What a muppet .....

RichyJ75

Has been a very naughty boy ...
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Location
Kent
Firstly, I don't want to quit gambling as generally I have it under control and find it enjoyable.

BUT, I've been a muppet the last few days. Thrown out the window was common sense and low rolling (up to 60p a spin) and on goes my stupid head. All was going well until stakes were raised as well as blood pressure! It has only dawned on me today that generally IT WAS NOT enjoyable the last few days unlike how it has been. So, as of late last night I am looking at a loss of around £850 for a couple of days play - ok not mega money to some people, but loads to me in my current situation. And I was doing so well the last few months in being chilled!

On the plus side, today yielded a profit of around £350 and I was up a fair amount for last month, but still a kick in the nether regions at how quickly it can go tits up and wipe out any profit or funds allowance! Almost, very almost did I have my credit card paid off!

So, next few days I will not be playing. That is the plan!

Big difference the last few days was playing with a bonus - something I rarely do and now appreciate why I don't generally take bonuses! Could have been up a few times, except no withdrawal allowed due to x amount of wagering still required - then stakes go up, etc etc to clear it, blah blah blah.

There you have it, confession out the way and I feel better for it! We are all human and have moments of weakness, it all depends how you bounce back from it that counts.

So so so true - when the fun stops, STOP!
 

Steviedoo

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Location
South
i get it....blew past my weekly budget on Monday and it's Thursday by overdoing and wanting to make up for my losses,and by betting stupid amounts on the slots I know are high variance .....all of the things were not supposed to do....but another week is coming up....July has been brutal...
 

geordiecolin

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mm4
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Location
Near Newcastle
Sorry to hear about your bad run and playing out of your comfort zone. I have learned in recent months to make the most out of good runs by withdrawing at least half of my profits in cash from my bank and never re-depositing it. Recently I have also came to become much more careful in how I invest my winnings. Its about you controlling it rather than it controlling you. Unfortunately this past two weeks has seen my balance hit the floor but I refuse to re-deposit the cash in my pocket in order to continue depositing. I will wait until I'm paid again.
Good luck mate :)
 

incrediblestuff

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Mostly the Netherlands
Trust me, we all have a little bit of muppet inside us :D

It seems that posting/thinking about it already was what you needed..

Stick to that mindset and you'll be o.k. next time:thumbsup:
 

RichyJ75

Has been a very naughty boy ...
PABnonaccred
Joined
Apr 3, 2015
Location
Kent
Stick to that mindset and you'll be o.k. next time:thumbsup:


Yep, I was! Cheeky £20 deposit this morning and withdrew £115. On the way to being sensible again!! Low rolling again - enjoyable, cheaper and a bigger thrill when you get a decent return!
 

goatwack

Get dunked, big buns!
Joined
Aug 29, 2012
Location
Londonia
We've all got the t-shirt. In fact, it smells rancid now that everyone has worn it at least once! :eek::confused:

I too have cleared minor credit card debts via the medium of gambling, only to find myself re-depositing it back via the same means, and of course losing it. D'oh!

I tend to bank my winnings as I go now instead of going for glory, so if I'm at eg £300, I'll flush about £230 of that straight away. Then I have guilt-free gambling! I've made a tidy profit and can now recklessly spunk the remainder without pulling my hair out.

The temptation is always there to raise bets when the slots are playing well, but I have seen both eventual outcomes to this. It's ok to have a brief flutter trying higher bets but it's important not to undo your hard work, and halt the session sometime. The problem is that it goes against our impulses and pulling the plug mid-session is difficult.

That's why I try to leave myself small funds so as to wind the session down and let the adrenaline die down. Far better to lose 50 than 300. Safety is paramount with gambling!
 

Jasminebed

Game old gal
Joined
Mar 13, 2008
Location
Ontario
I think we need a sub-forum for "I haven't quit gambling, and I don't want to have to".

I've had so many more struggles in the past few months than I have in years.

I get back on track, play smaller bets, make more modest withdrawals. Use it to play somewhere else or another day.

But less than a month ago, after a few really nice wins that ended up in my ewallet instead of back to my card where I could use them wisely, or play for many weeks or months without touching my bank account, I went right off the deep end with those funds at 32Red. Multiple big deposits. Huge bets. Even had a huge hit that brought me back to a few hundred ahead, played all that back and continued with the madness. I'm ashamed to say how much the sum was. It's been years since I woke up feeling sick about a session. I did manage to stop before I'd completely emptied my ewallet. For the first time ever I set some deposit limits at 32Red.

