If you have no lust for vengeance, drop the case and leave the GRA alone. Guy lost his job what more do you want?
Let's be honest here...if things got out of control to the point that it created important family problems it's 100% your fault, not his. Right now you remind me of a guy who cheated on his wife and got mad because someone didn't pay attention and mentioned it while she was in the room. It sucks, but ultimately who's fault is it?
You're right.
The more the OP posts, the more he reveals his true motives....and they are desperate, selfish and incredibly greedy.
Here are some interesting excerpts:
killahwhale said:
Admittedly I did accept an apology when it initially happened without fully understanding the implications a simple
tweet could have on private life. I've been clear from the start that the tweet was months ago but that the effects
of the tweet that was seen at the time have only been made clear to me now..
Well that's interesting. It certainly is not the impression you gave in the beginning i.e. that they had apologized.
Apparently, the tweet was a YEAR ago....but "several months" makes it sound more recent and better for your case I guess.
You say your family has "now" read it. So, they were unaware of it for nearly a year, and now suddenly they all know. Considering the tweet was deleted within 15 mins (let's make it 30 minutes to be fair), and that the tweet did not show up to more than a handful of people, and that ONE family member "saved" it, I'm having a hard time grasping how, all of a sudden, everyone knows...??
Surely "the family" would have known a year ago when one of them saved it? Or did that family member keep it secret for you, or for their own purposes? Either way, the cat got out of the bag somehow....or did it? Was it YOU that deliberately told everyone about the tweet just recently, after you had taken big losses, so that you could then claim that the tweet "destroyed your family life" or "had a negative impact on your life"? If so, and I believe this is quite possible given what I think your REAL motive is (which I will outline at the end of this post), then it is YOU or this "other family member" that "caused" the negative consequences by revealing information that everyone else knew NOTHING about i.e. if the rest of your family didn't see the tweet before it was deleted, and were only shown it by yourself or your relative, then IMO it is NOT the tweeter's fault what happens afterwards.
I could be wrong, but your behaviour is leaving you open to other theories, as what you have been saying just doesn't "add up".
killahwhale said:
and only recently has it come to have a negative impact on my private life to the point that it's caused damage to
my family life that I couldn't have predicted
...and the tweeter COULD have predicted it?
If the tweeter was the ONLY source that your family had as to your gambling behaviour, then he bears some responsibility...and he has paid the ultimate price as an employee.
If not, then it's going to be difficult to prove that it was all down to the tweeter, and difficult to pursue your REAL goals and motives.
killahwhale said:
After this had affected my private life I had no choice but to protect myself in the only way I knew how.
How did you "protect yourself" exactly?
It's like shutting the stable doors after the horse has bolted. You no longer play there, and haven't for ages, so what was the "threat"?
It's not about protection is it.
killahwhale said:
Myself, my friends and family members are twitter users, this would have been plain in the light of day.
Except that it wasn't.
In fact, only ONE family member saw it....and "saved" it for some odd reason. I wonder why......
killahwhale said:
You're free to believe what you wish, I however will act when such destructive information is publicly posted and
when it affects my private life.
Thankyou. I will.
You have an odd interpretation of "public". I would have thought posting something
directed at another that only a handful of family and friends can see is PRIVATE, not public. Posting at CM is public. Sending a letter to 10 of your family and friends is NOT public, and that's pretty much what happened AFAIC, except electronically.
Incidentally....how did it "affect your private life"? Was it the tweet itself that "affected" things, or YOUR gambling habits? Think about that for a second.
Gibboplayer said:
The complainant informed me on Facebook chat during one of our casual conversations (again, this is all on record)
that he had been gambling with BV and was going to self exclude the account. I told him I'd check his account when I
was in next, to which he replied "ok". I acknowledge that I was completely in the wrong for looking at his account.
So, you "hardly knew" Gibboplayer, but you added him as a friend on Facebook. Maybe I'm strange, but I only add people I know on FB, and only people I have some regular contact with. It sounds like a bit more than "some guy I know at the casino" to me.
I also wonder if this FB connection enable you to receive and special bonuses or promotions, or some perks of some kind. Maybe Gibbo can clear that up.
He said he was GOING to self-exclude....not that he HAD. At this point it seems the account was still open.
It also appears the OP gave Gibbo permission to check his account. IMO, this changes things in the sense that he did not just "go in to his account" for no reason or for his own curiosity, but rather at the behest of the OP. Of course, he should not have tweeted about it, and he accepts that totally and, as I said, has paid the price. I do, however, think it shows HIS motives in a different light, and adds more fuel to my speculation about the OP's motives.
Based on what I've seen and read....and this is only my opinion....I believe that the OP has orchestrated a fair chunk of this after either a) being found out by his family, B) losing his shirt, or c) both.
It is obvious to me that the REAL motive of the OP is NOT "justice" or "protection" or any other noble cause.
It's all about $$$$$$$$$$$.
If it wasn't, the issue would be well and truly over.
It also doesn't take a scientist to work out what the difference in financial compensation might be between a tweet that basically nobody saw and that had little or no real impact, and a tweet from a year ago that "suddenly" came to the attention of the OPs family and caused a whole host of awful consequences. If the OPs goal is money to cover his gambling losses, which IMO it is, then there would be a lot of sense in making sure EVERYBODY saw that tweet and that there was as much impact as possible.
As I said, it's all about MONEY.