I never knew until now

[Luigi810]

One thing i do know is this site or any other gambling site is NOT THE SOURCE.few days away from glambling feeling good and comes on here feeling strong and all of a sudden "wow" a 200% bonus " ill just ....you know the rest ..www.gamblock.com is also a source more worthwhile diane ...you will never ever get better visiting here or anyother gambling sites i assure you 100%...please please take this as gospel...

Alexishot69, believe me when I tell you, I know all to well about those 200% bonuses and the "ill just" . I played at every micrograming casino out there, not to mention RTG casinos and so on, I think I knew before everyone when a new casino was opening up, I don't even look at those bonuses when I sign on, I run right to my friends and look so forward to reading what people have to say, like I said before, right now I have my friends here and I couldn't ask for anything more. I took note of the other sites out there for help, thats another reason I love it here, if my friends didn't tell me, like yourself, I wouldn't know where to turn if this site doesn't help me. Again I say thank you.

 

[bb28]

To sum it up.........It is Diane's decision as to the question if this is a good place for her.....right now she feels it is, so let's be supportive and be her friend. Many have extended their hand by offering her their email address and such, so she does not have to come here if she so chooses. So let's let it rest about should she or shouldn't she.

I'd also like to let you know Diane that you can contact me also......at my email address in my profile.

 

[Alexishot69]

gee

To sum it up.........It is Diane's decision as to the question if this is a good place for her.....right now she feels it is, so let's be supportive and be her friend. Many have extended their hand by offering her their email address and such, so she does not have to come here if she so chooses. So let's let it rest about should she or shouldn't she.

I'd also like to let you know Diane that you can contact me also......at my email address in my profile.

of course its dianes decision BUT if you wanted to help her you would bedoing as i am doing in telling her coming here or any gambling site is a seriously BAD IDEA...

 

[Luigi810]

To sum it up.........It is Diane's decision as to the question if this is a good place for her.....right now she feels it is, so let's be supportive and be her friend. Many have extended their hand by offering her their email address and such, so she does not have to come here if she so chooses. So let's let it rest about should she or shouldn't she.

I'd also like to let you know Diane that you can contact me also......at my email address in my profile.

The reason I like talking on here rather than email is because there are some people who have been confiding in me about their personal gambling additions and they are afraid to talk openly, and if I can help one person by my story it would mean the world to me, don't get me wrong, I would love emails and to email people but I want to make sure it doesn't stop on this thread.
Thanks so so much for all your support....

 

[Alexishot69]

GA is where I belong

The reason I like talking on here rather than email is because there are some people who have been confiding in me about their personal gambling additions and they are afraid to talk openly, and if I can help one person by my story it would mean the world to me, don't get me wrong, I would love emails and to email people but I want to make sure it doesn't stop on this thread.
Thanks so so much for all your support....

Diane no disrespect but the first 3 wrods u used on here was "GA is where I belong" and obviously you believe that having written it right???? now you go to GA and tell them you frequent a gambling porta;l which casinomeister is and what do you think they will say??? and why do you think they will say it???? i sadly dont believe youvve reached rock bottom yet cos if u had you would never want to have anything to do with gambling or gambling sites ever again and thats just not the case...i wish u well but sadly i fear the worst...

 

[bb28]

of course its dianes decision BUT if you wanted to help her you would bedoing as i am doing in telling her coming here or any gambling site is a seriously BAD IDEA...

Again.......I'm not encouraging her to come here and I don't see anyone else doing that either.......and if you'd read my 1st post in this thread, I told her it would be good to uninstall all casino's, unsubscribe from all emails. I stopped short of telling her to not come here because of the Support she is getting and also as she pointed out, perhaps her story is helping someone else to realize that they have a problem.

We are trying to support her and if she CHOOSES to come here, it's up to her. I suspect when she gets past the 1st few big hurdles that she will most likely not come here.

You've made your point.....in post after post, so why not just let it rest? You stated that you are NOT a qualified professional and since that is the case.........

 

[mojo]

I feel like I got so much off my chest, so much pressure is gone, It was great today when I woke up and didn't have to be at the bank before it even opened.

Gawd, I been there. I used to have to set my alarm to get to the bank as soon as it opened, my mind racing to figure out where I would move the money from. I thank God I don't have to do that anymore!

Give yourself a pat on the back Diane. One day at a time!

