Going to a land based casino in a week!

[frufrugirl]

JlSpit, It sounds like you are worried about your parents. Besides telling them how you feel there is not much you can do but support them in their right to have weekends together. Believe me, I know couples who spend upward to a thou once a month just having dinner,theater and golf sessions! So, if they can afford it, let it go. I know I enjoy going to the casinos and I always feel blue after I lose, even if I have lost my budgeted money. I spent 8 hours playing 60.00 the other evening and had a ball, but still felt weird coming home with only 62.00. Maybe thats what your parents were feeling! LOLOLOl !

Take care..and talk to your parents if you are feeling too worried ok?

[BingoT]

Hi JlSpit,
We all have our bad habits but you know we also have great support groups too.And we all need to get out of the busy lives we all have too A time to get away from the kids lol we need that at times but don't over due it. like this past weekend my wife and I went to the casino and we ate,drank,had a great night stay and even had a coupon from Mohegan to spend $100.00 in any store and came home with alittle too. One week you may lose but the next time you may win. That's what gambling is.I say call one up and set a date to come in with your parents and just Listen to what people have to say and it just might help them out.
And we all know what people will say "I don't have a gambling problem"
Get the help you need before it's too late.
Like on all my trips I do to the casinos here in CT I get phone calls all the time about how parents have no money to even play bingo or buy something to eat and they gamble gamble everything away.And as for my support I don't call them to go anymore because if they don't hear from me they don't go.
As for online gaming everyone has it so convenient in their own home I think it's real bad if you gamble.The plastic card has allot of power.I have seen many rake up the cards that way.and they can't pull themselves out of debt
I'm sorry if I sound like a preacher.
Best of luck to you and your family.

Tom

On April 11th Have a Great Birthday too.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
JlSpit

[soflat]

Skip the video slots and play video poker & Sizzling 7s.

[silcnlayc]

Both my brother and I believe they are using the money they stored for his college fund

This money is still your PARENTS hard earned money.

My brother also tends to think my parents spend money that belongs to him a lot

How much of this money did your brother contribute to call it HIS?

The reason I am saying this is because as a gambler that goes to Atlantic City with my husband and sons, if either of my children EVER questioned me on what I did with MY money, I would tell them flat out, it is none of their business.

I asked my mom how much they lost this weekend, like I always do to tick them off, but she just said enough.

I worked for it, I can spend it any way I want without reporting to my CHILDREN!

Good grief, where do kids think they get off telling parents what to do with money that they worked for thinking it belongs to them?

One thing I tell both of my boys is, that, when I am dead, they can have the rest. And only then. Otherwise it still belongs to me and my husband.

I can't really believe them for that though because when we are in Charlestown, West Virginia, the one place I can gamble freely, they lose about $600-$1000 together

Why do you care? It is NOT yours to worry about.

My husband and I take anywhere between $2000-$5000 a trip. Stay for a few nights and enjoy ourselves with free rooms and free meals the entire time. It is like a mini vacation a few times a year for us.

This time we are taking both my sons to celebrate our 35th anniversary and have 3 rooms free for the week. If they even thought of asking how much we spent to get these rooms...they would never be invited again, but they have never questioned, suggested or even acknowledged our spending for they know it is NONE of their business, except for when they are hungry and want us to cover their dinners .

but my mom freaked out when I said that and told me that it was a horrible thing to think

IT IS!

Children are not OWED anything.

I suggest you let your parents enjoy themselves and not say another thing about how they spend their hard earned money. It is very disrespectful IMO and again NONE of YOUR business!.

[gfkostas]

I worked for it, I can spend it any way I want without reporting to my CHILDREN!

The same of course applies to all of your people not just the children. I wouldn't like to give reports either

[JlSpitFirelC]

Hi JlSpit,
We all have our bad habits but you know we also have great support groups too.And we all need to get out of the busy lives we all have too A time to get away from the kids lol we need that at times but don't over due it. like this past weekend my wife and I went to the casino and we ate,drank,had a great night stay and even had a coupon from Mohegan to spend $100.00 in any store and came home with alittle too. One week you may lose but the next time you may win. That's what gambling is.I say call one up and set a date to come in with your parents and just Listen to what people have to say and it just might help them out.
And we all know what people will say "I don't have a gambling problem"
Get the help you need before it's too late.
Like on all my trips I do to the casinos here in CT I get phone calls all the time about how parents have no money to even play bingo or buy something to eat and they gamble gamble everything away.And as for my support I don't call them to go anymore because if they don't hear from me they don't go.
As for online gaming everyone has it so convenient in their own home I think it's real bad if you gamble.The plastic card has allot of power.I have seen many rake up the cards that way.and they can't pull themselves out of debt
I'm sorry if I sound like a preacher.
Best of luck to you and your family.

Tom

On April 11th Have a Great Birthday too.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
JlSpit

No seriously I don't have a problem.. and that just sounds like denial.. and them? I don't think they do either, I just get mad when they go to the casino because I can't.

I know your concerned, but honestly.. I do know my limit and there is never a time when I don't stop when I reach it.