Sure, a little regret for not cashing out while ahead many times, but was as always money deposited I felt comfortable losing, so I wouldn't feel badly for more than a few hours.

So many months of being sensible, although the total lost was adding up. One bad night, all my feeling of being in control out the window.

Fast forward a couple of weeks, and the remaining funds in the ewallet are gone.

I was surprised at what a struggle it was for me not to go load my card and play before the friday night arrived. While I have not play every single day, it was the first time I didn't when I wanted to, and it makes me aware that just because it hurts less to lose some funds, doesn't mean you truly have things under control.

I need my "harm reduction" strategies still in place. Of not having more than I want to lose freely available to me.

I got lucky this week, and funds are safely in my bank account (well, almost all of them, one withdrawal yet to be received although it's been requested). Cheerfully lost some money at Casino de Montreal that I had brought to play with as I rarely visit a B&M (only my second time since winning large). Didn't hit an ATM once I was broke. Did cash out $20 in comp points to play with, and managed to hit that cashout button for $50 and leave LESS down. I know I enjoyed taking a struggling musician friend out for a nice shrimp dinner last night in Montreal more than I would have enjoyed some more play on Dungeons and Dragons, which is a REALLY fun slot.

Played 20 cent spins with some remaining funds on mobile a for a few half-hour sessions, did well enough to only lose about $17 total or what I'd left to play with. Enjoyed getting bonus rounds and watching the pretty reels spin. No concerns about whether I won or not. Where it's supposed to be, and what it's supposed to feel like.

I find it incredibly helpful to share my struggles. It helps me to put myself back on track. The process of writing or talking with someone helps me identify where a weakness came from, and that even when things are going well, it doesn't mean you have control, that you have just been lucky. Sometimes it's worse when you are winning.

Going to choose going out for some live music and drinks tonight instead of my usual Friday night entertainment online.

Those slots will still be there when it's next time to play.

Casinos WILL have bonus offers another day or another week, I don't need to take them all.

But there will be some cashback at Video Slots, I can avoid housework for a little bit @ .20 or so a spin.
 

randomiam

Meister Member
Joined
Jun 4, 2013
Location
australia
last 6 months

as you have noticed my posts are less as ive not been playing as much just chilled out and put my time and funds into starting a small home laptop repair sales center. Keeping busy helps try and find something to eat your idle time and its so much easier to cut down.
Im happy with my amount of play these days i wish you all the best. :)
 

goatwack

Get dunked, big buns!
Joined
Aug 29, 2012
Location
Londonia
I think we need a sub-forum for "I haven't quit gambling, and I don't want to have to".

I've had so many more struggles in the past few months than I have in years.

I get back on track, play smaller bets, make more modest withdrawals. Use it to play somewhere else or another day.

But less than a month ago, after a few really nice wins that ended up in my ewallet instead of back to my card where I could use them wisely, or play for many weeks or months without touching my bank account, I went right off the deep end with those funds at 32Red. Multiple big deposits. Huge bets. Even had a huge hit that brought me back to a few hundred ahead, played all that back and continued with the madness. I'm ashamed to say how much the sum was. It's been years since I woke up feeling sick about a session. I did manage to stop before I'd completely emptied my ewallet. For the first time ever I set some deposit limits at 32Red.

Sure, a little regret for not cashing out while ahead many times, but was as always money deposited I felt comfortable losing, so I wouldn't feel badly for more than a few hours.

So many months of being sensible, although the total lost was adding up. One bad night, all my feeling of being in control out the window.

Fast forward a couple of weeks, and the remaining funds in the ewallet are gone.

I was surprised at what a struggle it was for me not to go load my card and play before the friday night arrived. While I have not play every single day, it was the first time I didn't when I wanted to, and it makes me aware that just because it hurts less to lose some funds, doesn't mean you truly have things under control.

I need my "harm reduction" strategies still in place. Of not having more than I want to lose freely available to me.

