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What life? Keep getting screwed and can't get anywhere and keep getting treated like crap. I can't find a girlfriend even though I am like the last decent guy left and that's been mega stress trying to get someone to give me a chance, I am on the verge of being homeless as I am single and can't pay the high rents and can't get a house cause of the stupid rules here and really have nothing.

Honestly, the only thing or people I have is you guy's and your post's here that back me up in what I am saying is helping so thank you.

It's all a matter of perspective. Some people would think you're in the perfect position. No ties, no relationship, no shackles - the world is your oyster. You can create a new path for yourself. It takes guts, but if you were adventurous, you could drop everything and go volunteering somewhere else in the world. Have new experiences, meet new people. You'll be given somewhere to live and fed for work. Material things aren't important. happiness and health are. You need to nurture both of those things for yourself, otherwise what else is there?.

Look forward not back, your current issue is constraining you. I can't tell you what to do, only you know that, but I think you need someone to help to work out what that is. A Coach could help you get your thinking straight and onto a more positive path.
 
Wow what an abysmal situation to be in! We forget a majority of our time is spent at work so when something like this happens it can have a massive impact on our lives and not only at work but it can carry over into our personal lives too as stress and worry has a huge impact on how our bodies/mind reacts.

It's a lowly human being who finds this acceptable and can sit back and do nothing whilst you obviously have a massive fight on your hands but the main priority has to be your health - you are still youngish, have no ties so I would be looking to start afresh, new place to live, new job and new friends. I know it's easier to say and do but options can be limitless if you have the time and inclination to do so.

I really hope life improves for you, one step at a time :)
 
Have not played gemix in quite awhile as I play reactoonz now.

I have sent a resume out if I have not said that already, Saw another supervisor position today but I know nothing about the stuff they sell. At least it's making me happy that I am trying to find something new. Still looking at own like side business as looking on shopify at stores for sale but should read up on the facebook advertising and such.
 
More bad news, The kind of places I was looking at are a no go for my own place unless it's not on leased land. So my options are very limited for a place to live. Not all bad as I can use what I was going to use for down payment for first/last and furniture and stuff.

The only thing I can hope for is I do get like my own business that is doing good and making the profit every month, Success is the greatest revenge so I can go hey look at all the people who wanted to screw me, I am making money and doing well, right? So if that happens and say I am still working at a different job than that will turn my life around right there.
 
I wish I was in a stronger position to advise you further Geoff, however my knowledge on these matters are very limited :o

All I can say is try and relax and find somethings to take your mind off it from time to time to prevent it consuming you. I also wish you the very best in sorting things out and soon :D
 
Trying for the 3rd time to get like stress leave, Got doctor's appt June 5th and waiting to get an answer from the insurance company about the form. Also emailed another lawyer and waiting for an answer back but not holding my breath I will even get one.

Most likely if I do take a leave it will be unpaid and think you can only get a month max.
 
Are you stressed from slots? Stressed from playing Bonanza? Just stressed period?

Here is my new store, Work in progress as want to get a couple things and more products on there before I get into the marketing side but some stuff bebo could use,lol.

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Pretty nice, only thing stopping me purchasing is a distinct lack on the beach front. And no, Margate doesn't count :D
 
More women in bikini's, got it. :p

Offensive! Sexist! Do you know how hard our PM has worked to take this sort of thinking and targeting out of Canada? Its like...pretty much all he's ever done
 
It's all a matter of perspective. Some people would think you're in the perfect position. No ties, no relationship, no shackles - the world is your oyster. You can create a new path for yourself. It takes guts, but if you were adventurous, you could drop everything and go volunteering somewhere else in the world. Have new experiences, meet new people. You'll be given somewhere to live and fed for work. Material things aren't important. happiness and health are. You need to nurture both of those things for yourself, otherwise what else is there?.

Look forward not back, your current issue is constraining you. I can't tell you what to do, only you know that, but I think you need someone to help to work out what that is. A Coach could help you get your thinking straight and onto a more positive path.

