Woman blames gambling debt on casino

noluckever67

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It is no one's fault but the ladies. She needs to accept the responsibility to do something about her gambling problem. I can't feel sorry for her. I to had a problem with compulsive gambling and signed myself off all the boats in Missouri. That's the problem in today's world no one ever has to accept responsibility. There is always someone else to blame.


sorry meant to say in above post this ridiculous comment I TOO HAD AN PROBLEM WITH COMPULSIVE GAMBLING".errmm i dont thinkso once your an compulsive gambler this will never leave you and if you do still have this why are u on an casino forum??? Sorry but lot of inaccuracies here.
 

GaryWatson

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I would never allow a gambling establishment to offer credit. People playing for fun will stop before the money runs out. People chasing their losses IMO do not have their full faculties intact. Gambling establishments are not as rigerous as banks for determining who is worthy of credit. Banks even make mistakes.

Yes, the woman has a part to play in this but the warning signals were already there. I would remove any credit license from all gambling establishments and allow the banks to show the woman her addiction in full. Credit is just too easy. Ive rarely met a compulsive gambler who hasnt tried every avenue for more cash to win the lost money.

The woman has to accept responsibility for her actions on the grounds of diminished responsibility.
 

silcnlayc

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Interestingly enough...

I just came back from Dover Downs casino in Maryland for my one night trip and I was truly amazed at all the full busloads that were passing me and my husband by with the logo on the back of them saying Atlantic City every Saturday and more buses to Dover Downs or Bust. Well, just so you can see, there is no gambling in Virginia (where I am) and the masses go to where they can gamble no matter what.

When one has a gambling problem...one must take responsibility for ones own actions..the way I see it, is, that these buses ride for 6-10 hours to get where they need to go and if one chooses to ride this length of time to get a "fix" nothing and no one will stop them unless they WANT to be stopped.

It is not the casinos responsibility to take care of anyones choices, just as it is not any one else's. If one chooses to be ignorant of the fact that they have a problem, and continues their self destruction, only the person doing the destruction can make the choice of getting help.

One cannot be forced to seek help..we see people destroying their lives every day because they would rather get thier "fix" than help.

Sorry for such a long post..but I agree, if one has a probelm and knows it, it's their responsibility to seek help because then and only then will the help they seek be meaningful.

Addiction is a cruel beast and only the one with the addiction can slay it..no matter how much we love them.
 

noluckever67

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ignorance

I am sorry i dont wish to start an argument but this is just how little people actually kow about such addictions..If it was as easy as you say just to "fix" this then the world would be so god damn easy for everyone.tobacco,alcohol,drugs would not be an problem for anyone and lives would not be ruined by such addictions.Gambling has been proven to be an mental illness now if the last poster implied it was just an case of taking responsibility then the worlds mental illness would not even exist.People NEED to understand the nature of such addictions beofre posting such ridiculous posts.

I do not pretend to be an leading authority on Cg but i know an lot about it and more than enough to validate these posts i am making.Cg is an serious pathological disorder where people will ho to any lengths to have an bet,wager whatever you want to callit without thinking of the consequences until the episode is finished.People can obtain help for this but will NEVER be cured and this is where backdoor casino emails , calls etc etc are ruthless.I know people who have gone months,years without gambling whilst i hasten to add attending GAut one small newspaper ad,mail recieved,phone call, has planted an seed in there head and bang theyre back to the life they escaped from.

Again to the post above if this was all so easy just to give up then why do governemnts spend millions of s per year putting help measures in place because they know the volatility of such addictions and the implications on not only the CG but the uimmediate welfare of people around them esp wifes,husbands,kids who share the loss as much as the CG themselves.So please stop this ignorance and try to help rather than mock these people.
 

frufrugirl

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This one dosnt surprise me as Indiana is woefully negligent in gaming regulation, out of the 12 catagories in statutes and regulations in the AGA, they have commitments in only two, self exclusion and treatment funding. The other catagories are:
Helpline
advertsing restrictions
Alcohol service
credit restrictions
employee training
empolyee PG prevention
Loss Unit/limited stakes
Marketing/direct mail
Postage/signage
Public awarness.

