This sick hobby (warning--quitting gambling rant)

[MrVan]

Well, it's been fun, kind of, well not really.....

I have officially cut myself off from any future online casino deposits. The $900 profit I had earlier today turned into a $500 loss because of my complete lack of self control. I don't even know how it happened. I want my life back and the only way I'm going to get it is if I don't ever play slots again. I am glad some have you have managed better than me, but other than KasinoKing, aka23, and granny I highly doubt that there are many people out there are ahead overall. I am sorry to say that I now see gambling as a degenerate, time wasting hobby that perpetuates the idea that money buys you happiness. I wish I would have quit while I was ahead. I think everyone here could benefit from taking a good look at themselves and re-examining why they get pleasure out of tossing electronic money around all day. Recently I have been chasing my losses, but before that I enjoyed winning money online because then I didn't have to worry about anything in real life since I had extra money to have fun with. I was trying to avoid responsibility.

Gambling sucks. It takes all your money, wastes precious hours of life in this beautiful world, and leaves you feeling like crap. I'm sorry if this offends anyone but I hope all of you can find the strength to walk away and get your lives back. I know that not everyone loses lots of money and that some people keep strict limits on their gambling budgets, but I'm guessing that at least 90% of gamblers lose more money than they would like to lose, and to those people I wish you luck. If anyone has any kind words of encouragement I could really use them because I am feeling pretty crappy about myself right now.

 

[Austin49]

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. A real eye opener for me.

I think we all reach our breaking point sooner or later. For the average person, this is not the best hobby to have. It really does suck the life out of you.

Mr. Van take a look at the link I provided, I hope it will help you. It has for me. I won't say good luck on quitting because luck has nothing to do with it. Take it day by day and put some safeguards in place to help you.

 

[Jeff]

Hi
same for me. I have to quit gambling. I lost so much money the last days, that I have nothing left for the last days this month for normal living.
So I have to go to my bank tomorrow and get a credit. Best would be to delete all casino software and stop online gambling for the rest of my life.

Hope to keep my self control for that.

Jeff

 

[spearmaster]

MrVan and Jeff -

Sorry to hear of your bad experiences. The link Austin49 provided is a good place to start - and my old site Got2Bet should also have a link to some compulsive gambling sites at the bottom of every page.

I recommend that everyone stick to a budget - especially important (like for me) - only leave what you need in your Neteller account for the month, and also ask them to disable your Instacash facility, which is cool if you can stay in control but if not can be a downward spiral (trust me I know).

Once you reach your budget, that's it. And every time you have a win, send most of it straight back to your bank account.

I wish you good luck in your future endeavours.

 

[BingoT]

Good Luck to ya MrVan

Good Luck to ya MrVan Just hang in and better things in life are on it's way.
What you say may have other people thinking before they gamble again.
It's true we all say we will quit but we are all looking for that rainbow and no rainbow ever comes.
For control I say gamble what you can afford and that's it and always remember family comes first.
I wish you the very best.
I looked at that site that Austin49 posted and it's very good for all that can use the help.

Take care and better days are on the way.

And everyone as the time of giving is almost here I like to Wish you all the very best also

Happy Thanksgiving
And God Bless

Tom

 

[Tagdog]

To be honest the advice of sticking to your budget probably won't work for mr van, he's already admitted discipline problems.

I think cold turkey is the best, with the help of the gamecare and similar sites. He's both losing money and unhappy doing it, what's the point of coming back with a budget if it's stressful addiction and not enjoyable.

Good luck Mr Van and enjoy your time away from the computer

Tag

 

[The Dude]

Everyone who participates with online casinos/poker rooms needs to understand their own motivations and keep these impulses in check. Kudos for Mr.Van for bringing this topic up. Everyone here needs reminders that there is a real world out there.

If it's games that keeps you playing - check out the "for free" games that IGT and Leading egde designs make available. There are a number of really cool VP and Slot games here:

If this is the case, book mark these sites:

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If it's money you're into, like Spear said - disable your Insta Cash at Neteller.

