STOP or...........!

[prostudio]

I think the most serious, honest and very kind people are here at CM and i am very happy to be here and find answers!
I will really try to stop but for a gambler its really dificult!
I have only one problematic year and i think i feel good cause there are to much more players that cant stop for many years, anyway i feel that they need the same help like me, to STOP gambling!
Its very strange for a musician ( i am composer and teacher 28 year old..i have a small music studio with a post university master first level in music graduation ) to have gambling more important that MUSIC but this is gambling and
YEAH i will STOP....no more dreams and more suffers!
I cant forget someone here ( which make a post here ) telling I HAVE NOT PERSONALITY FOR GAMBLING!
In my poor situation of money i think its the same for me!
Thank you dear member for this serious and kind HELP!
Ps.A online problem i see that must be solved ONLINE....
Happy life to all and a BIG thanks from:
ELIS
ALBANIA

[JHV]

Elis, I cannot offer better advice than has already been offered by others in this thread. I would just like to reiterate one thing and add one more warning.

Reiteration: Although not all of us like to admit it at times, I suspect most of us have (at some point) felt exactly how you are feeling now. Don't be ashamed of admitting you have a problem. The only shame lies in knowing deep-down you have a problem but refusing to face up to it or address it.

Warning: Shame, of the kind that I refer to above, is very dangerous because shame is cyclical. When you're ashamed of your actions, the shame actually should be viewed in a positive way. It shows that you are remorseful and 'aware'. A psychopath or someone who has little empathy has no shame, they don't even know what shame feels like. Shame is a remarkably 'human' emotion, and most deeply felt (I believe) by people who desire to behave honourably or admirably or ethically. However - the problem with shame, at least in my experience, is that it creates a domino effect of actions of which you are also ashamed, and the whole thing can accelerate rapidly and out of control before you know it. You're ashamed and feeling down, and as a result, you're obviously vulnerable to temptation, which then leads to actions which create more shame - and so on and so on.

I believe, when it comes to problem gambling, problems with drug use (licit and illicit), problems with anything really - that you nip it right in the bud at an early stage. Apart from our nature being that of habit-formers, that shame factor I refer to above is very powerful - and, once allowed to develop, can get to the point I think where it can threaten to overpower you completely.

It sounds like you have a very positive and healthy attitude from your last post, and with your love of music and your objective approach to self-analysis, I think you'll be totally fine in the long-run. Good luck!

[prostudio]

JHV thank you again and i totally agree with you abou SHAME factor!
The personality start when a person is ashame from hes behave!
Today after read your post and members post i go to read what happen around the world in some usefull websites which help players around the globe about their addiction and i see a BAD world outside!
I read terrible posts about how a person can LOSE everything ( thank GOD im not married and not childrens ) kids, wife, job, friends, parents....everything!
I really cant imagine but someone there said that he is 47 year old and not married no childrens and he played for 17 years at casinos.
All his life gone!
I dont wont to tell with that that everyone must stop gambling cause as i said everyone have the right for a decision and if he is in control he can go on but.......who know what happen if he winn big and think gambling will take care for him future and family future!
Anyway i think this topic will never stop but i am here to talk if something good or bad happen!
Ps.For moment i think block all my account and start a MUSIC BALLET PROJECT!
Regards!