Since they dont have any statutes on credit restrictions or advertising restrictions nor any commitments to making the public aware of problem gaming, it dosnt surprise me they didnt put her on a disassociated persons list or one that was longer than 2 years, when she was involved in debt litagation earlier. What does suprise me though is that this casino does have employees go through problem gambling training, which does emphasis recognizing and acting upon unusual gambling behavior (not paying back debts?)
I dont think the casino can be held legally liable at this point. They will do as little as possible to maintain their profits. They already put in a huge amount to the community and if not pushed by the state with regulations..why rock the boat, sorry for the pun. If anyone is to be held liable for this, it is the State,for failure to protect her people from a industry that when not regulated, could become preditory.(as we are seeing in the online industry and, in this case. )The Indiana Problem Gambling council offers an 800 number but no state programs are available. Treatment is referal to private organizations.

As for CG, most often when a person realizes they are a compulsive gambler it is often too late, they are usually deeply in debt or so addicted they cannot monitor their behavior without help. Because anxiety disorders and depression disorders are closely associated with CG, basically as a result of the behavior, it often takes an act of intervention from a loved one a workplace or creditor to get them to take action to stop the cycle. Chronic CGs are usually not under medical care because of lack of funds.

I still think the States need to step up to the plate and get their heads out of the sand and issue uniform policies to monitor Casinos. Just as we wish the Us Government would get their head out of their fannies and offer regulation in the online industry instead of prohabition (which we all know dosnt work)to protect her people while still allowingthem their basic rights of freedom.

Just my 2 cents!
 
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silcnlayc

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No argument here..

I am sorry i dont wish to start an argument but this is just how little people actually kow about such addictions
You sit there and assume I don't know what I am speaking of..sorry to burst your bubble but my father was a gambler, and so IS my little brother who also lost everything..and yes, we lost our home, land, and everything of value through his addiction..I lived it....
If it was as easy as you say just to "fix" this then the world would be so god damn easy for everyone. tobacco, alcohol, drugs would not be an problem for anyone and lives would not be ruined by such addictions
Why stop at only those addictions? And then what, we ALL have some kind of ADDICTION that affects others throughout life..shoe fetishes, bingo holics, shopaholics, chargeaholics, foodaholics, binge purgers, hair pullers, nail biters, tattoo addictions, cosmetic surgery addictions, sex addicts, internet porn addicts.....etc and I could go on and on..when do we say as a country..take responsibility for your choices of addictions, take responsibility and get the help you need or do we lock them all up? We wouldn't have anyone out there to run the programs that are needed then for these addictions, for the ones that are supposed to help us have addictions too....

Everyone likes a good rush, it makes them feel ALIVE. Look at the car racers...they live to feel the speed..and they need it right to the end..to their death sometimes..do we tell them they are sick and need to get help or have the government intervene because they choose to race and thwart death every time they get into a race car for a rush? Thats almost like committing suicide on a russian roullete game...

So please stop this ignorance and try to help rather than mock these people.
You really do have it bad..nowhere have I mocked anyone...being in the position of having lived through a mother instituted in a mental home because of my fathers actions throughout my childhood for manic depression..I would be the last one to mock any REAL illness..addiction is not an illness in my opinion. it is a prolonged habit that manifests itself into something that grows beyond a persons caring or feeling due to becoming desensitized more and more to the feel they need and a need for a greater rush versus losing the feeling of caring about another persons well being..just as my father didn't care about losing everything he owned in life to get his rush, including my mother...because he had a need he wanted filled and no matter what and he had the same choices to get help too if he WANTED to and he refused to take them!

My opinion from experience is this need pertains to all addictions....we have become a society of instant gratifications...and when it fails to thrill us anymore we move on to bigger and more thrilling things..until we lose sight of ourselves and hurt the ones we love. No government can fix that...

So before you go off high and mighty on addictions, I am very well aware of them..please ask before you condemn...

Again to the post above if this was all so easy just to give up then why do governemnts spend millions of s per year putting help measures in place
To appease their conscience knowing what kind of society we have become..

So, the point I was trying to make is...addicts of every walk of life, will not get help until they feel the need to themselves..no amount of programs out there is going to help 1 person if they don't WANT the help..
 

