samoas
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- Sep 16, 2003
H1- I wish I could see you in person just to hug you tightly and tell you the days will get better. I hope you can feel it miles aways.
Mourning takes time, sometimes years. It's such a personal experience. The pain dulls yet lingers. Longer for some people than others. Rest assured, there is no "right" way to mourn. Every individual is different and you should take all the time you need. Don't let anyone tell you differently or make you feel less of a person for doing so. Cry it out! and just when you think you can't anymore? Wham! It will sneak up on you. You, my friend, will see brighter days and I pray for you it's sooner than you think it will be.
I lost my Mom to cancer when I was 17 and a senior in High School. She battled cancer for almost 2 yrs and passed at age 38. I am now going on 43, it's 26 years later, and can honestly say that there are still moments that I can be overwhelmed with her absence in my life. We did not have a tight relationship due to my teenage angst. To know me at that age I was a wild kid who put her through hell. I know she loved me with all of her heart. She knew I loved her too. I missed her terribly at graduation and on my wedding day. When I had my first daughter (who resembles her now) I was completely lost. No point of reference for raising a baby since I only have a younger sister and no extended family. Remember the words every parent rants at their children "One day when you have kids, I hope they are just like you!" Ha!
My biggest fear! LOL She was a tough cookie, my oldest. My Olivia turned 17 yesterday, ironically the age I was when I lost my Mom. How weird that I sign on today to see your post. See, for me that's a sign.
I find comfort in knowing my mother would be proud (and probably shocked at their awesomeness lol) of me for raising my 2 girls and putting them on the proper path in life. I believe she watches over them and has spiritually guided me through the years. I am not a religious person but dang I feel blessed.
On a brighter note, I'll betcha (no pun) there will come a time when you feel her presence in some form. A song, a scent, a moment, and especially resemblances and mannerisms in your children.
Personally? They are my favorite signs. It's her way of saying "Hi! Here I am!" I have such a strong belief that our loved ones do watch over us. I have had numerous experiences that could not be explained, small and large, akin to the one MommyMachine posted.
Your Mom will always be a part of you H1 and that is how she will continue to live, not on this earth but in your heart and in your children. She will always be with you. I guarantee it. I miss my Mom to this day. Most of my days are great but moments like this I miss her much and can share your pain. You my friend will never be alone. The loss of a Mom affects us all regardless of how old they were or how young. What's important to remember is how proud she will always be of you! That I can promise you!
xo
Christine
Mourning takes time, sometimes years. It's such a personal experience. The pain dulls yet lingers. Longer for some people than others. Rest assured, there is no "right" way to mourn. Every individual is different and you should take all the time you need. Don't let anyone tell you differently or make you feel less of a person for doing so. Cry it out! and just when you think you can't anymore? Wham! It will sneak up on you. You, my friend, will see brighter days and I pray for you it's sooner than you think it will be.
I lost my Mom to cancer when I was 17 and a senior in High School. She battled cancer for almost 2 yrs and passed at age 38. I am now going on 43, it's 26 years later, and can honestly say that there are still moments that I can be overwhelmed with her absence in my life. We did not have a tight relationship due to my teenage angst. To know me at that age I was a wild kid who put her through hell. I know she loved me with all of her heart. She knew I loved her too. I missed her terribly at graduation and on my wedding day. When I had my first daughter (who resembles her now) I was completely lost. No point of reference for raising a baby since I only have a younger sister and no extended family. Remember the words every parent rants at their children "One day when you have kids, I hope they are just like you!" Ha!
My biggest fear! LOL She was a tough cookie, my oldest. My Olivia turned 17 yesterday, ironically the age I was when I lost my Mom. How weird that I sign on today to see your post. See, for me that's a sign.I find comfort in knowing my mother would be proud (and probably shocked at their awesomeness lol) of me for raising my 2 girls and putting them on the proper path in life. I believe she watches over them and has spiritually guided me through the years. I am not a religious person but dang I feel blessed.
On a brighter note, I'll betcha (no pun) there will come a time when you feel her presence in some form. A song, a scent, a moment, and especially resemblances and mannerisms in your children.
Personally? They are my favorite signs. It's her way of saying "Hi! Here I am!" I have such a strong belief that our loved ones do watch over us. I have had numerous experiences that could not be explained, small and large, akin to the one MommyMachine posted. Your Mom will always be a part of you H1 and that is how she will continue to live, not on this earth but in your heart and in your children. She will always be with you. I guarantee it. I miss my Mom to this day. Most of my days are great but moments like this I miss her much and can share your pain. You my friend will never be alone. The loss of a Mom affects us all regardless of how old they were or how young. What's important to remember is how proud she will always be of you! That I can promise you!
xo
Christine
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