Thanks mate, did really good to read your lines. :notworthy
I hope of course that with the time things will change. In Singapore the law allows kids from the age of 9 years to decide themselves whether they want to see their 'missing' parent, nothing the main carer can do about it. He's 7 1/2 now, so a little more to go.
She has 2 kids from her first marriage, they haven't seen their father in over 10 years and they are meanwhile 16 and 20 years old. That's how badly she turned the kids against their father.
Wasted $10,000's in lawyer fees already and it hasn't got me anywhere as I was not married to her and the Singaporean law puts in that case the mother at a huge advantage, even more so if the father is a foreigner. Basically, i have no legal right to see my child, only if the mother agrees. And she can end that agreement unilaterally at any time.
Won't give up though!