat hole . they will instantly deny it but i guarante they do. maybe not in wallet but sock or undies


MARRIED MEN IS LIKE PRISON CAMP.

BUT I LOVE MY WIFE

My hubby thinks he's so smart about hiding money, 99 % of the better half know where its at anyways lol, mine keeps his behind his drivers lic, always has and always will.

I think he knows i know but i will never tell, its his secret stash and if i need something, he always pulls a 100.00 out of the blue wonder where that came from.........laurie

 

[love2winalot]

i GUARANTEE all men has a secret compartment in their wallets

Hiya: Somehow I never got the memo about this?
So, Where do i get one of these special wallets that will turn my $1 bill into a $100 bill? I could really use that extra $99.......

 

[tat00]

it is a given fact that most women are smarter than men.

but u have to give us the idea that we know what we talking about(or at least think that you are impressed). yea its a macho thing .
but as far as money is concerned i have experienced so many unfair transactions that i have to RAT HOLE money now so i can have the space i need to do my things . for whatever reason like a new power tool or i come across a good deal at craigslist or hell a coupon at hooters.

all i know is that women are unfair when it comes to money its a given fact - men can attest to this. friday night poker with the guys is all we talk about how we got robbed by our wifes the one with the worst story gets a 6 pack of bud light to take home for the week. we men need to speak up but we are to cowards to say something becasue the lecture we get is far worse than getting robbed.

 

[tat00]

[So, Where do i get one of these special wallets that will turn my $1 bill into a $100 bill? I could really use that extra $99.......

ask your hubby to see his wallet and usually about 75 percent of time if he has any zipper in wallet u will have hit a random jackpot

 

[rockycatt]

my doctor told me that all three of his wives were great house keepers
cause they all got the house at the divorses true story

 

[LaurieJim]

ask your hubby to see his wallet and usually about 75 percent of time if he has any zipper in wallet u will have hit a random jackpot

Never underestamate the powers of women, just when you think you have us figured out, we are already 3 steps ahead of you (men).........laurie


Note: Zipper part already discovered, tool chest, glove compartment years ago lol, so i just let him build up his(our) rat hole behind the lic. and pics in his wallet, gotta let him have some secrets.............laurie

 

[vegetagirl2008]

My husband knows I gamble or else he doesn't go on trips to Atlantic City or Las Vegas. He lets me do my thing as long it does not affect the finances within the household and I donate a portion of my winnings towards the house there is no problem.

 

[Mavin1]

You all are soooo funny!!!!!!!!! My hubby has been shopping on Ebay since last week when I made some prety good hits on the online slots. This is our trade off, I win it, HE spends it!
Gotta love marriage no matter whether you're the wife or the hubby.

 

[love2winalot]

ask your hubby

Hiya, Love2winalot here, aka, Hugh, aka, a Man........

I have been called a jerk, a system seller, a troll, a shill, have been told to go to hell, to get a life, to learn to spell, asked to lean the english laungage above a 3rd grade level, and so on..........But until today, i had never been told to, "ask my hubby".........

I guess i never got that memo either.........hehehe

 

[footdr]

Too Funny....

I PROBABLY BROKE THE RULE OF CONDUCT FOR MENS CLUB OF SECRECY BUT I HAD TO TELL SOMEONE -
god bless married men

This is no big secret, all married women know this already. Truth is we have our own secret stash!

You men can't get away with anything, we are on to you.

 

[same_old]

it is a given fact that most women are smarter than men.

but u have to give us the idea that we know what we talking about(or at least think that you are impressed). yea its a macho thing .
but as far as money is concerned i have experienced so many unfair transactions that i have to RAT HOLE money now so i can have the space i need to do my things . for whatever reason like a new power tool or i come across a good deal at craigslist or hell a coupon at hooters.

all i know is that women are unfair when it comes to money its a given fact - men can attest to this. friday night poker with the guys is all we talk about how we got robbed by our wifes the one with the worst story gets a 6 pack of bud light to take home for the week. we men need to speak up but we are to cowards to say something becasue the lecture we get is far worse than getting robbed.

Jesus Tat00 you really know what your on about dont you.

At Xmas time both the misses the baby and I went to Melbourne for two weeks for some relaxation and fun.

About a week into it Katherine ( my partner) wanted to go to this massive shopping centre (southlands) to do some shopping, this was fine and I had no problem with it.

So, we get there and she walks into a clothing store, now I hate walking into the ladies clothing store, you sit there for ages and become a coat hanger for your partner when they try things on- not to mention mine puts her handbag over my shoulder ( what a real man I must look like).

She then buys say $300-$400 from that clothing store, the lady behind the counter puts it all in a bag and they BOTH look at me, OH shit that's right- im supposed to carry this arent I, so of course I grab the 3 bags.