 

[Luigi810]

Diane no disrespect but the first 3 wrods u used on here was "GA is where I belong" and obviously you believe that having written it right???? now you go to GA and tell them you frequent a gambling porta;l which casinomeister is and what do you think they will say??? and why do you think they will say it???? i sadly dont believe youvve reached rock bottom yet cos if u had you would never want to have anything to do with gambling or gambling sites ever again and thats just not the case...i wish u well but sadly i fear the worst...

YES, I did say GA is where I need to be, UNTIL I found my friends, And this is not a gambling site, have you ever stopped to think that maybe GOD brought me here for a reason, afterall it was by accident, and I'm not just getting myself help I am helping others and that makes me feel great especially at a time I feel so low, you make me feel so bad like I'm doing something wrong, you feel the worst for me? thanks for giving up on me when I just started, I thought you were trying to help.
Casinomeister helped me, they helped me realize I had a problem and I found so many friends and they are helping me, I know your trying to help but at the same time your giving up on me, this is all new to me too. you get my stomach so nervous everytime you write, you make me feel like I'm taking peoples time up and now your argueing with people to make your point, I need these people, don't push them away argueing. please

 

[babs7262]

Alexis

All due respect....If you took the time to REALLY read what Diane is saying or what she said in the beginning you would get it.

Diane came on casinomeister to complain about a casino not realizing she had a problem (or did but was in denial until it smacked her in the face). While she was looking for the correct thread to post , she ran into some troubling stories of people getting ripped off (as she put it) or not getting paid. That led her to the GA page to casinomeister because she thought "OMG, maybe my husband is right, maybe I do have a problem"

Instead of just leaving casinomeister, she decided that NOW (her first post) was the time to come clean while she still had the courage. Diane's intention was NOT to get her support from here. Her intention was to leave a post to vent and go find some help. BUT ALAS.....we are caring human beings who took her under our wings and decided to help her through this crisis and give her the attention she needed NOW.

Since then, I have gotten several and sent several pm's to get to know each other better and give each other support. We have alot in common as far as other parts of our lives. This made her feel comfortable so she kept responding to the several wonderful people in this community. This woman is no dummy, she knows this isnt the perfect place to recover but right NOW it is for her.

Can you just accept that fact and not stress her out more than she already is please? She will take what route that suits her best just like with drugs, some ppl can do outpatient and some need inpatient. For right now, she needs US , not the gambling advice, its the people in the site she needs

 

[suzecat]

IMHO Diane is the only "Diane" expert who has come forward...........I'll bet she makes her own good choices.

 

[anniemac]

Oh so correct.

And we will be there to support her if she wants it.

 

[mojo]

Oh so correct.

And we will be there to support her if she wants it.

That's for sure. There is a very caring group rooting for your here.

If you are nervous about getting professional help, you can call GA anonymously on the phone. They are warm and understanding. If you are not ready to meet, they will send you liturature in the mail if you like. You have taken the first step and there is trained professionals available to you that I don't think we can provide here if you feel overwhelmed.

God Bless.

 

[mollypenny]

Luigi, it takes a brave person to admit they have an addiction. You sound like a very strong person and I have all the faith in the world that you will work it out. Gambling is an addiction maybe stronger for some then others. I will take light of what you have said to work on my own problem. Thank you so much for that post.

 

[zebedy]

it makes you wonder how many of us have a gambling problem but wont admit it,
hats off to diane for firstly admitting it then having the bottle to write about it,
as well as coming here to share your experience i think GA is the only way you can beat the addiction, most ppl here probably dont want to stop gambling but with GA meetings everybody is in the same boat,

 

[classymom]

I think help can come from a lot of different places, and what works for some may not others. I have an addictive personality which has to be watched and monitored a lot. I once had a drug addiction which I can say I proudly overcame and was done without the help of Professional help ( per say) My help came from a few good friends who was there for for me and knew what a hard time I was going through from their own experience. So lets let Dianne decide where her help comes from

 

[BingoT]

We all can say what's the best way to go.But you do have professional help that has great support that will guide you all the way to recovery.
All I have to say is just remember your loved one's that they will be on your side all the way to a happier life.
Also remember you have friends all around the World that will help.
It's like my bus trips I do to Foxwoods or the Mohegan Sun Casino If I know someone has a problem with any type of gambling I will refuse them to come on my bus.
I always think of the family life first.and that your everyday living expenses are always paid.and my family is healthy.
Again I have to say to you Diane I wish you the very best with a happier life that comes your way.
God Bless You & Be Proud that your taking that first step of recovery.
B-T (Tom)
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[Luigi810]

When I think about going to GA I feel ashamed, I don't think I can talk at one of those me meetings eithers, I would just lose it and the guilt would feel worse not to mention if I had to remember all I've spent, these last few days talking with my friends on here give me good thoughts, thoughts I can make it and I don't sit here and think about all I've done wrong and who I hurt,
even though it's only 4 days, which believe it or not is like a year for me, I don't think about gambling AT ALL, I run on here to see who wrote me and who I can help. I have something else to look forward to rather than a poker machine, I don't want to think bad thoughts any more, I just want to move on and I hope I remain this way, The pain I felt the day I realized I was a gambler is the worst pain I felt in a long time, I don't want to hate myself anymore. I don't hate myself right now, I dislike me and soon with the strength of god I will love myself again.

