kenneth2816
Dormant account
- Joined
- Feb 25, 2006
- Location
- North Carolina
Frankly, this sort of reeks of "kicking a person when they are down" syndrome. Great for you...you can control your gambling. Telling me and/or people who HAVE a problem with it however, that we just need to take personal responsibility for our actions is a completely moot/mute effort. I KNOW that already..and frankly don't need you reiterating it. But, hey. You got NOMINATED. Bravo. I'm sure it made your day! You're big man on campus.. Don't dislocate yer shoulder patting yourself on the back, there...
Anyway, just wanted to say that the reps at both casinos have been very diligent with the situation. As I said at the interim and since...I only hold MYSELF responsible and know I am the only one who can fix this problem I have. My beef is and was the fact that I very succintly asked for my accounts to be locked--as I was a danger to MYSELF--and they were not, at least not immediately. If I was staggering in a bar and begged the bartender to cut me off, I would hope he would. If I had a pill popping problem and begged the doctor to stop giving them to me I would hope he would. This is the only point I am making here, or was making in even bothering to post about it. That and just trying to set a precedent of sorts, like there is no going back now...I've outed myself, at least in my own head.
That said, I believe that the casino shortcomings were more due to errant reps handling the situation at the time and NOT the casino's themselves.
My comments were not directed at you personally, so feel free to take them or leave them as you wish. I do not have any control over who nominates a post, but I don't see this as anyone taking sides.
I responded to a thread entitled "gambling addiction and casino responsibility"
The two operative words being "addiction" and "responsibility."
To me, the entire premise of asking to have accounts locked works like this:
Once I've made the request, I've given my power away. I have an obligation to continue "checking" to see if the account has been closed. Eventually, I will keep "checking" for what I consider a reasonable time, and if I find an account has not been closed, I take this as "permission" to gamble because it is not my fault someone else dropped the ball. Then I can become angry with the casino.
Rhetorical or hypothetical scenarios about what should be done by whom in which circumstance make nice mental exercises. It is the nature of an addict to find an easier, softer way. The ony responsibility I expect from a casino is to pay me if I win.
It has been stated in this thread that if a person goes into a bar and asks not to be served, there is an expectation that his wish be honored.
The real question is, who has ultimate repsonsibility if he gets a drink put in front of him anyway?
What if the doctor writes one more perscription because he thinks you are too emotional and need a sedative?
Again, I am speaking for myself when I say I am an absolute believer in free will. Addiction does not relieve me of bearing personal accountability for my own choices. I see addicts go to jail everyday for their choices.
If I say I take full responsibility for my gambling addiction, I've revealed no great new "truth" to the world. I can expect "slips"; they are a normal process of recovery, but I do not HAVE to have one.
If I find myself at a bar, it isn't because my car turned into the parking lot on its own.
Call me militant or even mercenary. If my words cause anger, that may not be so bad. Anger is the emotion of self preservation, when properly applied.
It can propel one into action.
Misdirected anger or fixing blame only keeps me hooked into the cycle.
The bottom line is that if someone else had caused as much damage in my own life as I have, I'd kick their ass.