Casinomeister fathers, Any advice :)

[mattsgame]

Good afternoon all,

A bit of a different topic at hand here.

Well I have found out I am going to be a father in 7 months time, It is a whirlwind of emotions at the minute ( excitement, scared, worried, paranoid you name it, its there).
Have always wanted a little mini me and now that its happening I don't know where to start lol

So dads out there my question is:

Have you got any advice?


BTW Mums also feel free to jump in

Thanks all

Matt
P.S I hope i posted this in the right spot

 

[jas2587]

LOL first off Congrats
everyone is gonna have the advice the best is follow your heart
you will love that baby no matter what
an we all have to learn er had to learn to be a parent
we were all given advice that we either said fluck that or cool I will try that but in the end we all went an did it our way

Just love that Baby with all your Heart an you will do Ok

an yes everyone is scared at first

Good Luck an prayers that your baby is healthy

Cindy

 

[chayton]

I can't offer any advice because I'm not a mom - or a dad, for that matter but I wanted to chime in and say congratulations at least!

 

[Webzcas]

Congratulations

Make the most of the next seven months as your life will never be the same again

Seriously it is great, although those Sunday morning lie ins will be consigned to a thing of the past. LOL

 

[The Dude]

#1 If it's a boy, don't name him "Sue".

#2 Babies are supposed to cry - a lot. Get used to it. Even though you have to wake up at 3 am to feed the young'n, try to enjoy it. I used to feed my mini-me while watching Depeche Mode videos (late night TV in Germany sucks).

#3 Babies grow fast - midnight feedings are traded off for other things, you will sleep again...eventually. Then they start teething

#4 - don't stress out. Stressing won't make anything better. Just take a few deep breaths and remember #2

#5 It's not supposed to be easy, so try to enjoy the little things while they last because you will miss those things when they grow up.

Things I miss:
soft little baby feet
bald little peach-fuzz head
holding a tiny little sleeping baby

- all together now - awwwwwwwwwww

 

[Christoff]

Good advice guys - my wife is due to give birth to our first child in 5 days and I am bricking it

I am excited but obviously nervous too.

 

[4 of a kind]

Don't worry about anything. Your natural instincts will kick in and guide you through a love you never experienced before. This my friend is the real jackpot. Lucky you and congrats...

 

[mattsgame]

Thankyou All

Thanks everyone for your advice and kind words. I'm sure I'll be fine, just wanted some input from some other fathers (or mothers) and a different conversational topic.

LOL first off Congrats
everyone is gonna have the advice the best is follow your heart
you will love that baby no matter what
an we all have to learn er had to learn to be a parent
we were all given advice that we either said fluck that or cool I will try that but in the end we all went an did it our way

Just love that Baby with all your Heart an you will do Ok

an yes everyone is scared at first

Good Luck an prayers that your baby is healthy

Cindy

Thanks Cindy, although I'm very nervous I know that I will be happy, to have my own family, someone to guide through life.

I can't offer any advice because I'm not a mom - or a dad, for that matter but I wanted to chime in and say congratulations at least!

Thanks chayton, appreciate it.

Congratulations

Make the most of the next seven months as your life will never be the same again

Seriously it is great, although those Sunday morning lie ins will be consigned to a thing of the past. LOL

Thanks Webzcas, the thought of becoming a father is quickly growing on me and the lack of Sunday morning sleep ins will be completely worth it.

#1 If it's a boy, don't name him "Sue".

#2 Babies are supposed to cry - a lot. Get used to it. Even though you have to wake up at 3 am to feed the young'n, try to enjoy it. I used to feed my mini-me while watching Depeche Mode videos (late night TV in Germany sucks).

#3 Babies grow fast - midnight feedings are traded off for other things, you will sleep again...eventually. Then they start teething

#4 - don't stress out. Stressing won't make anything better. Just take a few deep breaths and remember #2

#5 It's not supposed to be easy, so try to enjoy the little things while they last because you will miss those things when they grow up.