Luigi, it takes a brave person to admit they have an addiction. You sound like a very strong person and I have all the faith in the world that you will work it out. Gambling is an addiction maybe stronger for some then others. I will take light of what you have said to work on my own problem. Thank you so much for that post.

it makes you wonder how many of us have a gambling problem but wont admit it,
hats off to diane for firstly admitting it then having the bottle to write about it,
as well as coming here to share your experience i think GA is the only way you can beat the addiction, most ppl here probably dont want to stop gambling but with GA meetings everybody is in the same boat,

I think help can come from a lot of different places, and what works for some may not others. I have an addictive personality which has to be watched and monitored a lot. I once had a drug addiction which I can say I proudly overcame and was done without the help of Professional help ( per say) My help came from a few good friends who was there for for me and knew what a hard time I was going through from their own experience. So lets let Dianne decide where her help comes from

We all can say what's the best way to go.But you do have professional help that has great support that will guide you all the way to recovery.
All I have to say is just remember your loved one's that they will be on your side all the way to a happier life.
Also remember you have friends all around the World that will help.
It's like my bus trips I do to Foxwoods or the Mohegan Sun Casino If I know someone has a problem with any type of gambling I will refuse them to come on my bus.
I always think of the family life first.and that your everyday living expenses are always paid.and my family is healthy.
Again I have to say to you Diane I wish you the very best with a happier life that comes your way.
God Bless You & Be Proud that your taking that first step of recovery.
B-T (Tom)
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[Alexishot69]

ive taken

ive taken 24 hrs to digest this whole thread and for the life of me i am at a lost to explain sme peoples opinions of what exactly it means to be a compulsive gambler..type "casinomeister" into google and you read this

"Online casinos that you can trust. Casinomeister provides online casino and gambling information and is considered the top watchdog of this industry."

Now forgive me if i am totally wrong here but surely to god anyone with a gambling problem would be much better spending there time at GAMCARE ,type that into google and it reads

"GamCare, gambling addiction, gambling problems help, support and ...
GamCare provides support, information and advice to anyone suffering through a gambling problem."

Now once again forgive me if i am wrong but if you have a gambling addiction which you admit is destroying you which word do you type into google????
Anyone and i mean anyone who disagrees with this then im sorry you have absolutely no concept of what a gambling addiction is and what steps you need to take for recovery..Gamblock a progra that can seriously help someone is the sort of site that diane should be using and i gurantee type casinomeister website into that and it will block why?? because its a site that predominatly promotes gambling and its a great site for those of us that have no problems.

To suggest that it woul dbe a help to diane to help her out by coming on here then sorry thats just wrong 100% totally wrong..if anyone wants t help diane irrespective of her wishes then to help her would be doing what i am doing and pointing her in the direction of gamcare etc etc. on every single page on this site theres banners promoting casinos and its like waving a glass of beer in front of a alcoholic...if diane was an alcoholic would you invite her to a pub t ohelp her??? NO of course you wouldnt...im gonna email casinomeister himself regarding this post cos i care for diane like everyone but i certainly woul dnever ever tell her coming to this site will aid her recovery BECAUSE IT WILL NEVER do that...

As i mentioned in a earlier post i am a social worker so have insight into what i am talking about here and one of the first steps to recovery is taking away ALL TEMPTATIONS irrespective of the addiction.And anyone with the slightest bit f grey matter will know the temptations here are plentiful..i just cannot believe some of what i have read on this thread to be honest it makes literally no logical sense.this of course will infuriate some people but shouldnt because anyone who knows about addictions would wholeheartedly agree with me...alex

 

[suzecat]

Alex............you have been arguing your point so strenuously that I am beginning to wonder if you have a gambling problem and are in serious denial? After all, you hang out here at Casinomeister..........so according to your logic, we are all problem gamblers whose only hope of recovery is to quit visiting this site and throw ourselves in the hands of GA for salvation........is that about correct?