Another tip, turn off your computer and go take a walk. Get into the real world. If you have a family at home, go play monopoly or some other game where money is involved. You can take care of that "money" fix this way.

If playing online ever affects your relationships or makes a serious dent in your bank account. Stop doing it - period. Thunderstruck or online poker is not worth screwing up your life.

Here are a few links for reference if you feel you have a prob.:

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Also, somewhere in the forum - there is a link to a site that offers a service to block all gambling related websites from your computer. If anyone can dig that up, that would be great.

 

[Austin49]

That would be www.gamblock.com. From what I have read, this program is probably the best of what's out there.

 

[mucullus]

Also, somewhere in the forum - there is a link to a site that offers a service to block all gambling related websites from your computer. If anyone can dig that up, that would be great.

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[ballysdb]

I am also a compulsive gambler. I have to admit that when casinos started to lock my accounts because of the new law I felt pretty good. It felt like someone was going to stop me because I knew I couldn't stop myself. I received an inheritance this past January and I wasn't working. Obviously I was able to stay home and gamble ALOT. Needless to say, I blew through half the money by gambling. When the money was gone and I needed to get a job I found that the urge to gamble was quite diminished. I think it was because I now had a job in a big company where I was involved with a lot of people and I had a lot of stimulation in my life. I think sitting in front of a computer keeps you from a "real" life. I feel I am being satisfied by other thing now such as making money, a career, and even some romance. This post is really directed towards those of us who really do have a problem. Please understand I mean no offense to those who can deposit $20 and play for an hour and then STOP. I cannot do this. If I have the funds available I will gamble until it is gone. I do not enjoy playing for "fun money" if I know I can't play for real someday. It just doesn't cut it. Maybe some of us have to go cold turkey but maybe if you have alot of things to "fill" you up in life, the gambling could become just something you do occassionaly. I don't know if this helps but it's the best advice I can give. God Bless, Debbie

 

[silcnlayc]

Gambling is an addiction. I was 8 when I was first introduced to it by my father. I had a $2 winning ticket at the race track and thats all she wrote.

I have learned to moderate my gambling with the attitude of , tomorrow will also be another day. I didn't quit, for I have tried and the urge was even more powerful, so I knew that I had to do something for myself and that was to get a hold of it as tightly as it held me.

Now, when I play online, I have a goal to reach and if it is reached, I cashout. If I lose, I log off and play in fun mode for "practice" until I feel the urge is gone (boredom sets in and I leave the computer.) this is my way to control my gambling for I know I have tried all other courses, and I know I DON"T WANT HELP for I like to gamble more than I want to quit.

But I knew there must be a medium somewhere and I learned to control myself this way. I fall off the wagon every once in a while (when I have a large win and play most of it back at times which infuriates me) but it has happened less and less to almost once ever 10 withdrawals, which is acceptable to me for I am still ahead on withdrawals since I implemented this pattern ten years ago.

They say if you do it for 21 days (repitition of play) then you have a pattern set and a mind change. It took me 30 days to set my pattern.

I learned to spend more time with my husband this way, knowing if I blow my stash in one go..I am outta there!

I hope you can find that medium to control the urges to play online, for it is truly an awful thing to live with at times, but it also can be more enjoyable when you get to control IT rather than let it control you.

We all have choices and to choose to master this, you must believe you are the stronger of the two.

Good luck in your road to freedom!

 

[amatrine]

Re

I admit it is boredom that does me in. Having been disabled and unable to work for years, I found it way to escape these walls.