Things I miss:
soft little baby feet
bald little peach-fuzz head
holding a tiny little sleeping baby

- all together now - awwwwwwwwwww

Awww

I promise HIS name won't be Sue..

I'm sure the little things will be easy to treasure, it feels like just yesterday I was young, time has flown and now I'm starting my own family.

And what's wrong with Depeche Mode?

Don't worry about anything. Your natural instincts will kick in and guide you through a love you never experienced before. This my friend is the real jackpot. Lucky you and congrats...

Thanks for the kind words 4 of a kind..

Yes, finally I have actually hit a jackpot and this one I don't mind the wait for the payout

Thanks
Matt

 

[rockycatt]

congrats on the new addition to the family this week i visited my grandson at the university of Vermont [a super school] one of 5 grand children and 1 great grand child

my advise short and sweet put the kids first [hard to do] but its like a target to try for and have the most from your new addition

P S now watch time fly so throttle it down

 

[same_old]

Hi Mattsgame,

I see you are in Ausralia also, I'm in Alice Springs.

I'm 31 years of age and my partner and I had a BEAUTIFUL little boy (see avatar) and I will be completely honest with you.

When ((I)) first found out about the baby I cam home from work and my partner was home and she told me we where going to have a baby.
As soon as she told me that I did get that cold feeling over me- the kind where you skip a heart beat or something and it did take a little while to process only because it wasnt expected as it seems with you.

Give it a few weeks and it will sink in mate and you will start to look at it from a different angle.
I was thinking, jesus-can we afford this am ((I)) ready to be a father. I've been with my partner for 7 years and we arent married are we going to be together for ever????

Then as the months passed and I seen Katherine getting bigger and thats when my internal instincts started to kick in and I felt it was time and I was ready.

Skip forward nine months we are at the hospital and out comes my little boy crying and thats when the water works started- He was a spitting image of me and I couldn't believe it, I'am now officially a father!!!

Other will hate me hear but baby Ben was a perfect little boy from the get go so we were lucky but you do get some restless nights which the body will adapt to.

He is now 2 years and 4 months old and is the most absolute best thing in my life and when ever I feel down all my boy needs to do is smile at me or a cuddle and my bad day has gone..

The best thing about it all and im sure the other fathers and mothers will agree is how much your child loves and is devoted to you, you and your partner will get kisses and looks that are for you two only and no one else in the world and that feeling is amazing I can tell you.

He had his first concert the other day at child care where they had drums the kids made out of ice cream containers and costumes they painted where they would bang the drum in time to music and stomp there feet- I was SOO happy I started to cry and im a big bloke mate that loves me beer and farts and plays rugby- the typical bloke- but on that day I was all mushy

Anyway what I want to say to you is you WILL be fine mate and if you do have any issues then just talk to your partner and be honest it always helps..

There is going to be another YOU in this world soon and there is nothing more amazing than that.

If you do want to chat or even vent mate please PM me and I will be more than happy to have a chin wag with you.

All the best to both you your partner and that beautiful bundle of joy that is on the way.

Same_old

 

[just play]

Congrats!!!

Do you know the baby is a boy? Or are you going to be surprised?

It's the most wonderful thing, and if you think you know love now...just wait and see what that kind of love feels like.

Please refer to Casinomeisters #2 A LOT...and no it isn't easy, it's damn hard...but that kind of love makes it all worth it.

Years 2-5 were my favorite with both children. (both girls) I was always nervous I would drop them as babies...lol...I liked it when they could walk and go potty by themselves. Around the age of 8 (where my youngest is at) they really start to show their own personality, then after the age of 12 they REALLY show their own personality then good luck with teenage years...hehehehehe.

Be prepaired to go to the doctor all the time...and be worried all the time about a cough or sniff. And don't be afraid to call the doctor if you have any concerns, they are there for you.