 

[silcnlayc]

I smoked since I was eight (1962) and my fathers Pall Mall and Lucky Strikes (unfiltered) were absolutely delicious to me...right up until I decided to quit. (1999). I went to the doctors for "Help". I asked what I could do to stop smoking. I was put on drugs to help curb my "addiction". I chewed the gum, I took the patches I did it all....I took the drugs as directed, got horrendous headaches and quit after 7 days. I tried the next month again...failed..nothing the "doctor" said could help me. Here is a professional that does this for a living helping others such as me on addictions..

I continued to smoke until one evening I sat there puffing away and had a panic attack but in my mind I was having a "heart" attack....I quit that MOMENT! Not another cigarett to this day and it was Feb 2000....I still remember it like yesterday..I am around smoke all day and all night (my husband still smokes) and does it make me want one? Absolutley not!

The reason I am saying this is because one must be ready within themselves to bite the bullet..and nothing or no one will or can make another do anything they are not ready for. Being around smoke in no way makes me want one...just as being around drinking/gambling etc will make one do it if they have a mindset of not..even a doctor couldn't make me do what was needed, with words/ support/drugs until I was ready....Just as Diane will know when she is ready and what better place to be than with friends helping her in the "right" direction?

 

[classymom]

I smoked since I was eight (1962) and my fathers Pall Mall and Lucky Strikes (unfiltered) were absolutely delicious to me...right up until I decided to quit. (1999). I went to the doctors for "Help". I asked what I could do to stop smoking. I was put on drugs to help curb my "addiction". I chewed the gum, I took the patches I did it all....I took the drugs as directed, got horrendous headaches and quit after 7 days. I tried the next month again...failed..nothing the "doctor" said could help me. Here is a professional that does this for a living helping others such as me on addictions..

I continued to smoke until one evening I sat there puffing away and had a panic attack but in my mind I was having a "heart" attack....I quit that MOMENT! Not another cigarett to this day and it was Feb 2000....I still remember it like yesterday..I am around smoke all day and all night (my husband still smokes) and does it make me want one? Absolutley not!

The reason I am saying this is because one must be ready within themselves to bite the bullet..and nothing or no one will or can make another do anything they are not ready for. Being around smoke in no way makes me want one...just as being around drinking/gambling etc will make one do it if they have a mindset of not..even a doctor couldn't make me do what was needed, with words/ support/drugs until I was ready....Just as Diane will know when she is ready and what better place to be than with friends helping her in the "right" direction?

I agree 100 % Professional help is great for some just not everyone - My addictions put me in rehab @ one point and this did not help - I was in denial I had a problem and just sat there listening to the professionals ( was going in one ear and out the other) I'm not knocking rehabs in any sense I think they are great for some people. It took me getting pregnant and a few close friends to kick my habit forever. I agree w/ the fact that once you realize there is a problem and you are willing to change, the help you get doesn't necessarily have to come from professionals. Even though this is a gambling forum, help can come from people who care about other people

 

[bryand]

The reason I am saying this is because one must be ready within themselves to bite the bullet..and nothing or no one will or can make another do anything they are not ready for. Being around smoke in no way makes me want one...just as being around drinking/gambling etc will make one do it if they have a mindset of not..even a doctor couldn't make me do what was needed, with words/ support/drugs until I was ready....

Never a truer word spoken!

I get tickled sometimes listening to social workers and therapists talking about what addiction is really like. They go to school, learn all the terms and believe they have the answers. But only an addict understands addiction. And in my experience, only an addict can help an addict (once the later is ready).

 

[classymom]

Never a truer word spoken!

I get tickled sometimes listening to social workers and therapists talking about what addiction is really like. They go to school, learn all the terms and believe they have the answers. But only an addict understands addiction. And in my experience, only an addict can help an addict (once the later is ready).

Amen

 

[winbig]

The thing is, most of the therapists I know have actually lived through a lot of the stuff they're counseling people on....if they haven't, they more than likely should switch jobs

 

[Luigi810]

Whats kills me is the most that Alex probably never had an addiction, no one knows what one goes through or what works for them unless they walked that road themselves. If this helps me why is it so important I go somewhere else, if I explained to you that if this site didn't work I would consider going to GA and I also explained why I didn't want to go to GA, I thank god every day that I found this site, at least it's helping me and maybe others, Why do you feel the need to contact casinomeister about this post, you act like I kill people for a living and I need to be stopped. Alex, if casinomeister blocks me then you should feel responsible for me not getting the help and support I need. 4 days clean and counting

Amen

Never a truer word spoken!