Good news is I am finaly recovering from the disability . I went to work for week, but had an allergic reaction the the chemicals I worked with and was in the hospital in one week, that sucked, but during that week I did not gamble. I was so happy just to be out of this house! Also , I now know I CAN work, wich has lifted years of depression, and I have been doing interviews all month, and just had what I think was a sucessful interveiw with a very good comany. Can be stressful finding a job being a woman in a mans feild,
and having a 6 year gap on my resume. Also being 35 not 25. But Im still happy at the PROSPECT of getting out this house! I too spent everything that was extra online gambling. I hate shopping, and buy most of what I need online,lol But Instead of saving any income I made at home say torwards a home downpayment, I would just blow it. It made me depressed. I am on a break rite now, and have erased all the online casinos and have been spending my efforts into finding a job . I sold my affilaite website , as that just tempts me more to spend money,lol All I did with the earnings was gamble them anyway, though it was fun running it, in a sense it gave me something to do.

I had to look at why I was gambling so much. I know it was boredom for me,
and so I am findng ways to overcome boredom and I find the thought of sitting at this computer spending more money at this time, just makes me feel sick. It just reminds me of being bored and sick. I honestly woul still be doing it if I were still ill and no options to get out of this house. Im just thankful I am finaly feeling better) And mabey after I get working a while , I may throw a little bit in here for fun, and have it actualy be FUN again, not something to do because there is nothing else to do

Ama

 

[Austin49]

I guess for me, it's a compulsive personality. I know people who can have one or 2 cigs a day and they never go beyond that. For me, I just an not able to have that kind of control.

I am happy I'm not a drinker. Otherwise I'd have a triple addiction.

To those who can control their gambling, I'm happy for them. It is alot of fun! When I got my visa bill this month, I knew I was out of control. It was like someone punched me in the stomach.

Anyway, best wishes to everyone!

 

[Jeff]

If I see all the winner screenshots, I allways had the hope to get the same wins. But I think I am a player with no luck. May be I played wrong (only slots).

But for now I will stop my online gambling at least for two month and to see if I have more money at the end of the month.

 

[NextToYou]

but other than KasinoKing, aka23, and granny I highly doubt that there are many people out there are ahead overall.

You are wrong here. There are many people that are ahead, but just does not want to brag about it in the public forums for different reasons.

 

[bdangel]

I read this topic with some fascination. I play some casinos, but living on a social security income it is hard to fund accts all the time. I disciplined myself in this regard as i take 50 dollars a month for online gaming. This is my entertainment.

I can hear some saying that is not much, but i have made many withdrawls. I also disciplined myself to hit that withdrawl button and not put my winnings back in. This goes into neteller so i can play different casino.

My advise is never use your living expences to gamble! Make a budget, and stick to it! Make sure your bills are paid and only use what you can afford to lose. Oh by the way...i never look at winning screenshots any more...to depressing...lol

I have been in the situation where i was using my living expenses to gamble...it really takes discipline to stop doing that. I am happy now and so is my bank acct....good luck to you in stopping gambling.

 

[amatrine]

Re

Good news! I just got hired!!!! (comment on my earlier post)

Start Wensday, in tool and dye))

Im out of this house)))))

Ama

 

[GrandMaster]

Congratulations! Well done!

 

[Peaceful1]

I'm kinda glad someone posted this thread. MrVan, the best thing you've done here in this situation is admit that it can be a problem..and no one should really be shunned for it (as long as they recognize it before they get in any deeper).

I have definitely been there, whether its online or at the B&Ms, state lottery, etc..you name it. It is a pretty bad feeling when you have to "beat the bank" to make sure your checks clear, or find yourself going back to the ATM time and again, and heck.. even counting change in the car to make sure you have the toll money to get back (happened to me, luckily, this tow truck driver stopped and said something (I think he could tell cuz I was down the street from the casino early in the morning parked at this 7-Eleven), gave me toll money and enough for a cup of coffee...he too, had been there.

That was quite awhile back and I'm making better money now in my job..but still..it gets outta control once in awhile where even if I didn't need the money for bills and had extra left over.. I could have spent it on so many other things that I definitely could say I had something to show for my money.

