Was invited to the Hard Rock last trip but never made it - perhaps this time
First of all, I'm Asian
Having said that, I know exactly what you are talking about. It's good that the casino lets the player in the seat control the cards, this also happens in the Holland Casinos, but usually only at the airport.
In Macau, however, the person who has bet the most money controls the cards, probably by tradition rather than policy.
Needless to say I don't play in Macau (though honestly I rarely play blackjack any more) and had I been in your situation, I might have had an advantage (being able to tell him to bugger off in his own language) but otherwise I ignore what they think, in fact I don't even look at them except when I expect them to double up their bet on a split or a double.
I still get mad when Grandma stands on 14 against dealer's 7 showing... but you learn to live with it. Asians gamble on gut feeling - not basic strategy.