I get tickled sometimes listening to social workers and therapists talking about what addiction is really like. They go to school, learn all the terms and believe they have the answers. But only an addict understands addiction. And in my experience, only an addict can help an addict (once the later is ready).

The thing is, most of the therapists I know have actually lived through a lot of the stuff they're counseling people on....if they haven't, they more than likely should switch jobs

 

[babs7262]

Most of us in this thread are recovering addicts of some kind. Infact, in rehabs, your not even allowed to work there unless you are recovering. Noone can understand an addict like an addict...Bryan took the words right out of my mouth.

As far as pushing gam care, that might be good, im not saying she shouldnt try it or not, it's up to her BUT if you ask me....those meetings at NA/AA/GA are filled with alot of people who are chasing those meetings as much as they chased their addiction. I did my 90/90 and got out. The 90/90 really helped but to go every single day to remind me of my past every single day? I dont want that.

Ive passed up coke at bars and parties since my recovery, no problem. Im over it and it will never take up my head again and IF this is how diane wants to deal with her problem Alexis, leave her alone please. Now she's pming scared that she might get kicked out because of you saying your going to write Bryan when she really needs us right now.

If you try ANYTHING to get her kicked out, You are the most selfish uncaring person on this site. Whats good for others isnt always good for you. Let it be and BTW...I will write my own email to support her because she is not gambling because of us right now.Are you going to monitor McDonalds for fat ppl now too?

Therapists can often times be people who help other people because they dont want to face their own

 

[zebedy]

hi diane,
can i just ask, you said you didnt have a morgage or any debts, but you had to remorgage ect, where was your husband when all this was going on,
if my partner came to me saying honey i need to remorgage the house ect serious alarm bells would be ringing, id wonder wtf is going on, it just puzzles me how he didnt know something was wrong and try to put a stop to it before it got out of control

 

[anniemac]

Zebedy,

I am not speaking for Luigi810, just me. I can tell you it is plenty easy to put something by someone that loves you. And if you are an addict, of whatever kind, you get very good a hiding. So it is not beyond the realm of reality that a husband wasn't aware. Or maybe he loved her so much he didn't want to upset her.

Stranger things happen.

Luigi810, you go girl.

 

[j_l]

Once a gambler, always a gambler.

Unless you never gamble again.

Voila.

 

[silcnlayc]

zebedy: it just puzzles me how he didnt know something was wrong and try to put a stop to it before it got out of control

Interesting you would say this for in fact this was what I did (so many years ago, about 10-12 years ago) until I realized I put my family and home in jeopardy ...and owned up to the mess I created...

My husband's and my joke today is that when we go off to a casino and he sees me up on a machine he will walk over, grab my face, kiss me smack on my lips and then I know what's coming!!!

(Hes pushing the cashout button all the while hes kissing me each and every time) And you know what? I love his kisses so much, even in the throes of playing and gambling, I still welcome them and then we both look at each other as the ticket prints out...cracking up all the while..because of the people watching...knowing....you do not do these things to a gambler (the cashout button)

To this day, he knows this is what I needed...he is my anchor and he is there online for me too..and does the same thing...walks into the computer room, looks at the screen (when I am playing) grins, grabs my face...and you know the rest..It is a good thing when you have someone on your side..it is a good thing to tell all...honesty sometimes surprises you...helps you put things into perspective...and helps you ask for help...this was a deal we struck so many years ago and we still stand by it and it has helped strengthen our life and marriage even more so....never get angry over something so small and insignificant as gambling...once you understand what it is you need to control it...

 

[silcnlayc]

anniemac:Or maybe he loved her so much he didn't want to upset her

anniemac, you said it in less words than me (I rambled a tad )and hit the nail on the head...thank you!

Jus thad to say when I saw those initials all I could think of was "World of Luck" ???