Its difficult to draw the line between recreation and what can become a compulsive hobby. I think at times when I "lost control" is primarily when I didn't have enough money for what I needed and saw this as the only way out..believe me, it never works (so to speak, turn a dollar into a hundred).. at least..not when YOU REALLY NEED IT and are acting in haste. And you end up in an even worse position.

I think the biggest loss at times is the time that can be taken up when gambling gets out of control. I am being frank here, because I think it helps even better to hear it from someone who has been there, so yes, I've made mistakes and just have to be sure to never forget them. I have missed beautiful weather days and times that I could have spent visiting friends and family, missed sleep, being late to work, and cramming things I've needed to do in a hurry and stressful rush because I've spent most of the weekend sitting in front of the computer, or even at the B&Ms..I've watched the sun go down and come back up again, and finally left when the sun was going down again..so tired that I was afraid I wouldn't make the drive home. I've seen shifts change at the convenience store playing Keno for hours. Yes, this is absolutely ridiculous. But one only knows what it's like when they are in that position.

I really do enjoy gambling, the thrill and excitement of it, and some of the things that accompany it.. but you really have to live and learn, and if you can find that appropriate balance then you truly are lucky. If not, the best thing to do is to stay away from it, and enjoy all of the other things in life.

I wish you all the best, MrVan..and any others that feel that they are in this same position. It is not too late.

 

[MrVan]

Wow all I can say is THANK YOU everyone. Your support means so much to me and I know I will be happy again soon. I am surprised that this many people responded... it seems like there are many people out there trying to quit. I really appreciate it though. I thought this thread would be mostly ignored.

Thanks everyone

 

[cheekymonkey]

Giving up gambling isn't easy MrVan.

I've been to GA, visited websites, given up my bank cards, have my salary paid to my partner - the whole shebang.

But it still hasn't stopped me. I always find a way.

YOU have to WANT to STOP.

Without YOUR willpower, you cannot do it.

Just remember that YOU and only YOU are your own destiny.

 

[AussieDave]

Gambling is an addiction. I was 8 when I was first introduced to it by my father. I had a $2 winning ticket at the race track and thats all she wrote.

We both share an introduction to gambling at young ages. For me it was a cruise ship (the P&O Iberia) @ 5 and a couple of sly one arm bandit pulls (thanks to dad) scored me a jackpot (around 150 Pound in 1966).

I've gone ass up a couple of times in my life thanks to gambling & my own stupidity. In probably 25 of those years (legal age gambling) I've let close to a million dollars AUD slip thru my fingers; that's not including winnings.

But it's not the money that's the biggest loss, it's the friends, family and partners and most importantly one self that you end up disappointing and letting down @ the end of the day.

Fortunately over the last 2 years I've managed to get my gambling under control. These days I only use disposable income. What I make in my off line business I use for living, savings and general expenses. What I get from my casino portals I use for gambling or special treats.

I'm still not ahead, but I try not to chase my loses, I think that's the key, well for me it is anyway.

If my Neteller is bare then I don't gamble. I've not gambled since 25 Oct 2006.

Sometimes I think wtf but I then remember what it used to be like & I don't want to return to living like that again!

Believe me there is nothing more grounding that not having a cent in your pocket and realising that you have destroyed another relationship & business in another out of control gambling binge.

MrVan thanks for posting this thread, I'm sure you'll find your way to where it is you really want to be!

Edit: Now if I can only find a way to kick the smoking I'll be happy

 

[spearmaster]

Meister's got the links I was referring to

Budget control can be a real PITA sometimes. This is one of the reasons I disabled Instacash last year (though it's been re-enabled for other reasons). Once you don't have Instacash, and no nearby casinos, there aren't many other ways to fund your gambling unless you want to wait 3-4 days for an ACH deposit to clear Neteller (by which time hopefully the urge is gone anyhow). Your credit cards won't work (in many countries) so that's not an option.