Funny how the financially stable tend to come out with that one. (not speculation about you Neil BTW, just generally!)

Old Chinese proverb: "When poverty walks in, love walks out."

It's hard to find love with no funds to support or begin a relationship, with no stable home etc. Then, as SM says, your confidence in that area is affected by your everyday circumstances. Sometimes it all looks black and overwhelming and whichever way you try and be optimistic the cards are sometimes stacked against you.

It's basically a case from what I read of sorting first employment issues, then accommodation and with the easing of stress those should bring the third objective of a special person which would inevitably become easier with the new more relaxed and confident persona.

It won't be easy, but it will happen.
 
Funny how the financially stable tend to come out with that one. (not speculation about you Neil BTW, just generally!)

Maybe that's true Dunover, but not in my case. I've been through dark times, lost loved ones and seen lives destroyed through illness. It's taught me some valuable lessons. As you get older it's easier to see what's important, but very difficult to pass on those lessons to people who have not yet had those experiences. Did you ever listen to your parents?, I know I didn't. lol.

When you're in dark times it's difficult to find a way out on your own, you do need help. The best help I've found is a coach, someone who doesn't tell you what to do or how to do it, but helps you identify what the real issues are and what you can do about it. The first bit about identifying the real issues is the most difficult bit to do. It takes someone trained to ask the right questions at the right time to unearth them. What presents as the initial problem could actually be caused by something completely different and if that was resolved the first issue might just disappear.

My advice is go to the doctors and ask for a referral to see a coach / counselor to help him through this.
 
Just added the destressed coffee line.
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For any coffee drinkers. :)
 
Pretty nice, only thing stopping me purchasing is a distinct lack on the beach front. And no, Margate doesn't count :D


More of a beach theme for you, Well like a beach hut background it's called. :). On opening topic just about to go to the dr's and see about a little time off, I am having continuous like chest pain now. Doubt insurance/disability will cover income if I do take time off and it's only like 3-4weeks I think I read but will see.
 
So went to dr's, Got 4 weeks off but still have to deliver the news to the employer tomorrow so don't know how that's going to go cause you know they don't follow the law. I sent off my insurance paperwork and the dr sending his part to the insurance company so will see. Blood pressure was a lil high and I have to go and get tests done on the chest pain part just to be safe along with some other stuff but it gives me some time away from the stress hellhole I work in, Won't be 100 percent away from the stress.
 
Are you stressed from slots? Stressed from playing Bonanza? Just stressed period?

Here is my new store, Work in progress as want to get a couple things and more products on there before I get into the marketing side but some stuff bebo could use,lol.

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Wow, the site's come on a lot since I last went there. You're quite a dab hand at this, aren't you :thumbsup:
 
Wow, the site's come on a lot since I last went there. You're quite a dab hand at this, aren't you :thumbsup:


Oh thank you. :) Well not totally, The design was by a pro though I did some minor coding but still trying to get a couple minor things up to par. I sent some free stuff to a youtuber to see if I can get like a shout out in one of their video's, Also working on getting a headphone supplier that I worked with couple years ago just waiting to see if they will approve me for their program. That along with the newest product's I am trying to get more like Canada, Usa located stuff for better shipping.
 
And maybe to put an ending to my story, More bad news as not much time left for my dad, He can't do it anymore and told us to prepare. This could be the final thing for me as I can't live like this either, Can't get a female to give me a chance, can't get employers to give me a chance or find a good one, Can't get anything to work out for me and more haters the last few days which was on my last lil bit of enjoyment in life and the one hater was going on about my parents and I told him well beepn beep my dad is on his last days, And then tonight like same thing as I am going through this, Like what is wrong with human beings these days!

Anyway, I don't have anyone and kinda you guys is all I have. I am also out of ideas on what to do as I can't really go work 2 jobs again as I am exhausted from the one I am at and with my health, I am out of ideas how to make extra money as everything I tried has not worked out especially the last year so I just don't know.............
 
So sorry to hear about your struggle with life slotmaster. It seems you've had more than a fair share to deal with lately.