Moving along to the next shop, this one is a shoe store. 30 minutes we are in there to decide we dont like anything from this place and maybe time to move on.
Next one is another clothing store. Same deal but this time I think im smart and sit on the old timers chairs they put in the shopping centres out the front,sat there for a good 15-20 minutes again until im called in to grab about another 3 bags of clothing.

It's about lunch time now and I just passed a curry house and I aske katherine if she doesnt mind me getting some lunch. She looks at her watch and says can I eat it in about 10 minutes, WHA!!-

So down goes the rogan Josh and vindaloo in about 8 minutes and we start our shopping again with me having massive heart burn.

Anyway $1300 and 4 hours later with 9 yes that's right 9 bags of clothes she had decided it's over, im warn out with heart burn and sore feet not to mention losing circulation in my hands from the bags.

We get back to her Aunties house and they look through what she has gotten and just forgotten about me, didnt care what so ever.

The next few days I go to the casino with katherines Brother who just turned 18 to have a big night.
I go to walk out the dorr and get stoppped to ask how mch im taking to bet with, I told her "oh only about $300-$400", what!!! she says, thats heaps of money you should only take $200.

Yeah right, I love to punt but of course I say "yes dear" while all the time i have another $500 stashed behind my licence in the wallet

Anyway I did my ass and lost the lot but had a great time in the process but I couldnt fathem that she can spend $1300 in a day on clothes but I cant punt with mine?? - her explanation for this is clothes are material things that you will always have but gambling your money is gone with nothing to show for it, huh!? what about me having a good time in the process, she just didnt get that side of it.

Anyway cutting a long story short I love Katheirne to death and she HATES me putning full stop and when she's knows iam she will always mention it but at the end of the day she doesnt have a choice and I do it anyway. I make sure everything is paid each week and only punt whats left prior to payday.

Most times I wont tell her when im punting on the computer as it just causes a argument but what she doesnt know in this case doesnt hurt her.

 

[Mavin1]

You poor poor wonderful men, what you all go through for us women! No wonder you're keepers!



I guess I should add that from what everyone is pretty much saying, be upfront with your wife, she will appreciate it more and you will enjoy your playing online way more. Afterall, keeping it secret, kind of takes the fun out of it.

 

[slotheadlizard]

tat

I know this thread is derailed, but I am cracking up. Tat, I don't know exactly how much of the "man code" you have broken, but I'm guessing a lot My husband never lets me get near his wallet. I know he has a secret stash!

Ok, you have told us something, so its only fair that us wifey's reciprocate. First off we always tell the truth. We always really do need money for whatever it is we ask for, so just give it to us. Most importantly, we never ever ever fake anything, ever

I think my candor qualifies us women to some more man secrets, feel free to post or PM, its up to you=)

*Seriously for the OP, its always best to be honest, I mean I never try to lie to my husband. On the other hand, I wouldn't be volunteering info. If she asks a question, just tell her. We hate being lied to! Its never as bad as you think, we forgive you men just about anything. Good Luck

 

[silcnlayc]

slotheadlizard:Most importantly, we never ever ever fake anything, ever

OMG slotheadlizard!!! I am dying here gasping for air, sides are aching and can't get off the floor...geezes...I feel like I have been tickled to death....can't breath for laughing so hard..

OMG....got to go to the ladies room...don't type without me.....WAIT! BRB!...OMG...LMFAO all the way to the ladies room...

.

 

[tat00]

ok i have seemed to get the ladies attention .

first to the guy who spent shopping carrying 9 bags - you actually beat me i had 7 .
but yours came to 1300 or so mine came to 2400 so i beat you there. but u are still a man even though you are a human shopping cart.

second to slotheadlizard dont even get me started about sex. that is a new thread in itself

to the ladies who already knew about the zipper. there is a jean company out there (i wont mention it but i think i get "lucky" at slots) they actually put a special pocket compartment on the inside jean. and i once had 1k yes 1 thousand dollars which i also took to vegas for bachlor party. so when going to the bank my wife always asks me why do i like 100 dollar bills dont you ever change them . well its hard to have 1k in 20's all rapped up in your pocket although would look great with that bulge, god forbid i need one. so that is one more secret i have to give for today but oh man we have many many secrets you all dont know about.

and on a note - guys i mean real men - plz forgive me for giving this out i just cant stand it anymore, i cant see another man actually think there is equality when it comes to finances.

the phrase whats yours is mine and whats mine is mine is actually true to women

 

[5250phil]

WOW what have i started here lol

the money i use to gamble is money i earn as doing cash jobs for friends ect through my line of work in the building industry

so it doesnt effect the household money used for bills ect

she doesnt know how much i get from these jobs but if i win i treat her to a new outfit or a holiday

she just thinks its a treat from my job money

i just feel she may not aprove of me gambling so i dont tell her

why rock the boat

 

[tat00]

welcome to club phil
another gentelman not telling his wife
case and point

 

[AussieDave]

Simple solution, grow some balls and tell you wife you enjoy a flutter at the online casino.