Oh and if your not a crier...you WILL cry when the baby is first born. The newborn baby smell is one of a kind, I remember one of my friends would want to hold my daughter when she was under a year just to smell her...hahaha. And tell your partner to be prepaired to have her belly rubbed by strangers all the time. Don't know what it is, but strangers have this need to rub a pregnant womans belly.

Most important....enjoy every second, when people say "time goes so fast" it REALLY does, so try to enjoy and remember every second and take lots of pictures.

 

[skiny]

I remember the day my son was born. It was about 23 years ago. She had two sisters with her at the hospital and I thought since things were going to get a little messy in there it might be a good time for the three of them to bond. I figured they probably didn’t need me hanging around the delivery room getting in the way. I’m starting to think that I’m the only man on the planet that didn’t watch his wife force a child out of her crotch and to this day I’m still pretty ok with that.

So once they were done washing everything off the nurse directed me down to the big display case where they keep all the babies and the two of us stood in front of the window looking at all the newborns. They were all kicking and crying and just being loud in general except for one sweet little one off to the corner. He seemed quite content wrapped up in his little blanket. I remember thinking he was the cutest baby there. I looked at the nurse and pointed right at him. I said “I’ll take that one.” That’s when I found out that you don’t actually get to choose which seemed to defeat the purpose of the display case they kept them all in.

I didn’t get the sweet, quiet one. I got the one who was allergic to everything he touched and some things he apparently only had to look at. The only way to keep him from breaking out the first two years of his life was to hang him in the middle of the room by his toe. (Which my ex-wife was vehemently opposed to.) After a few years though, he outgrew all the allergies and stopped crying at 3 am. He also seemed to be getting smarter. As the years passed I began to realize that he was turning into a very smart young man with an honorable sense of responsibility and a very weird sense of humour which he probably got from a distant relative.

Now on a more serious side, here’s the thing about raising children. Children will be learning from you even when you’re not trying to teach. Like it or not a parent is a roll model and the best you can do for your children is educate through example. When you give your children honesty, compassion, empathy, generosity, patience and so on, you teach them to give it to others. I dated a woman a few years ago (Yes, I used to date.) I remember her saying to me about my son “He’s so much like you.” And it made me proud. But the pride wasn’t in the fact that my son was like me. It was that she could see in me the things that I appreciated in him. I was proud of my son. How could I not be proud that she thought we were alike?

 

[just play]

and a very weird sense of humour which he probably got from a distant relative.

I nearly spit out my salsa!!!

 

[mattsgame]

WoW

Thanks everyone for the replies!!

I have not forgotten about this thread

I will post something more very soon once I have a bit more time to reply to each post,

Once again thank you all, Greatly appreciate it!

 

[Brooklyn]

Well first of all let me say congratulations!!!! How exciting for you! Having 5 children, I know alot about babies, but I knew NOTHING when I had my first one. It all comes naturally as others on this board have already said. You will know what to do, just by instinct. All the emotions you are feeling are completely natural. You will be fine, it's an amazing experience to bring life into this world, and it's even better to watch them grow.

There is nothing in the world like the love from your child, and the love you have for them.

Good luck to you and your family

 

[anniemac]

Congrats!

Nothing much to add to what everyone else has said. Babies, sadly, don't come with a manual but they are pretty resilient, nearly indestructible and will love you no matter what.

Nothing smells better than a baby, nothing. And the quickest way to go to sleep, put the baby on your chest. Your eyes will snap shut, just wait and see.

Go buy a rocking chair. It's almost a must.

 

[Jasminebed]

Congratulations. My best advice is to sleep now while you can.

My other advice is not to forget you and the missus are a couple, and not just the little darling's parents.

 

[betpartners]

Congrats, great to become a parent for sure

However my advice is

Put a cap on how many you have

1-2 kiddies and it is the perfect family union

Once you get to 3-4 it starts becoming damn expensive

Once you get to 5-6 kiddies you start looking for that second job

once you get to 7-8 kiddies you start watching bank robbery films and wishing you had the balls to pull off the perfect heist

once you get to nine kids you just spend your day stoned, no other way through it.

