Nifty29
Dormant account
- Joined
- Jun 20, 2001
Since the topic has changed, I thought I address it a little.
Forums are just like real life in many ways. Posting something in a forum is tantamount to sending a mass email to thousands of people you mostly don't know, or putting up a big sign in the high street. Sometimes we forget this, and I include myself in that too.
When you post about something that happened to you, or about something you did, you will always get varying kinds of responses. Some will agree, some will not, some will not agree but empathize, some ill think you're silly, etc etc.
My point is that IF you are going to post something like I described above, and in this case it was basically "I played at a known rogue and got shafted", then it is going to produce the full gamut of opinions...especially so since rogue casinos are an emotional topic for most players, particularly those who have been around a while.
Interestingly, the two members who actually addressed the OP (chu and I) pretty much said the same thing i.e. that we couldn't believe that someone with who has been around so long would play at such a dodgy casino. The difference was in the expression, and that I went a little further....and some did not like what I said, especially the OP.
When someone posts something you don't like, you have choices:
1. Ignore it.
2. Respond with counter argument/s
3. Respond with personal insults
4. Report it
In my experience, only 3. will ever get you into trouble.
Some people had an issue with what I said...the only part I can see where some problem might arise with some is the "some people don't listen or use their brains". I don't see a personal insult there.....I sometimes don't use my brains, as I'm sure others don't either...it doesn't mean I am calling the person "stupid" or making a sweeping personal assessment of them. I simply gave my OPINION about what the OP posted in the PUBLIC forum about the DECISION they made. I didn't know the OP at all beforehand....although I have a better picture now.
It seems some members think that I go around throwing personal insults at people trying to make them feel bad for kicks. What I actually do is give my personal opinion about the situation, without the fluff and bubbles. I try very hard to avoid juvenile name calling, and my posting history will show that to be accurate. In person, I actually go out of my way to avoid hurting ANYONE for ANY reason....even though I do give my honest opinion to everyone who asks. The way I type doesn't always carry across my emotions, because I try to keep to the issues at hand and not make every post 28 paragraphs.
Bottom line....post within the rules and there is no problem. I've received suspensions etc over the years, and they were deserved at the time. If members think that how I post is unacceptable, then ask Bryan to change the rules etc. Also, on the topic of hurting people, if I posted here some of the things that have been said to me via PM over the years...for no good reason 99.9% of the time other than I didn't agree with that person's POV....you would be quite amazed. I've learned to brush it off nowadays, but I am very sure that many of you would be extremely unnerved if these things has been said to you e.g. doing things to my children, wife etc, tracking me down and burning my house..and some from my fellow countrymen. I know some of you won't give a toss...which is fine...but I just don't want reasonable people to think that I am without feeling and try to upset people for a hobby. If I upset you....PM me and I will most likely apologise, as my intention is seldom to upset people.,,,it's possible I didn't even realise it.
RE: The last post:
There is a HUGE difference between calling someone "stupid" or a "stupid xxxxxxx" or whatever other childish insult, and having an opinion that someone made a poor decision. The comment was about the DECISION to play at this clipjoint, NOT about the mental capacity of the OP. As I said...he's not the only one to "not use their brains" at times. It is interesting to note that he exception the OP took with my comments was that I was basically re-iterating that he made a poor choice....it was THIS that he didn't like, not the comment (well he didn't mention it anyway).
Still, I know it's not about my actually comments or their context for a handful of people. It's just about...nah it's not worth it.
Forums are just like real life in many ways. Posting something in a forum is tantamount to sending a mass email to thousands of people you mostly don't know, or putting up a big sign in the high street. Sometimes we forget this, and I include myself in that too.
When you post about something that happened to you, or about something you did, you will always get varying kinds of responses. Some will agree, some will not, some will not agree but empathize, some ill think you're silly, etc etc.
My point is that IF you are going to post something like I described above, and in this case it was basically "I played at a known rogue and got shafted", then it is going to produce the full gamut of opinions...especially so since rogue casinos are an emotional topic for most players, particularly those who have been around a while.
Interestingly, the two members who actually addressed the OP (chu and I) pretty much said the same thing i.e. that we couldn't believe that someone with who has been around so long would play at such a dodgy casino. The difference was in the expression, and that I went a little further....and some did not like what I said, especially the OP.
When someone posts something you don't like, you have choices:
1. Ignore it.
2. Respond with counter argument/s
3. Respond with personal insults
4. Report it
In my experience, only 3. will ever get you into trouble.
Some people had an issue with what I said...the only part I can see where some problem might arise with some is the "some people don't listen or use their brains". I don't see a personal insult there.....I sometimes don't use my brains, as I'm sure others don't either...it doesn't mean I am calling the person "stupid" or making a sweeping personal assessment of them. I simply gave my OPINION about what the OP posted in the PUBLIC forum about the DECISION they made. I didn't know the OP at all beforehand....although I have a better picture now.
It seems some members think that I go around throwing personal insults at people trying to make them feel bad for kicks. What I actually do is give my personal opinion about the situation, without the fluff and bubbles. I try very hard to avoid juvenile name calling, and my posting history will show that to be accurate. In person, I actually go out of my way to avoid hurting ANYONE for ANY reason....even though I do give my honest opinion to everyone who asks. The way I type doesn't always carry across my emotions, because I try to keep to the issues at hand and not make every post 28 paragraphs.
Bottom line....post within the rules and there is no problem. I've received suspensions etc over the years, and they were deserved at the time. If members think that how I post is unacceptable, then ask Bryan to change the rules etc. Also, on the topic of hurting people, if I posted here some of the things that have been said to me via PM over the years...for no good reason 99.9% of the time other than I didn't agree with that person's POV....you would be quite amazed. I've learned to brush it off nowadays, but I am very sure that many of you would be extremely unnerved if these things has been said to you e.g. doing things to my children, wife etc, tracking me down and burning my house..and some from my fellow countrymen. I know some of you won't give a toss...which is fine...but I just don't want reasonable people to think that I am without feeling and try to upset people for a hobby. If I upset you....PM me and I will most likely apologise, as my intention is seldom to upset people.,,,it's possible I didn't even realise it.
RE: The last post:
There is a HUGE difference between calling someone "stupid" or a "stupid xxxxxxx" or whatever other childish insult, and having an opinion that someone made a poor decision. The comment was about the DECISION to play at this clipjoint, NOT about the mental capacity of the OP. As I said...he's not the only one to "not use their brains" at times. It is interesting to note that he exception the OP took with my comments was that I was basically re-iterating that he made a poor choice....it was THIS that he didn't like, not the comment (well he didn't mention it anyway).
Still, I know it's not about my actually comments or their context for a handful of people. It's just about...nah it's not worth it.