She may not like the idea...but least your being upfront.

My partner knew from day one cause I told her - guess being a casino affiliate kinda fits the scene.

But on the upside she does very nicely from my wins.
Valentines Day... diamond eternity ring, 6 dozen long stemmed roses, clothes shopping and dinner - she is after all my princess.

There is always a positive in everything....you just have to know how to paint the picture


Cheers



Dave

 

[slotheadlizard]

Wifey

WOW what have i started here lol

the money i use to gamble is money i earn as doing cash jobs for friends ect through my line of work in the building industry

so it doesnt effect the household money used for bills ect

she doesnt know how much i get from these jobs but if i win i treat her to a new outfit or a holiday

she just thinks its a treat from my job money

i just feel she may not aprove of me gambling so i dont tell her

why rock the boat

Seems to me that you have already made up your mind how to play it. You may not get a lot of support for deception from the wives, or maybe even the guys. On the other hand, I won't judge for it, at least she gets something nice every one in a while. I'd rather my husband be kind over all else. Good Luck

*"But on the upside she does very nicely from my wins.
Valentines Day... diamond eternity ring, 6 dozen long stemmed roses, clothes shopping and dinner - she is after all my princess."
Very sweet Aussie, she is lucky=)

 

[BingoT]

I have friends that been married now for 20+ years and they still are %$%&^ up.
He/She goes to the store and spends $100.00 on groceries and comes home asking for $50.00 This is not a marriage it's a partnership I say.
I say what comes in the home is for both to have.
What is the reason for hiding it anyways.
My Wife and I want something we buy it and if the price tag is high we talk about it and we agree or disagree and move on.it's life in the marriage World.
To this day & almost 25 years later (June 1st) I have never hid anything from my Wife.and I have no reason to do it.& I know she is upfront with me as well.
A Marriage is not made up of Lies & Hides.
Nothing to hide & nothing to gain.
Shit I even have an old girlfriend that to this day still calls the house asking for me and she knows this too.& at times we meet for a coffee and talk.
It's all about Trust.

 

[AussieDave]

You may not get a lot of support for deception

When (not if) you get busted, your wife is going to be really jacked, she'll be spitting chips (no pun intended).

Hiding stuff and deceptive acts ranks pretty high in their 'don't do this to me book'...Just some food for thought.

Which ever road you choose to travel at least weight up the pros and cons


Cheers



Dave

 

[Mavin1]

WOW what have i started here lol

the money i use to gamble is money i earn as doing cash jobs for friends ect through my line of work in the building industry

so it doesnt effect the household money used for bills ect

she doesnt know how much i get from these jobs but if i win i treat her to a new outfit or a holiday

she just thinks its a treat from my job money

i just feel she may not aprove of me gambling so i dont tell her

why rock the boat

I gave you a thank you on this post for coming back and following up with comments and also for not using household money to play with. But I still say you will enjoy your fun budget better if the wife knows about it, afterall what would she do, yell at you, be mad for a time, I mean really how scary is she that you are affraid to let her know?
But when I read your other thread where you had deposited $800 in 6 weeks and won up to $6,000 but was impatient to have the rogue casino process your winnings so you spent it back to them, well I would certainly be ticked if I were your wife and knew you had won that much and then gave it back to the casino.
Not to be critical here, as we all start out kind of dumb and naive when we first discover online playing. But let your experiences make you mature in how you handle your playing. Don't be "AFFRAID" to share with your wife what you do for fun, unless you are affraid she might want to play too. But if you keep hiding what you are doing on the computer if she looks to see, she may think you are visiting porn sights, or corresponding with some Russian beauty that is looking for a sugar daddy. Don't be fooled into thinking that she is to dumb to know something is going on behind her back, as postings here have shown, we women are not as dumb as some men think we are. But if something is obviously being hidden from us, we will certainly be thinking the worse and gambling online is not the worst a person can do.
So give her credit for being your wife, your partner and be upfront with her. Like I said, she will appreciate this much more than constantly wondering what you are doing on the computer when she is not looking and this throws doubts and suspicions in her mind which will only grow larger until there is a real problem in your personal relationship with her.
No amount of fun on the computer is worth damaging a relationship of love and trust between a husband and wife.

I would like to add that this comment about what you make on your jobs is another deception, "she doesnt know how much i get from these jobs", . One has to ask, why are you hiding so much from her, what are you affraid of and are you a compulsive deciever to your wife and yet you are so honest here on the forum to strangers?