A bank wire takes time to process as well - but if you're willing to go to the bank and consider something like this, you ought to take a left turn somewhere and go find something else, like a video arcade, or even a GA meeting... video games can be addicting too but they are way less expensive!

Gamblock is something you should install on your computer right away if you want to quit. I believe the software is free. Another way could be to enable your anti-whatever programs like McAfee or Norton which will block most of the ads - as well as Net Nanny or similar, which will also prevent you getting to the actual sites.

MrVan, I think you will be surprised (well, I guess you're already surprised) that there are a lot of people who sympathize with you - and many of us who have "been there, done that" as well. But you can also take heart in the fact that many of these people have also beaten their demons... better control of one's emotions doesn't happen overnight.

I have a less severe example - I once reached a weight of 107 kilos (about 235 pounds) which was way the heck over what I wanted to be. One day, as I was enroute to South Korea for a conference, I felt a bit strange... and by the time I had landed, I knew I had the flu - and I almost never get sick. That trip I could barely eat, and by the time I was back I had lost about 5 kilos (normally I gain 5 kilos on trips).

Since then, my weight gradually worked its way down as I started eating smaller portions, not because I tried hard, but because I was generally occupied with something other than eating... hovered between 95-97 kilos for a year or so... then dropped to 94 recently after going to a spa and hitting a far infrared sauna which took nearly a kilo off after just 25 minutes.

Before I knew it, I had dropped below 94 - and then I knew I was going to make an effort since I was nearing my target weight of 90 or below, without having actually tried. Dropped the carbs last week and lost 2.5 kilos in 4 days while still eating like a pig LOL... then unfortunately had to go to Dublin and you can't exactly choose when you're in the middle of nowhere so I've probably put those 2.5 kilos back on - but back into the low-carbs as soon as I got back and I am hoping I will hit the target before my next trip which could come any day now.

Believe it or not, there are ways to get around your emotions. After doing all those things above (disabling Instacash, etc.) find something - anything - that you like doing - and do it often if you can - especially sporting activities. Or come over to Thailand and work for me for a few months... I guarantee you will forget all about online gambling

If my Neteller is bare then I don't gamble. I've not gambled since 25 Oct 2006.

Exactly. No instacash, no funds in Neteller, no gamble.

Now if I can only find a way to kick the smoking I'll be happy

Next on my list - first I gotta hit target weight. Can't try to beat two things at the same time, and I also don't believe in going cold turkey - too much emotional stress will not help a bit, it will chase you right back to your old habits.

 

[MrVan]

It is both sad and encouraging to know that others have lost more than I have, but right now I need encouragement so I will take it as that.

Here is a list of 10 things I like to do besides gamble (thanks for the diary space Casinomeister )

1. Golf! (too bad it's winter lol)
2. Drive my car (Infiniti G35 coupe 6-speed )
3. Read books, like Carlos Castenada's series or Timothy Leary type books
4. Play Xbox 360 (mostly just the racing games and Tiger Woods)
5. Think about my future, what do I want to learn and accomplish?
6. Listen to music
7. Do good in school (mechanical engineering right now, thinking about switching to a math major)
8. Buy weird lamps and other intriguing lighting apparatuses (I've always loved Vegas just because of the lights, not the gambling)
9. Eat french fries (my favorite food!)
10. Love my girlfriend and make my parents proud of me.

Ahhh that feels good.

Spearmaster I have the opposite problem as you ... I am 6ft tall, 130lbs (less than 60 kilos lol) and sitting on my computer all day is just making me scrawnier. Hopefully now that I am putting gambling behind me I will find time to work out a little and be able to break 130 lbs. for the first time in my life.

I've never even really had an urge to gamble more than $20 of my own money, it's just that after that $20 is gone, I can't stop even if I want to. It wasn't even about the gambling anymore. There were even times when I was almost in tears telling myself "DO NOT DEPOSIT ANY MORE MONEY" over and over as I helplessly watched the mouse cursor click the deposit button. I can't wait to remember what it's like to see gambling from the outside once again.