 

[Luigi810]

It's so funny that you brought this up, I was talking to my husband just last night about this, he asked why I blamed him and this is why, he knew for years I was playing, he knew why we remortgaged 5 times and this was before we paid it off, he knew why all the credit cards were maxed out, he knew why there was never any extra money, he knew why we took out a mortgage on another house we own, that didn't have a mortgage on it, I could go on forever, he knew I had a problem, I didn't think so, I was having fun but then he hands me 600.000.00 thousand dollars and says don't gamble. Are you serious, when I told him I spent 100,000.00 on gambling he said promise me you won't do it any more, I promised, and then I told him I spent another 100,000.00 and he said "that's enough, then I told him I spent another 100,000.00 and he said if you don't stop I'm taking the money out of the bank, than I told him I spent another 200,000.00, he said Di, if you don't stop I am telling your family, then I spent 40,000.00 and told him I was through, I am going to invest the 60,000.00 left and make it up to him, he said ok, 2 months later we got a 40,000.00 mortgage out on my house again.
He still today never asked me if I have been playing. I told him last night I think it's because he seen how many times I won big and that he could always count on me gambling, never looking at all the times or money I lost.
I know it's my faut not his, but I get mad because if he knew I had a problem and I didn't see it why didn't he just take the money out of the bank.
He said to me last night he didn't say anything because he loves and trusted me and knows how much I love him and really thought I wouldn't gamble anymore when he told me not to. When we got this money I paid off the house, paid all credits cards etc, my husband even bought me a car, I told him to pay the car off don't trust me, what's he do, he puts 20,000.00 down and now I have a car payment and spent the rest of the money. I could tell you stories that would knock your socks off.

hi diane,
can i just ask, you said you didnt have a morgage or any debts, but you had to remorgage ect, where was your husband when all this was going on,
if my partner came to me saying honey i need to remorgage the house ect serious alarm bells would be ringing, id wonder wtf is going on, it just puzzles me how he didnt know something was wrong and try to put a stop to it before it got out of control

Zebedy,

I am not speaking for Luigi810, just me. I can tell you it is plenty easy to put something by someone that loves you. And if you are an addict, of whatever kind, you get very good a hiding. So it is not beyond the realm of reality that a husband wasn't aware. Or maybe he loved her so much he didn't want to upset her.

Stranger things happen.

Luigi810, you go girl.

 

[babs7262]

This is for the WOL lurkers

Do you not have enough to do but to make discussion of other posts from other forums? I dont see that in here.

Youre all in the koolaid and dont even know the flavor. You dont even know the first thing about "HER" (cant even get the sex right). And yes, I can walk in to a place where my addiction is and not partake because I have strong will, ever hear of it?

Its really sad that people in here are reaching out to help someone and all you can do is sit back and make fun. Why don't you say what's on your mind in here? Ohh, thats right, your banned. how ironic

I didnt say this in there because I lost my password and changed my email address but Im sure this message will get to your forum.

You should be ashamed of yourself. This person is not even a member of your forum. Kakata and Bingo are the only people who had some class in that thread. Learn from them. I never go into WOL but was informed of your little bashing, thats the only reason I read that. Dont worry, I wont be back, Once you get a taste of prime rib its hard to go back to burgers

BTW: I did write Simmo a PM and he took care of it already

 

[anniemac]

WTG!!!!

 

[suzecat]

Oh geeze...............is lojo misbehaving again? He must really miss us.

 

[silcnlayc]

This is for the WOL lurkers

For those of us (me) that have no idea what WOL is , would you kindly expand on this??? Thank ya kindly...

 

[babs7262]

For those of us (me) that have no idea what WOL is , would you kindly expand on this??? Thank ya kindly...

I did that on purpose as to not have the whole site name out of partial respect lol. Those who know it, know it. Not all members in there are disrespectful, please dont take my post that way. It was intended for the OP and they know it. Alot of nice people belong there

 

[BingoT]

Babs I hope no hurt feelings but I had to share your post at WOL
Thanks
Tom

 

[catrina m]

This thread proves this forum is much more than gambling

Its an online community of people, some who gamble, some who wish to stop, some who have never gambled and are curious guests.

This forum should never be referred to as simply a gambling portal. Its helped many people in its existence because of the intelligent, thoughtful people that run it and its members.

I hope you find the support you need here, because it is here.

 

[Luigi810]

Ahhhh, I love it, sounds like you have a great supporting husband, I am happy for the both of you, he's also a lucky man

Interesting you would say this for in fact this was what I did (so many years ago, about 10-12 years ago) until I realized I put my family and home in jeopardy ...and owned up to the mess I created...

My husband's and my joke today is that when we go off to a casino and he sees me up on a machine he will walk over, grab my face, kiss me smack on my lips and then I know what's coming!!!

(Hes pushing the cashout button all the while hes kissing me each and every time) And you know what? I love his kisses so much, even in the throes of playing and gambling, I still welcome them and then we both look at each other as the ticket prints out...cracking up all the while..because of the people watching...knowing....you do not do these things to a gambler (the cashout button)

To this day, he knows this is what I needed...he is my anchor and he is there online for me too..and does the same thing...walks into the computer room, looks at the screen (when I am playing) grins, grabs my face...and you know the rest..It is a good thing when you have someone on your side..it is a good thing to tell all...honesty sometimes surprises you...helps you put things into perspective...and helps you ask for help...this was a deal we struck so many years ago and we still stand by it and it has helped strengthen our life and marriage even more so....never get angry over something so small and insignificant as gambling...once you understand what it is you need to control it...

