Does My Friend Have a Gambling Problem?

**babs7262** · 9th May 2008, 01:46 AM

Most of my friends are guys except a few. I think the opposite sex makes a better friend anyway. Although, RIch and I were friends for 2 years before we started dating and now we are

I dont like having too many "girl" friends, they get catty alot and I hate that kind of shit. Im a to the point gal and hate nonsense lol.

Kudos James
Your a good friend! Just be careful because I have a friend with a different kind of problem and it backfired on me. We still remain friends but its not the same

**GaryWatson** · 9th May 2008, 02:07 AM

Originally Posted by babs7262

Just be careful because I have a friend with a different kind of problem and it backfired on me. We still remain friends but its not the same

ditto

**james01** · 10th May 2008, 10:25 PM

Jeez - you guys know me better than I know myself.

Yesterday morning, I called my on-again, off-again SO and she said she's seeing someone.

So I took out Tamtam (her nickname) like I said I would, and we were supposed to meet other friends at the pub. They ended up going to some party and Tamtam and I didn't really feel like going to this party, so we hung out at the pub for a while. We didn't even have much to drink - cuz I was driving I just had one beer and the rest was cokes, and Tamtam had like 3 pina coladas over like 2 hours.

So I told her how my o-a,o-a SO is seeing someone, and I was suddenly all sad because I've kinda known this is coming for a long time, and Tamtam gave me a hug, and all the sudden, we were kissing. And then we were both like Whoa! where did that come from?

She excused herself to go to the bathroom, and I downed 2 ice waters while she was away, and then I took her home.

I'm pretty freaked. I never felt this way about her. She's not really pretty - kinda fat, in fact. We've been friends forever. I don't wanna screw that up. What if we go out and she's like... awful as a girlfriend?

Okay, I'm getting WAY WAY WAY off topic here. So, you guys can tell me to shut up and stop being such a chick about this.

Btw, she's still off the gambling. I hope last night wasn't a setback. I haven't had the guts to call her yet, but I asked another girl to call her and she said Tamtam's ok.

**babs7262** · 11th May 2008, 12:54 AM

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Im overweight myself and my husband doesnt know it yet lol. Here's a great example. I gained some weight and we started dating at my almost too heavy weight. After awhile I got my "too heavy weight" I lost the weight and started to get compliments and Rich said to his friend (who ended up telling me) "how come everyone is telling Barbara that she lost alot of weight" His friend said "because she lost alot " Rich said "how come i cant see any difference?" his friend said "because you only notice her heart"

Please dont let her looks disway you, people get older, fatter, thinner, whatever it is, it happens. The heart and soul stay the same forever and if thats what attracts you to her then she will never change no matter how much she gains or loses. DOnt worry about what your mates think if she makes you happy. If she has been your friend this long, just think of how happy you could be together! You know each others' faults and secrets, youve seen each other at your best and worst. Love cant be found my friend, Love happens and when it does, be grateful and move on!

In my eyes...there is no fat and ugly or pretty and thin, there is mean and nice and caring and non caring. Go for those qualities that cant change because everything else will eventually

**GaryWatson** · 11th May 2008, 01:16 AM

**cslate** · 11th May 2008, 04:33 AM

Well
I must quote Brian (Family Guy)
I would wreck the bitch.

Sorry.

I just seen the episode....seems kinda the same.

Good luck though.....

My experiance was the same...giver and deal with it.

**bb28** · 11th May 2008, 04:51 AM

Crude and Rude!

Originally Posted by cslate

Well
I must quote Brian (Family Guy)
I would wreck the bitch.

Sorry.

I just seen the episode....seems kinda the same.

Good luck though.....

My experiance was the same...giver and deal with it.

**james01** · 11th May 2008, 09:03 PM

We are soooo far off topic here.

I finally got up the guts to call her, and I had no idea what to say, so I asked her out to a movie, but she's busy tonight. I told her I'll call her tomorrow.

I hope she's not falling for me just because I gave her some money.
Am I doing the right thing? Should I go out with her?

Help!

**GaryWatson** · 11th May 2008, 09:14 PM

I think you miss the point.

If you like her & she likes you shag.

If you are asking about looks, she should dump you on the spot. She is too good for you.

What do you want? A friend who you have a special connection to? or a friend who you think is ugly but feel like the odd shag when you get drunk & consider it a safe option.

Sorry Babbs for the crudeness

**GaryWatson** · 11th May 2008, 11:16 PM

friendship starts from a mutual attraction. Non sexual.
Mistakes happen that way, non intentional.

To think you are too good for someone is shallow and insulting (remember the mutual friendship).

I think there was more to the story than the on/off relationship. Maybe more of a controlling downgrading guy, where his long term on/off cant get away from him.

So you agree we know you better than you do, want me to continue?