 

[Weedlayer]

Good news! I just got hired!!!! (comment on my earlier post)

Start Wensday, in tool and dye))

Im out of this house)))))

Ama

Yeah, congratulations!

That's what I do, and it's tool and die, not dye. But you're obviously very excited.
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Gambling does attract obsessive/compulsive type personalities, doesn't it? I myself am definitely in this category. I wish our shared hobby had never brought such unhappiness to anyone on this board.

 

[AussieDave]

I am 6ft tall, 130lbs (less than 60 kilos lol) and sitting on my computer all day is just making me scrawnier. Hopefully now that I am putting gambling behind me I will find time to work out a little and be able to break 130 lbs. for the first time in my life.

I was like 6' 3" and 65kg till I hit 44 Used to walk everywhere instead of taking car. Now 12 months later I've stacked on the weight, 25kg extra gain.

Maybe due to less stress and now I drive everywhere, puls sit in front of PC eating junk all day & night.

 

[AussieDave]

first I gotta hit target weight.

I'll send you the motorised treadmill my partner wanted. Tells me she doesn't feel safe walking on the streets and with summer fast approaching it's too hot anyway. She'd rather walk in air-conditioned comfort...

So yep I go out and buy her this contraption (if your a guy you'll know you got to do these things or you miss out on more important things )

Anyway's she's used it 3 times in 4 months

It's collecting dust and my foot has ran into in the dark a few times too.

Must say it looks impressive though

 

[GrandMaster]

7. Do good in school (mechanical engineering right now, thinking about switching to a math major)

Quit gambling now and switch to mathematics!

 

[tim5ny]

I commend you Mr. Van for your honesty and courage. On the rare occassions when we see someone baring their souls and exposing the reality of what gambling can do to one's life, it's like stepping out from the fantasy and into reality. Many of us sit in front of our computers and scan the Winner's screenshots wondering why everyone else is winning and having such a great time while we're sweating out how we're going to make next month's mortgage payment. My only advise would be... if you can't deposit, then you can't lose money. Contact every banking establishment in the circle of online casinos, Neteller, Firepay, Citadel, etc. , and have them cut you off from depositing. This is a surfire way to end your online career. If you have any land-based casinos nearby, then that's a whole new battle you're going to have to fight. Take Care! Tim

 

[tim5ny]

Gambling is an addiction. I was 8 when I was first introduced to it by my father. I had a $2 winning ticket at the race track and thats all she wrote.

I have learned to moderate my gambling with the attitude of , tomorrow will also be another day. I didn't quit, for I have tried and the urge was even more powerful, so I knew that I had to do something for myself and that was to get a hold of it as tightly as it held me.

Now, when I play online, I have a goal to reach and if it is reached, I cashout. If I lose, I log off and play in fun mode for "practice" until I feel the urge is gone (boredom sets in and I leave the computer.) this is my way to control my gambling for I know I have tried all other courses, and I know I DON"T WANT HELP for I like to gamble more than I want to quit.

But I knew there must be a medium somewhere and I learned to control myself this way. I fall off the wagon every once in a while (when I have a large win and play most of it back at times which infuriates me) but it has happened less and less to almost once ever 10 withdrawals, which is acceptable to me for I am still ahead on withdrawals since I implemented this pattern ten years ago.

They say if you do it for 21 days (repitition of play) then you have a pattern set and a mind change. It took me 30 days to set my pattern.

I learned to spend more time with my husband this way, knowing if I blow my stash in one go..I am outta there!

I hope you can find that medium to control the urges to play online, for it is truly an awful thing to live with at times, but it also can be more enjoyable when you get to control IT rather than let it control you.

We all have choices and to choose to master this, you must believe you are the stronger of the two.

Good luck in your road to freedom!

I'm impressed with this posting. There's some real wisdom to be had in it's content. Thank you!