 

[babs7262]

Babs I hope no hurt feelings but I had to share your post at WOL
Thanks
Tom

That's Ok Tom

really, I wanted to post that there and only visited a few times so I figured if I posted it here someone would end up putting in there for me. Im not going back to WOL to read any responses for two reasons. One...this isnt about me and two..I dont want to give any bashers the satisfaction of "trying" to hurt my feelings. Im here for Diane and thats whats important.

Were all good Bingo

 

[kauphy]

hi its me again. i have a promble with what alexishot69 is doing. yes i agree with her about staying away from anything that is connted to gambling knowing what my brother went thought he had to stay away from anything or anyone doing drugs or drinking. but i also know that luigi810 knows all she has to do is turn on her computer and she can gamble without coming to a place like this but instead she comes here and talks with people who care about her and what she is going thought to me it does,nt metter where you find help as long as you find it and if she feels like she has a family here that will not judge her but will listen and help her then who r you to say its wrong? yes you might know more about things like this then me but any of us who have went thought it ourselfs or with someone we love then we 2 know something about it. we get ur point she has heard you but feels like here is where shes needs to be and if its right for her then maybe we can support her and help her thought this. you have to hit rock bottom before you want help and it sounds to me as if she has and this is the place she has chosen to try to get thought this let her be. when it comes down to it it is her choice weather she gambles again or not. its always a choice. luigi810 we do care and we will always be here to listen if things get to tough but reamber its ur choice but reamber not only do we care but god does 2 lean on him and he will help 2 love always kathy pm if you need 2 talk

 

[Spikey]

Going to ga is all about finding friends to help you get through a gambling addiction.
But if Diane finds friends here that help her in preference to ga, well I think that's wonderful.
I certainly am better off for her posting here, anything that reminds me of what can happen to me is a good thing and certainly keeps me in check. It's much better to see threads like this to keep me in line than the "gamble responsible" line that the government (at least here) forces to be placed in ads which do nothing.

I suspect that she could be helping more people here than she would at other help centres, and if she's getting help here too then it's a win for everyone (except the social workers who didn't read about the getting help at casinomeister option in any text book at uni).

 

[Simmo!]

I just wanted to add a few comments to this thread, if nothing else just to make people aware that we're aware. For information, I've had a discussion with Luigi behind the scenes. She's an adult and perfectly capable of making her own decisions and the bottom line is she feels this thread is helping. I know some people feel that a gambling forum is not the place to hang out. Possibly not. On the other hand, you could argue that there is no better place to get help and advice than from other people who know the pain. Again, this has to be Luigi's choice based on what she sees. I don't see banning her at this stage would help based on what she has told me privately.

For what it's worth, there is no answer to the problem that works for everyone. Anyone that's been through any form of addiction, and that includes me, will probably know that what works for one person may not work for another. This thread seems to have thrown up a number of different ideas ranging from the extreme to the more obvious. But it strikes me that any ideas are worth throwing into the pot to ponder over, on the basis it may help one person, if not another.

I know someone who beat a gambling addiction by basically handing over all financial controls to a family member. Ripping up cards, closing bank accounts, the works. But it wouldn't necessarily work for others. I'm sure attending GA helps many people. But for others probably not. It depends entirely on the individual and their personal circumstances.

 

[Luigi810]

THANK YOU, thank you for listening and for understanding, this site works for ME, if may not be for everyone but it has changed my life for the better in just a few short days, I never dreamed I would lose the urge to play, I don't understand how quickly since I have been playing for 5 years, but right now this is where I need to be, with people who understand me, don't judge me and with people who have had there own addictions and know excatly what I'm going through. I thank you and everyone from the bottom of heart for not turning away from me. This is a new beginning for me and I wouldn't have this new beginning if it wasn't for this site and all of my great new friends.
5 days and LIVING

I just wanted to add a few comments to this thread, if nothing else just to make people aware that we're aware. For information, I've had a discussion with Luigi behind the scenes. She's an adult and perfectly capable of making her own decisions and the bottom line is she feels this thread is helping. I know some people feel that a gambling forum is not the place to hang out. Possibly not. On the other hand, you could argue that there is no better place to get help and advice than from other people who know the pain. Again, this has to be Luigi's choice based on what she sees. I don't see banning her at this stage would help based on what she has told me privately.