I got lucky this week, and funds are safely in my bank account (well, almost all of them, one withdrawal yet to be received although it's been requested). Cheerfully lost some money at Casino de Montreal that I had brought to play with as I rarely visit a B&M (only my second time since winning large). Didn't hit an ATM once I was broke. Did cash out $20 in comp points to play with, and managed to hit that cashout button for $50 and leave LESS down. I know I enjoyed taking a struggle musician friend out for a nice shrimp dinner last night in Montreal more than I would have enjoyed some more play on Dungeons and Dragons, which is a REALLY fun slot.

Played 20 cent spins with some remaining funds on mobile a for a few half-hour sessions, did well enough to only lose about $17 total or what I'd left to play with. Enjoyed getting bonus rounds and watching the pretty reels spin. No concerns about whether I won or not. Where it's supposed to be, and what it's supposed to feel like.

I find it incredibly helpful to share my struggles. It helps me to put myself back on track. The process of writing or talking with someone helps me identify where a weakness came from, and that even when things are going well, it doesn't mean you have control, that you have just been lucky. Sometimes it's worse when you are winning.

Going to choose going out for some live music and drinks tonight instead of my usual Friday night entertainment online.

Those slots will still be there when it's next time to play.

Casinos WILL have bonus offers another day or another week, I don't need to take them all.

But there will be some cashback at Video Slots, I can avoid housework for a little be @ 20 or so a spin.

Whoa Jasmine, your stories always hit hard. You seem torn because you know you want to cut down/ quit but enjoy slotting too much. I still maintain that winning, and especially winning big, is a bad thing. More like a short-term gain, long-term loss kind of fuel :mad:

One one hand you could say well, I only lost what I won to begin with, still doesn't stop you kicking yourself though! These are the positions we dream of.

If there's a new section we need on the site, it should be called "the Intervention Thread" if anything, for when our own willpower isn't strong enough!
 

dunover

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Staff member
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Keep busy! It always helps. You may have noticed my one contribution to casino data this month. I've got so much going on with a couple of different contracts and a couple of projects I seldom have time to play. I don't even miss playing. The last video I just uploaded I just couldn't wait to hit my lower w/d target and get to bed! That's it so far in July. To be honest I only did that because my YT subscribers keep asking for a real-play expletive-ridden video and get fed-up with factual reviews!

Jasminebed has the yoke of having hit huge and withdrawing 6-figures, something that will always be at the back of her mind. A double-edged sword in a way. I've never had that feeling. Another thing we should avoid judging by reading her post is the setting-aside of time to play the slots, and funds. You get into the habit of say expecting 22:00 Saturday into the small hours as being a 'gambling treat' and prepare for it.

Another danger is JB thinking (consciously or subconsciously) "Well, I had such a great hit that even if I lose 2k I have had a great year..."

Complacency can be a killer.
 

RichyJ75

Has been a very naughty boy ...
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Joined
Apr 3, 2015
Location
Kent
You get into the habit of say expecting 22:00 Saturday into the small hours as being a 'gambling treat' and prepare for it.
.

Hit the nail on the head there! Midnight is my 'gambling treat' time as I have an account at Virgin Games and Starspins which offers a daily pick thing for free games, cash, etc. The next days picks are activated at midnight, so kids and wife in bed and I have some free time, so alas that is when I log on. I know this has now become a habit, so will take a break from both sites now to break the routine.

Wise words on the other points. A big win is great, but gives you confidence to wager more and hope to get it again, plus instills the thought of having a better budget for it. I am also guilty of this - get a nice win then end up playing more in the following days.

Think I need to get another motorbike to build/restore to stop some of this 'free time'!
 

geordiecolin

Meister Member
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CAG
mm4
Joined
Jun 5, 2015
Location
Near Newcastle
Keep busy! It always helps. You may have noticed my one contribution to casino data this month. I've got so much going on with a couple of different contracts and a couple of projects I seldom have time to play. I don't even miss playing. The last video I just uploaded I just couldn't wait to hit my lower w/d target and get to bed! That's it so far in July. To be honest I only did that because my YT subscribers keep asking for a real-play expletive-ridden video and get fed-up with factual reviews!

Jasminebed has the yoke of having hit huge and withdrawing 6-figures, something that will always be at the back of her mind. A double-edged sword in a way. I've never had that feeling. Another thing we should avoid judging by reading her post is the setting-aside of time to play the slots, and funds. You get into the habit of say expecting 22:00 Saturday into the small hours as being a 'gambling treat' and prepare for it.

