- Joined
- Mar 13, 2008
- Location
- Ontario
I eventually resorted to stopping any kind of direct contact with their mum so nothing could be twisted to make me look bad. I made sure I paid full maintenance for a few years which I arranged to be paid directly from my wages until I changed employer. Then as it appeared I was getting along ok with their mum I chose to give her cash monthy in front of the girls. This giving cash went on for two years until my contract ended.
Guess what happened next? She contacted the Child Support Agency and told them I had gave her no money for two years. With no proof of payments I was royally shafted and as soon as I started a new contract the CSA demanded extortionate amounts out of my wages to pay off the " unpaid 2 years".
I am not having a pity party here. I'm cool with it because I was stupid. But my girls knew the truth
I don't get it. While my ex-husband was not the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, he was not a bad man, just unhappy. I bent over backwards to make it easy for him to see our kid. We were barely civil, and he told her it was all my fault for a long time.
But nearly 30 years later, he's a wonderful grandpa, and I occasionally give a like to some smart-alec comment he makes on facebook.
Kids need more than one parent to blame their problems on, even if they don't live in the same house.
In the beginning, my ex paid his child support in cash, and I always gave him a receipt. Tax laws at the time, I had to declare it as income, and he got to claim it as a deduction.
If you pay cash, always get a receipt. Not just child support, anything.