Seriously do not worry about me. I am not like one of those college students who lose their tuition and then rob a bank. *That actually happened a few miles away from my house.*

Thanks about the birthday wish though

[JlSpitFirelC]

Skip the video slots and play video poker & Sizzling 7s.

Sizzling 7s is that reel slot with 7s and firey 7s and if you get them lines up like this: 7<7>7 (firey kind) you win the jackpot. Yea, I played that a lot last time actually. :P

[JlSpitFirelC]

This money is still your PARENTS hard earned money.How much of this money did your brother contribute to call it HIS?

The reason I am saying this is because as a gambler that goes to Atlantic City with my husband and sons, if either of my children EVER questioned me on what I did with MY money, I would tell them flat out, it is none of their business. I worked for it, I can spend it any way I want without reporting to my CHILDREN!

Good grief, where do kids think they get off telling parents what to do with money that they worked for thinking it belongs to them?

One thing I tell both of my boys is, that, when I am dead, they can have the rest. And only then. Otherwise it still belongs to me and my husband.

Why do you care? It is NOT yours to worry about.

My husband and I take anywhere between $2000-$5000 a trip. Stay for a few nights and enjoy ourselves with free rooms and free meals the entire time. It is like a mini vacation a few times a year for us.

This time we are taking both my sons to celebrate our 35th anniversary and have 3 rooms free for the week. If they even thought of asking how much we spent to get these rooms...they would never be invited again, but they have never questioned, suggested or even acknowledged our spending for they know it is NONE of their business, except for when they are hungry and want us to cover their dinners .

IT IS!

Children are not OWED anything.

I suggest you let your parents enjoy themselves and not say another thing about how they spend their hard earned money. It is very disrespectful IMO and again NONE of YOUR business!.

Ok there is seriously reason behind this, I know it sounds like I am just picking at things that are none of my business, but let me explain a little to you before you hate me. lol


First let me say this: My brother although he knows it is not true teases my parents by saying they must be spending his college fund because he dropped out and plans on going back in a few years.

*He's extremely successful by the way, not one of those drop outs that work at fast food restaurants*

and now for my brother's and my logic: (Of course his is better grammatically) lol

5 years ago my father was caught up in a mess and had his lawyer license suspended. What happened was the place his office was at, a mobile home selling building, began stealing money from the people who were buying from them. While we were in Florida at that time, his secretary forged his signature on many of the closings and brought my dad into the mess.

It was even bigger because my dad also had a job for the township.

So during that time, my dad had to get another job *in Maryland from my Cousin* where he made probably around $50,000 less onto the $30,000 he stopped making from his county position.

That is when this whole casino thing started as well as both my parents smoking. Now.. smoking is not such a big deal, but when they are gambling and losing money along with my father making less during that time, it really is my business.

Anyway after 4 years the case finally settled and my uncle paid off the money my dad was accused of. Even though he didn't do it. He just recently got his license back.. FINALLY. (Think it settled with something called A R D) dunno what that means, but I am pretty sure that is how it ended.

I just wanted you guys to know that I am not a complete asshole about this with my parents, but instead I feel it is necessary that I know how much they lose because I am concerned.

Anyway, I am sure from that you can see I have more of a right to know than your children who just bother you about it.

It is something that my brother and I need to have peace of mind over because of these past few years... now I am sure you can't find fault with me here. That is definitely a family issue.

[silcnlayc]

but when they are gambling and losing money along with my father making less during that time, it really is my business.

How so, you didn't earn the money the choose to use.

but instead I feel it is necessary that I know how much they lose because I am concerned

Why? Not your business.

It is something that my brother and I need to have peace of mind over because of these past few years

Why? You are both grown adults that should be making a life for yourselves instead of meddling in your parents. They got there without your help.

It still isn't your business what your parents choose to do with their life. They are grown ups.

He just recently got his license back

Sounds like he has control of his situation without any help from you or your brother. How else did your brother "almost" finish college if not for your parents handling of their life and situation and their money that allowed him to go for as long as he did.?

I still don't see how you can say it's your right to know and question your own parents in what they, as adults, choose to do with their quiet time away from work and home.

Thats like your own kids (when you have them) or even your own brother meddling in your love/sex/financial life. Would you allow this? I don't think so, and neither would I, as a parent.

I don't mean to offend, and please don't take it that way, but your really need to find something other than focusing on your parents life and choices for they seem to be doing ok, with getting this issue cleaned up and getting his license back. Which is what grown people do, as Elvis says, take care of business, which it seems they have.

[JlSpitFirelC]

Ok.. I don't think anything I say will convince you why I feel I should know... I have already explained it and you have already taken your position.

It is only natural you will be unwilling to think otherwise. Instead of just pinning the negativity of it, given the circumstances, it is a family matter.

Not going more into it than that because to someone who had an open mind on the subject they could teeter either way.

But in most cases, because this is a gambling forum of mostly adults, it seems pointless to even try to reason it.

Anyway, I do understand you are only voicing your opinion and I am not angry at you, I just thought I would try to let you know why I was worried and show you that it is different from your children nitpicking at your playing.

*There* :P I think we can both agree to that, correct?

Edit:
Screw it lol.. It is true it is none of my business.. Doesn't mean I am going to stop asking though.