For what it's worth, there is no answer to the problem that works for everyone. Anyone that's been through any form of addiction, and that includes me, will probably know that what works for one person may not work for another. This thread seems to have thrown up a number of different ideas ranging from the extreme to the more obvious. But it strikes me that any ideas are worth throwing into the pot to ponder over, on the basis it may help one person, if not another.

I know someone who beat a gambling addiction by basically handing over all financial controls to a family member. Ripping up cards, closing bank accounts, the works. But it wouldn't necessarily work for others. I'm sure attending GA helps many people. But for others probably not. It depends entirely on the individual and their personal circumstances.

 

[mojo]

I have searched high and low for an authority site that suggests staying away from a site like CM. I cannot find one. I do see a lot of suggestions on group help but nothing specific. There are self help books you can buy endorsed by top psychologists. Since not one of us here is an authority, IMO all opinions are valued and respected, but not expert. Diane knows this. No one is misleading or suggesting anything. Merely offering open armed support.

One thing I can say is that that there are different levels of gambling addiction. The feelings you get when you reach the point of self loathing, dispair and thoughts of suicide are REAL. Should anyone ever come to anyone with this it is proper to RESPOND with care, friendship and even love immediatly!

I applaud the members here for doing what they feel is right. I don't understand the banning thing or why this has become such a hot topic. There may be onlookers who this has helped as well. Bravo Diane!

 

[suzecat]

THANK YOU, thank you for listening and for understanding, this site works for ME, if may not be for everyone but it has changed my life for the better in just a few short days

That's why we are kinda so fond of our little blue muppet (Simmo!)..........

 

[reda]

i have been following this thread and i have to say luigi810 you have spent a lot of money so i know the feelings you have must be terrible. i posted not to long ago on this forum because i felt so bad about gambling and it hit me right in the face. i wasnt spending a whole lot. a few hundred here and there . sometimes 1.000 a month. and me spending that amount just floored me and made me sick of my self. because a lot of it was on a credit card and not a prepaid . so it wasnt like extra money that i had. sure i hit a few good jackpots. but after a long dry spells with no wins it all goes right back to the casino. i was sick of giving and as you said running to the bank to make a dep because not only was i using a credit card but i used our extra money too. so then i had to use another credit card for necessities. it all builds up and you feel bad. so i and lots others here we really do know how it is. when i posted here about my gambling the response i got back really helped me. i havent quit cold turkey but i sure have cut down. i reason with myself and also find something that needs to be done and stay busy.

 

[Luigi810]

I am so glad to hear that you've cut down, I started off betting small but as you can see I got way out of hand, and that constant running to the bank was the worst not to mention the guilt. I actually went shopping today, I haven't done that in such a long time, although it's been only 5 days, I accomplished more in these last 5 days than I have just this year. If you ever feel the need to talk you can PM me at anytime, please don't let gambling ruin your life. GOOD LUCK TO YOU

i have been following this thread and i have to say luigi810 you have spent a lot of money so i know the feelings you have must be terrible. i posted not to long ago on this forum because i felt so bad about gambling and it hit me right in the face. i wasnt spending a whole lot. a few hundred here and there . sometimes 1.000 a month. and me spending that amount just floored me and made me sick of my self. because a lot of it was on a credit card and not a prepaid . so it wasnt like extra money that i had. sure i hit a few good jackpots. but after a long dry spells with no wins it all goes right back to the casino. i was sick of giving and as you said running to the bank to make a dep because not only was i using a credit card but i used our extra money too. so then i had to use another credit card for necessities. it all builds up and you feel bad. so i and lots others here we really do know how it is. when i posted here about my gambling the response i got back really helped me. i havent quit cold turkey but i sure have cut down. i reason with myself and also find something that needs to be done and stay busy.

 

[babs7262]

Congratulations on your 5 days!! Im very happy that so many people are helping you. In a way, (not that Im happy about your problem in any way) but the last couple of weeks in here havnt been the coziest (in which I partook in as well) and you coming here really shows no matter how upset we get at each other, when someone is really hurting....we put all feelings aside and help each other as a group.

Its so easy to get caught up in ourselves, especially with gambling. Its just a great feeling to know that I (as well as others in here) can share a problem and whether your a member for one day or one year, someone is here to help

I hope today is another accomplishment. Ill try to come in here once a day to say congratulations so you know we havnt forgotten you