 

[silcnlayc]

Mavin1:So give her credit for being your wife, your partner and be upfront with her. Like I said, she will appreciate this much more than constantly wondering what you are doing on the computer when she is not looking and this throws doubts and suspicions in her mind which will only grow larger until there is a real problem in your personal relationship with her.

Yep, just tell her matter of factly...what she gonna do? Take your birthday away? Truly, she will understand if you put in terms she can relate to...she buys clothes, perfumes, jewelry and stff for herself to enjoy and you do this to enjoy (Just a scenerio thing) Just tell her...because she could become your champion if she knew what you were doing...and wouldn't it be nice to let a a huge howl when you hit something nice and get her involved and supporting?

I bet, she would have helped you get that money you won instead of letting you spend it all back..that is what we are here for...to have your back..My husband doesn't play as much as I do but when he wins...I hear it down the hallway all the way in the den while watching tv..then he comes out and demands...(in a loving way of course) for me to do what I need to do to get his money "outta there". I love that phrase.. And he doesn't know where to start , he is still a newbie to this and thank goodness he does not play much...it is not his "thing" but he does enjoy a dabble or two...

So tell her, you might be surprised, she might already know but isn't letting on..waiting for you to spill it..

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[Mavin1]

Just want to add one more thought, the practice of deception can be reciprocated. How would you feel about it then?

 

[tat00]

HAVE WE NOT LEARNED ANYTHING FROM THIS THREAD?

to the guy who said grow some balls- if you seen my wife you would cry like a baby when she gets pissed off. you must not had arguments over the silliest things to your wife have you?

all i am saying is that women are controlling when it comes to finances weather you gamble, shopping, or paying bills . i never to this day have seen a man actually telling his wife " ok honey here is 50 dollars go do your nails" only to get an answer "WHAT THATS IT. i need 20 dollar tip i need pedicure also, i might do my hair" TELL ME can you respond by saying no i dont think so that is to much for hair and stuff. do what i do go to barber for 6 bucks

it would be world war 3 at this house if that ever happens

 

[Mavin1]

HAVE WE NOT LEARNED ANYTHING FROM THIS THREAD?

to the guy who said grow some balls- if you seen my wife you would cry like a baby when she gets pissed off. you must not had arguments over the silliest things to your wife have you?

all i am saying is that women are controlling when it comes to finances weather you gamble, shopping, or paying bills . i never to this day have seen a man actually telling his wife " ok honey here is 50 dollars go do your nails" only to get an answer "WHAT THATS IT. i need 20 dollar tip i need pedicure also, i might do my hair" TELL ME can you respond by saying no i dont think so that is to much for hair and stuff. do what i do go to barber for 6 bucks

it would be world war 3 at this house if that ever happens

Funny Tatoo! Actually I guess you're correct to, we women can be pretty darned frightening some times, hell I have even scared myself a time or two. So your points are valid as well.

 

[skiny]

I learned a long time ago what the best way is to keep secrets from my wife. I divorced her.

Healthy relationships should be built on trust. It takes years to earn someone’s trust and seconds to lose it. Omissions of facts are still deceptions. What she doesn’t know can hurt her. It can also come back later to bite you in the ass as well.

If your wife doesn’t want you gambling because you can’t afford it then she’s well within her right to complain. If she feels it’s a waste of money then give her an equal amount of money waste. Find some common ground. If her beliefs are that gambling is a sin then you have to decide if gambling is important enough to be a sinner in her eyes.

I could never understand the necessity for deception in a relationship. We make up terms like “little white lies” or call them “fibs” but lies are lies. The grey area we wander around in between honesty and deception is the breeding ground for trouble.

Then the question comes either consciously or subconsciously, if my mate is willing to lie about something as meaningless as this, what if it’s something important? How do we decide when it’s important to be honest and when it’s ok to deceive?

I know from experience that when people have lied to me in the past there is always a doubt that they are being honest in the future. This may be fine if you’re listening to stories over your neighbor’s fence or discussing your last fishing trip with your buddies but it’s certainly not the feeling I want to have with my mate.

Of course this is all just my opinion and the fact that I’m single probably means I may not be the best person to be giving advice on relationships.

By the way, if your wife catches you minimizing or closing programs or closing your laptop when she tries to see what you’re doing she might start to suspect you’re doing something online far worse than gambling. And that’s one seed you do not want to plant.

Good luck.

 

[tat00]

lol on my way home today i saw a guy with cardbox box on the corner

sign said
wife took it all please donate to the mens club of america.

i dies laughing when i saw that i had to rush home to post this

 

[5250phil]

well im quite glad i didnt take any advise and tell her and share any winnings with her

luck was on my side tonight

so a treat is coming her way not half of winnings lol

 

[tat00]

good for you phil - doing the right thing man .