I know this might sound like a hackneyed thing to say, but don't give up. Try to find anything positive, even the smallest thing, and focus on that. What ever you do, don't shut down and keep it all to yourself.

Keep posting updates here. There's always someone around to talk to. At least you can air some of the troubles, which is always a positive thing in itself.

Hang in there slotmaster.
 
Well just had an incident, My dad fell. I was watching youtube (which is the last bit of happiness I have and even that is getting stressful) with my headphones on and a family member rushed up to get me, I mean it's not a surprise cause he sits all day. So that's the bad, The good is finally my mom got a leave of absence from work so she will be home as someone needs to be home, I was going to get ugly and put my foot down on that. I talked to my supervisor and he said we can talk about getting me some time off when he gets back in a week so will see what comes of that. My dad seems a bit perkier when someone is around.
 
And maybe to put an ending to my story, More bad news as not much time left for my dad, He can't do it anymore and told us to prepare. This could be the final thing for me as I can't live like this either, Can't get a female to give me a chance, can't get employers to give me a chance or find a good one, Can't get anything to work out for me and more haters the last few days which was on my last lil bit of enjoyment in life and the one hater was going on about my parents and I told him well beepn beep my dad is on his last days, And then tonight like same thing as I am going through this, Like what is wrong with human beings these days!

Anyway, I don't have anyone and kinda you guys is all I have. I am also out of ideas on what to do as I can't really go work 2 jobs again as I am exhausted from the one I am at and with my health, I am out of ideas how to make extra money as everything I tried has not worked out especially the last year so I just don't know.............

 
Aaaaaand more problems online today, What is wrong with people these days? I have been working on getting away from online sites and closing stuff this past weekend and tonight but still can't get away from the bs. I just want to go back to simpler times, Turned on my t.v. and ps4 for the first time in a while though.
 
So to add to the human race is a disgrace, Besides bebo tantrum and what I described above, Got berated at the door of my employer and called a a-hole 3 times by my wonderful co-workers cause they had to do work as I am off now and the day I have to make arrangements for and what we are going to do for a funeral etc etc etc as the time has come pretty much. Yesterday while at work after getting no sleep everybody wanted to be in a mood and take it out on other's which I don't understand how you can't be a decent human being in that regard, Even dealing with a dying father and up half the night I still did not take it out on anyone!

Anyway not sure if my trip next Tuesday is happening and had a treatment appointment for myself next Thursday which don't know if that is going to happen.
 
I hope you'll find another workplace soon, Slotmaster. A cool place where you feel welcome and appreciated (also in monetary terms).:)


After everything gets settled the search will begin again, This was only a few bad ones, Had a couple good ones talk with me. Right now I can get time off so that is basically why I am staying but it is ridiculous well here anyway what employers want. They only care about references and won't even talk with you if you don't have any or the number of them they want. Don't matter about experience or whatever they only care about references which is dumb in my opinion.
 
Yes, I'd say references will not always tell the whole truth and may also leave plenty of room for favouritism. In the (now distant) past I was fortunate to have worked for a few inspiring and friendly directors who even allowed me to write my own reference letter, lol (up to 2 times). Admittedly, I had worked several years in these positions so I'd like to think these references were valid enough.

But I have been laid off once at a firm where an official letter of reference was later provided by HR. Still, this was done in a proper manner.

It may also create an unfairly large dependency on the manager you're working for. A proper company would have HR involved to take care of those things in case things go south on the workfloor. Can't you get someone from HR to write a proper letter of reference?
 
Thanks to all for the wishes and to anyone else that comes by as it's a lil crazy busy as you can imagine and just dropping in on the down time on here. It was his birthday today. I had to go for an emergency minor surgery this morning as the pain from an issue I had was too much as it flared up Saturday night so half my face is taped up. Headed off to get his stuff from the place he was at then to the funeral home.
 
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss Geoff. My most sincere condolences go out to you.

Your family needs you just as much as you need them right now. I know it's going to be as tough as hell, but take care and be strong.

Thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time, buddy.
 

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