 

[Luckylizzy]

Grats on the Best News of Your Life

My now husband and I were 16 at the time when we found out we were going to be parents. I was very happy but scared out of my mind obviously because we were so young. When my daughter was born the first thing that I said to her was "I love you." I cannot even describe how good it feels to be a mom and I know my husband loves being a dad more than anything else. Whenever he is in a bad mood our girls cheer him up. They are now 8 and 4 and they are definitely the best thing that has ever happened to me.

My advice is to have special things as a family like on the weekends or something where you all can enjoy each other without the worries of every day life. That is something they will appreciate when they get older and will cherish the memories. For me it was going to a special park with a bridge and having a picnic.

I also think that age 2 through 5 is the best age but my eight year old is pretty awesome too. She surprises me a lot with her smarts and how much she has learned. Here's a pic of my kids!

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Hope to see some sonogram images when you get them and do you know if you're having a boy or girl yet?

 

[KasinoKing]

What everyone else said - particularly Jas & Webzcas!
(Sorry, I haven't read ALL the posts).

My first one was born 2.5 years ago and my next one is due 6 days from now!
It was absolutely the best thing that ever happened to me & I wouldn't change it for the world - even though I was a VERY late starter!
(Well over 40... )

Congratulations and best wishes that everything goes well. :notworthy
Be brave and DON'T find out the sex before the event, just as we have not with both ours - it really adds to the excitement!

KK

 

[mattsgame]

Thank you

Thank you to everyone who has posted and there well wishes its greatly appreciated.

If I miss some one here I am sorry,

same_old,

I am down in cold old Victoria, Great post mate you had me all mushy just reading it so I cannot imagine how I will be when the baby arrives. Thanks for the offer for the chinwag etc I may just take you up on that one day in the near future. Thanks again,

just play

Thank you,
Not sure on whether the baby is a boy or girl yet as its a little to early to tell, As for being a crier well I usually can hold myself but some of the posts on here had me a little wet under the eyes so im guessing I will be a leaking tap once I see the baby for the first time I am planning on enjoying the little fellow as much as I can, I really don't want to miss a thing.

skiny

Thanks,

Your post was a great read,loved the humour and seriousness it had throughout.The advice you have given me at the end of your post will be taken in. I hope I get the quite one!

MommyMachine

I take it this is whats behind the name? Thank you for your kind words and advice.

anniemac

Thank you,

If only they did come with manual, hmm I am intrigued by every one mentioning the smell, Dunno why I find it strange, I guess i will soon find out
I will keep the rocking chair in mind!

Jasminebed

Thank you,

The only good thing atm is I am quite custom to not getting much sleep as it is now, I'm a full time carer and well a night owl so I'm hoping it wont affect me to much. Also that last bit of advice is great and you are the first person to mention this. I guess once a baby comes into the equation things can start to get pretty hectic and a lot will change between the two of us.

betpartners

Thank you,
I am planning to just have the 1 or 2 I don't think I could handle more, Besides who wants to many miniature versions of myself.

Luckylizzy

Thank you,

I am sure we will get plenty of family outings as I love my fishing and the outdoors so I can see plenty of bbq's and picknics at a park in my future
Great photo of your girls they seem to love the camera
I do have some images from our 6 week scan but my scanner has packed it up atm will get some up asap, not sure if its a boy or girl yet as its to early to tell.

KasinoKing

Thanks
We are still tossing and turning whether to find out the sex or not, would love to know so we can be prepared but on the flip side would also like a surprise. My folks keep telling me " Don't find out the sex, hell we didn't have that shit in our day!"



Just to add, Everything has been going well so far, poor girl has just started to get morning sickness 10 weeks or so in.

we go for our 12 week scan on Tuesday to see how everything is going we may have the option to find out the sex then ( guess we have to make up our minds on that one), just one of the many trips back to the hospital/doctors.

Thanks everyone once again!!

Matt