 

[MrVan]

Quit gambling now and switch to mathematics!

I really think I will. I got a 730 in math (only 510 verbal) on the SAT in 8th grade and I have always loved it. In fact I think a large part of the reason I enjoyed gambling is because of all the math involved. I enjoyed figuring out how much I would win if I hit something and, well I guess thats pretty much it lol. Thanks for the encouragement!

 

[Peaceful1]

It is both sad and encouraging to know that others have lost more than I have, but right now I need encouragement so I will take it as that.

And you should absolutely view it as part of the encouragement.. a lot of the stories are accompanied by how the person somehow gained control/balance of their situation, letting you know that it IS possible..and there are brighter days ahead. It always feels more assuring to hear advice from people who have been there rather than being "lectured" from those who have not.

From what you've listed you definitely have a lot of positive things going for you, and many reasons to feel great about yourself, as do many of us. When I look back, I not only see the times when my gambling was out of control, but I also think about how my overall financial situation was (I was separated, a single parent, making less than half of what I make now, and my primary bills were rent, gas and electric and food - I wouldn't even be on here posting years ago, until I struggled to keep my head up and determination high, and, well... basically, went from rags to riches. And that is not just speaking materialistically...it is my overall being. When I look at what I've accomplished, I KNOW I wouldn't wanna throw that away by being too compulsive..it's definite incentive.) Yes, I still gamble, but you do learn to see the bigger picture overall and what is best in the long run.

 

[Addisyn]

I quit gambling in 2001 and just started up again when my husband was constantly going to the Indian casinos about a two hour drive each way from our house. I tried them once and didn't like them.

The way I quit before is I had Neteller and Click2Pay lock my accounts. I couldn't deposit, I couldn't play.

Recently I received an inheritance and I have been playing with that money. I, too, have a compulsive personality and get very carried away sometimes. I regret it when I toss away $600.00, but while I am doing it I don't know why. Guess that is an addiction.

Good luck MrVan. You are supported by us all.

Thanks for bringing this topic to the forefront. It needs to be discussed openly and candidly.

 

[WAYLANDER]

There were even times when I was almost in tears telling myself "DO NOT DEPOSIT ANY MORE MONEY" over and over as I helplessly watched the mouse cursor click the deposit button.

That sentence hit me like a juggernaut

It may help to get a photo of the person/persons you love most in life, on the back write how you feel when you have lost all your money and how your gambling would effect them and your relationship with them.

Put it by your computer, or in your wallet when out, when you feel the urge coming have a good look and read what you have written.

WAYLANDER

 

[amatrine]

re

Something I have done when I see myself getting out of control,
I take and disconect my computer, and put it in the closet for a few weeks.
If you need to check email, goto the library. I have a problem when I loose,
I take it personal sometimes. I am very competative, and that does not work in gambling. When I get into one of those modes, the computer goes for a while. Of course then I go through computer withdrawl, but I always amaze myself how I can actually live without my computer again. My husband has threatened to take away my internet acesss a couple of times when I go overboard on a loosing session.

If you have high speed internet access switch to dial up, it takes longer to download the games, at least for me thats enough to discourage me because I have no patience.

Ama

 

[vinylweatherman]

