A sense of perspective......
...this is just my opinion, shout me down if you wish. I could go into more detail but I won't.
As a gambler, compulsive or otherwise, it is an individuals responsibility to ensure that they are in control of what they are doing. Just because someone is addicted doesnt mean that they lose their responsibility. It means it becomes harder, something seemingly impossible. But let me put this spin on it. If someone can post on here, they can contact Gamblers Anonymous or the like. They can speak to their husband. They can seek additional help BUT (and this is the big one) ONLY if they truly want to. This is NOT about feeling unsympathetic, non empathic etc. It is about the reality of life.
As a casino manager or a pub / bar landlord etc, I believe there is a responsibility to ensure that where an individual shows signs of distress, they need to take the appropriate action. They are not the guardians of how we choose to spend our money. Candidly, that is not there problem. It only becomes a problem if they are directly involved in something that they know is starting to cause someone harm - emotional or otherwise.
I understand the cries for help and I will be criticised for saying this. Fleur posting on the forum in this way is, in my opinion, a form of attention seeking verification. I don't mean that in negative way. The soothing 'sympathetic' comments act as a 'drug' which will probably result in a calming down and then more deposits somewhere else in the hours / days to come. At the risk of repeating myself, if she really, truly wants to do something about this habit she will.
I speak from the heart and wish her all the very best. Trust me, anything is truly possible if you really want it to happen.and work on it. Small steps at a time and you will get there.
J
...this is just my opinion, shout me down if you wish. I could go into more detail but I won't.
As a gambler, compulsive or otherwise, it is an individuals responsibility to ensure that they are in control of what they are doing. Just because someone is addicted doesnt mean that they lose their responsibility. It means it becomes harder, something seemingly impossible. But let me put this spin on it. If someone can post on here, they can contact Gamblers Anonymous or the like. They can speak to their husband. They can seek additional help BUT (and this is the big one) ONLY if they truly want to. This is NOT about feeling unsympathetic, non empathic etc. It is about the reality of life.
As a casino manager or a pub / bar landlord etc, I believe there is a responsibility to ensure that where an individual shows signs of distress, they need to take the appropriate action. They are not the guardians of how we choose to spend our money. Candidly, that is not there problem. It only becomes a problem if they are directly involved in something that they know is starting to cause someone harm - emotional or otherwise.
I understand the cries for help and I will be criticised for saying this. Fleur posting on the forum in this way is, in my opinion, a form of attention seeking verification. I don't mean that in negative way. The soothing 'sympathetic' comments act as a 'drug' which will probably result in a calming down and then more deposits somewhere else in the hours / days to come. At the risk of repeating myself, if she really, truly wants to do something about this habit she will.
I speak from the heart and wish her all the very best. Trust me, anything is truly possible if you really want it to happen.and work on it. Small steps at a time and you will get there.
J