Is adult cyber bullying just as bad ?

[pinnit2014]

It boils down to how 'you' made the recipient feel, what you see as unreasonable is not necessarily indicative of how the recipient feels. Some people are more sensitive than others, do we ignore their reactions because we consider them to be overly sensitive - just food for thought.

But surely how the person 'feels' isn't the sole determinant as to whether they are being bullied? If you go an employment tribunal, for example, and listen to how a person complains that their workplace boss was bullying them, they will look at it and (and again, just an example) apply the reasonable person test. If that shows, circumstances into consideration, that the bosses actions were reasonable, they will (possibly) rule that no bullying took place.

I get what you're saying - if i know that a certain approach with someone is causing them distress then to continue could be construed as such - but then again, on especially like a Forum like this for example, why are you even on it?

 

[pinnit2014]

It's more of a complicated issue if the person claiming to be bullied is also bullying others themselves. Even more so if reps are bring bullied as they are unlikely to speak up , more likely to just not bother posting or responding as much. Bullying in any form should not he tolerated but pointing out that someone has been out of order or OTT in a polite decent way doesn't automatically translate as bullying.

That's when the reps should be pulling out the their customer services unacceptable customer behaviour charter

 

[bebo67]

True story. When I first started using the computer, there were yahoo chat rooms ( do people remember them?) There was this lady that was from the city that I live in, that was in the same chat room. I met her once at a meet and greet. The meeting was a simple hug, nice to meet you, and then the rest of the night was spent mingling. A few days later, someone did up a nasty profile of me, and then a few days later it started escalating to getting booted out of the chat room, every time I went in. I had no idea at the time who was doing it. The next couple of months, there were more profiles made up using my name, but my address was given out, my kids ages and names, my work place. Anything personal, it was out in the open. Finally someone came forward and told me it was the lady from the same city. She took the time and energy to find anything she could about me. I live in a small place, so I was picturing her stalking me. I went to the police and there was no cyber bulling laws back then. I left the chat room, and found out she was running for council. I let head of council know what had happened. Facebook came along, and we shared many friends so I have her on block. Life hasn't been good to her. She also lives two streets over from me now. I am thankful but surprised I have never ran into her. All it takes is one nut job to take things further and then it becomes dangerous. If someone is attacking you online, always report it,

 

[bebo67]

True story. When I first started using the computer, there were yahoo chat rooms ( do people remember them?) There was this lady that was from the city that I live in, that was in the same chat room. I met her once at a meet and greet. The meeting was a simple hug, nice to meet you, and then the rest of the night was spent mingling. A few days later, someone did up a nasty profile of me, and then a few days later it started escalating to getting booted out of the chat room, every time I went in. I had no idea at the time who was doing it. The next couple of months, there were more profiles made up using my name, but my address was given out, my kids ages and names, my work place. Anything personal, it was out in the open. Finally someone came forward and told me it was the lady from the same city. She took the time and energy to find anything she could about me. I live in a small place, so I was picturing her stalking me. I went to the police and there was no cyber bulling laws back then. I left the chat room, and found out she was running for council. I let head of council know what had happened. Facebook came along, and we shared many friends so I have her on block. Life hasn't been good to her. She also lives two streets over from me now. I am thankful but surprised I have never ran into her. All it takes is one nut job to take things further and then it becomes dangerous. If someone is attacking you online, always report it,

Okay. Why is this showing twice?

 

[Tirilej]

Forget it...

 

[dunover]

Okay. Why is this showing twice?

Don't fret, I deleted the dupe post for ya!

 

[bebo67]

Don't fret, I deleted the dupe post for ya!

Thank you!

 

[The Dude]

I just wanted to chime in that I do not feel that there is a bully enabling environment here. If anyone feels that he or she is a victim of bullies here in this forum, please let me know. Having your feelings hurt or having people argue a point, or trying to prove you wrong, or being exasperated with your behavior is not being bullied. It is life in a forum - sometimes you have to roll with the punches. Believe me, I've had to do this even in my own forum

We do the best we can here to try and keep things mellow, enjoyable, and balanced at Casinomeister - and it always helps to have a load of really fantastic members who are dedicated to the integrity of the site - and trying to make this a fun place to be.

Of far greater concern is how actual trolls can circumvent the site about 10 times with different usernames and go around harassing female members via PM, calling them c***s and whatever else.

It's been mentioned several times of course to the powers that be, but we can all count together until they resurface to resume their antics.

So let's deal with that problem too because it's making the site lose its integrity (apart from my posts etc etc)

We catch this guy when we can. If we detect any further digressions form this guy, he will be reported to the Metropolitan police. And that's a fact, Jack.

 

[lockinlove]

Of far greater concern is how actual trolls can circumvent the site about 10 times with different usernames and go around harassing female members via PM, calling them c***s and whatever else.

It's been mentioned several times of course to the powers that be, but we can all count together until they resurface to resume their antics.

So let's deal with that problem too because it's making the site lose its integrity (apart from my posts etc etc)

Someone is messaging females and calling them names? Feelsbad I am not included and creating a crazy amount of accounts to do so? Wow. He is probably reading this thread thinking he is funny but if Bryan does call the police with all this stuff he can def be charged. It's actually a very simple process and alot of trolls dont realize how easy it is. It's all fun and games until the police come knocking!

 

[goatwack]

Someone is messaging females and calling them names? Feelsbad I am not included and creating a crazy amount of accounts to do so? Wow. He is probably reading this thread thinking he is funny but if Bryan does call the police with all this stuff he can def be charged. It's actually a very simple process and alot of trolls dont realize how easy it is. It's all fun and games until the police come knocking!

He didn't PM you I presume because he didn't want to be fed his own balls

 

[lockinlove]

He didn't PM you I presume because he didn't want to be fed his own balls

LOL

 

[slotplayer]

He didn't PM you I presume because he didn't want to be fed his own balls

your sense of humor is surely a gift.

 

[dionysus]

your sense of humor is surely a gift.

you misspelled grift

 

[The Dude]

Someone is messaging females and calling them names? Feelsbad I am not included and creating a crazy amount of accounts to do so? Wow. He is probably reading this thread thinking he is funny but if Bryan does call the police with all this stuff he can def be charged. It's actually a very simple process and alot of trolls dont realize how easy it is. It's all fun and games until the police come knocking!

It was only one female member that he texted some pretty offensive stuff. We are on the alert for this douchebag.

 

[Glassheart]

Someone is messaging females and calling them names? Feelsbad I am not included and creating a crazy amount of accounts to do so? Wow. He is probably reading this thread thinking he is funny but if Bryan does call the police with all this stuff he can def be charged. It's actually a very simple process and alot of trolls dont realize how easy it is. It's all fun and games until the police come knocking!

Someone gained access to my account and messaged all the male members for nudes. I was mortified at some of the pictures i recieved . The rest are on my bedroom wall.

 

[Playford7]

Someone gained access to my account and messaged all the male members for nudes. I was mortified at some of the pictures i recieved . The rest are on my bedroom wall.

haha brilliant!. Mine was the stud in nothing but the boro shirt winking

 

[dionysus]

haha brilliant!. Mine was the stud in nothing but the boro shirt winking

wth, you only sent me a pic of your cats arse