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...errmm i dont thinkso once your an compulsive gambler this will never leave you and if you do still have this why are u on an casino forum??? Sorry but lot of inaccuracies here.

I won't be as rude as you and say your comment is ridiculous, I will just call you ignorant and assume you have been brainwashed by a twelve step program.

Ignorance: Ignorance is a lack of knowledge. Ignorance is sometimes misinterpreted as a synonym of stupidity, and is as thus often taken as an insult.
I am not saying you are stupid, you just don't know.

Brainwashed: (also known as thought reform or as re-education) consists of any effort aimed at instilling certain attitudes and beliefs in a person, sometimes beliefs in conflict with the person's prior beliefs and knowledge.

Twelve step programs have been shown to do more harm than good, and their 'recovery' rate is less than 'spontanious remission'. Don't let the 5% that Buchmanism has 'helped' determine your belief system about the 95% it can't.
 

noluckever67

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I won't be as rude as you and say your comment is ridiculous, I will just call you ignorant and assume you have been brainwashed by a twelve step program.

Ignorance: Ignorance is a lack of knowledge. Ignorance is sometimes misinterpreted as a synonym of stupidity, and is as thus often taken as an insult.
I am not saying you are stupid, you just don't know.

Brainwashed: (also known as thought reform or as re-education) consists of any effort aimed at instilling certain attitudes and beliefs in a person, sometimes beliefs in conflict with the person's prior beliefs and knowledge.

Twelve step programs have been shown to do more harm than good, and their 'recovery' rate is less than 'spontanious remission'. Don't let the 5% that Buchmanism has 'helped' determine your belief system about the 95% it can't.


oh dear dear..ill say very little about that post except try telling your argument to the millions of people round the world this has helped.such an sad sad post.
 

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To noluckever67

Just because I like to gamble and have since stopped doesn't mean I cant go to a gambling forum. It is self will and god's will to stop your addiction. Once you love god and yourself everything else will fall into place. I know many alcoholics that stopped drinking for 30-40 years. People have addictions mainly due to something missing in their lives. They use addiction to fill the void. You have to look inside yourself to find the void. No I don't feel like once addicted always addicted. I don't feel addiction is a disease. It is a choice. Just my opinion.
 

lojo

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oh dear dear..ill say very little about that post except try telling your argument to the millions of people round the world this has helped.such an sad sad post.

We're all welcome to our own opinions, but not our own facts!

Try looking Link Removed ( Old/Invalid) with an open mind (no your brains won't fall out) but your eyes might blur before reading the whole thing.

Again, the recovery rate for AA is about five percent. Spontaneous remission is greater. No treatment is better than 12 step treatment - literally!

If you wish to discuss it further, please start a thread in the wildcards section. I have many more scientific sources to offer, the 12-step argument has NONE.

Thanks and good luck:thumbsup:
 

silcnlayc

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Very good article..

Lojo, it was a very good article. I especially liked the fact that it stated.
But of course. The urge to heal oneself, to fix whatever is broken, is one of the most deep-seated basic drives in life. People will fight oppression however they can.)
And the reason that they finally quit drinking is because they really want to quit -- want it so strongly that they finally really do it. And the commonest reason for quitting is because people just get sick and tired of being sick and tired
This is the most persuasive article I have read...it almost reflects the way I believe in the acts of a person in their addictions..you must WANT to quit for ANY program, support, or whatever else is out there to work...if these things truly worked, we would have a society that would have no addictions, or repeat offenders in the choice of addiction.

I smoked for over 35 years...I quit in 2000 because I felt the need to and WANTED to. I drank like a fish for many years and I mean I drank..I quit over 20 years ago because I WANTED to...so far so good. Knowing that I might have the same tendencies as my father ( the uncontrollable need of something) ...that fear alone helps me be centered in my life...and I WANT to be free from these things..I feel the less bad habits I keep, the less likely to go to the extreme my father and brother did.

The one thing I still do is my monthly trips to a casino and online horse racing with a budget. My fear is stronger than my need. My choice is to stay free.

I am hoping others learn to get the need controlled to where they too can benefit from the relief it brings...if this helps just one person..It would be the best thing that could happen in my life time...

Thanks, for the article! Really was good.
 
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