Another danger is JB thinking (consciously or subconsciously) "Well, I had such a great hit that even if I lose 2k I have had a great year..."

Complacency can be a killer.

My only vulnerable time while depositing is the once per week when I wait until all have buggered off to bed and I settle in to have a good drink. My set amount is liable to go out the window when I'm two sheets to the wind listening to my music with the headphones ( Usually end up listening to either Floyd, The Smiths or Kate Bush ) and if I've reached my set limit I just take the Fuck it attitude.
These are the times when I'm best off taking the deposit deals in the hope of getting longer game play
 

Steviedoo

Meister Member
MM
Joined
Oct 30, 2015
Location
South
I think we need a sub-forum for "I haven't quit gambling, and I don't want to have to".

I've had so many more struggles in the past few months than I have in years.

I get back on track, play smaller bets, make more modest withdrawals. Use it to play somewhere else or another day.

But less than a month ago, after a few really nice wins that ended up in my ewallet instead of back to my card where I could use them wisely, or play for many weeks or months without touching my bank account, I went right off the deep end with those funds at 32Red. Multiple big deposits. Huge bets. Even had a huge hit that brought me back to a few hundred ahead, played all that back and continued with the madness. I'm ashamed to say how much the sum was. It's been years since I woke up feeling sick about a session. I did manage to stop before I'd completely emptied my ewallet. For the first time ever I set some deposit limits at 32Red.

Sure, a little regret for not cashing out while ahead many times, but was as always money deposited I felt comfortable losing, so I wouldn't feel badly for more than a few hours.

So many months of being sensible, although the total lost was adding up. One bad night, all my feeling of being in control out the window.

Fast forward a couple of weeks, and the remaining funds in the ewallet are gone.

I was surprised at what a struggle it was for me not to go load my card and play before the friday night arrived. While I have not play every single day, it was the first time I didn't when I wanted to, and it makes me aware that just because it hurts less to lose some funds, doesn't mean you truly have things under control.

I need my "harm reduction" strategies still in place. Of not having more than I want to lose freely available to me.

I got lucky this week, and funds are safely in my bank account (well, almost all of them, one withdrawal yet to be received although it's been requested). Cheerfully lost some money at Casino de Montreal that I had brought to play with as I rarely visit a B&M (only my second time since winning large). Didn't hit an ATM once I was broke. Did cash out $20 in comp points to play with, and managed to hit that cashout button for $50 and leave LESS down. I know I enjoyed taking a struggling musician friend out for a nice shrimp dinner last night in Montreal more than I would have enjoyed some more play on Dungeons and Dragons, which is a REALLY fun slot.

Played 20 cent spins with some remaining funds on mobile a for a few half-hour sessions, did well enough to only lose about $17 total or what I'd left to play with. Enjoyed getting bonus rounds and watching the pretty reels spin. No concerns about whether I won or not. Where it's supposed to be, and what it's supposed to feel like.

I find it incredibly helpful to share my struggles. It helps me to put myself back on track. The process of writing or talking with someone helps me identify where a weakness came from, and that even when things are going well, it doesn't mean you have control, that you have just been lucky. Sometimes it's worse when you are winning.

Going to choose going out for some live music and drinks tonight instead of my usual Friday night entertainment online.

Those slots will still be there when it's next time to play.

Casinos WILL have bonus offers another day or another week, I don't need to take them all.

But there will be some cashback at Video Slots, I can avoid housework for a little bit @ .20 or so a spin.

Jasmine bed....Always raw and honest and real....thank you.....I know the struggle....
 

dave1888

Ueber Meister
PABnononaccred2
mm1
Joined
Feb 11, 2013
Location
Bonnie Scotland!
I hear ya I'm losing money left right and centre right now! The best advice is set limits on all your accounts,lock accounts while awaiting substantial withdrawals and try to stay calm when losing (as hard as that may be). Also listen to the mantra of one of the members here can't remember who said it but they had it as their signature for a while "If you must play choose your game,choose your bets and choose your cashout amount before you begin" Or something along those lines. I find staying at bet sizes of 1% my total balance helps(well except for on brutal stuff like 300 Shields,Rhino,DOA and Immortal...)

And be like the cupcake and the cookie below not like the doughnut :D

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