Win or Lose

I gamble mainly because of the rush it generates. I started young, my Dad would spend hours on horserace gambling, studying form, making and discarding systems - He still does it at 75! He doesn't bet high though, 20p to 50p bets mostly. Naturally, he did not discourage me from playing arcade machines from the age of around 6 or 7. I didn't have them where I lived though, so it was a case of save up all year and play for one or two weeks in the summer seaside holiday.
I went "professional" so to speak when I had transport, I could get to the places far more easily.
I began gaming online in 2004, and the lure was indeed all the "free money" that was offered, and the websites that sprung up about "easy money". Well, it may have been early on, but nowdays it's a myth, bounses and promotions are NOT easy money, just take a while to do the math and you will see than many have a negative expectation dressed up as a guarantee of winning something. The main problem I have had online is the lack of feel for the money, after all it's just numbers.
Recently, we started having Australian style slot machines here, up to 2 per spin and 500 Jackpots. Playing at 2 a spin using coins and notes and it really notices when you go through 50 or more and find the wallet bare, but spin Thunderstruck and see the numbers go down and the effect is much less, and it is easy to forget how much has gone through long term.
I have kept a record of my position at every single casino, so I can see how I am REALLY doing. This puts big wins, and great runs into perspective, also, the totals column makes for bigger numbers, and when they are red (negative), it makes more of an impression.
I have found that I am better off playing at many casinos, sharing the money round, rather than piling in at a few, and chasing into what seems to be a locked in negative run.
My biggest blunder, due to shameful lack of self control, was to win 20,000 one day in an amazing run, only to lose it the next in the hope of repeating the process, I then won 10,000 back the day after, but instead of recognising that even clawing 10,000 back was an astounding result, I continued till it had gone, the result was that I was right back where I started from, instead of having 20,000 in my Neteller for further promotions in other casinos.
Now, if I have that kind of run, I fire the money out of Neteller into my bank, leaving what I would have had if I had just had the normal run of luck. I can still play in the promotions and tournaments, but cannot go overboard as the money goes into banking limbo for at least a week, and can only get back into casinos by putting it through credit cards and a single debit cards, and these have strict transaction limits unlike Neteller.
One way to control things, short of quitting altogether, is to uninstall large numbers of casinos, or even all of them, and then spend a while tidying up the PC, and anything else that needs doing, and reinstall casinos from scratch based on what they are offering, but bear in mind they will make it sound better than it is.
Another way that helps is to celebrate a win by bying something you need, followed by something you want, thus locking in the upside, (ever tried depositing an LCD Digital TV at a casino for play )
If this doesn't work, then spend time discussing the issues on a forum such as this, or with friends, I can be on my PC, yet not actually gambling by doing this.
I have been considering building my own PC for the next one, and this will involve, above all, TIME, time spent in an activity which is not gambling, and could take some while, at least the first time. The payoff will be the opportunity to sample the casinos as they are meant to be enjoyed, but will also allow me to at last use my iPod, and archive my old camcorder footage, even preserve my old vinyl record collection.
I can still play in the Casino Action tournaments by letting Thunderstruck run at 9p a spin all day with the sound turned up while I build the other PC!

 

[liquidsoap]

Why Gamble?????????

Its one thing I do really enjoy. I not only gamble online but I love to go to the horse track, and casinos realitivley near me...

I would like to quit gambling but as silc said but I really dont just want too.
I have had some great times with friends and some bad times, but I really do enjoy it..
When I first started I Would play once a week, deposit $50 here. And that was it, then it turned into an addiction, where I would play everyday of the week.

I have soon wisened up, and can only play what I can afford... Some times it might be multiple times a week, sometimes once a month. But I can honestly say, I have changed for the better.
I would personally like to thank all of you guys for these responses, to see that I was once not alone...
I would also like to thank Bryan himself, with out this forum I might have been in gambling debt.

Sure seeing the winners screenshots gives me the itch to play, but being in this "gambling community" gives me something to look foward everyday that is not spinning the slot machine or the dealing of cards. I often find myself smiling, and saying way to go out loud as if I had a big win myself when I see some of the winners screen shots. Or find myself cussing up a strom at some of the screen shots that suck.

There are certain members of this forum that I would like to call my friends even though I have not the people personally.

That being said, take car Mr. Van.
I know its tough to change/quit, but keep at it!
Good luck in the future!

 

[spearmaster]

1. Golf! (too bad it's winter lol)
4. Play Xbox 360 (mostly just the racing games and Tiger Woods)

Golf - come work for me in Thailand and you can review about 150 courses or so... no kidding!

Xbox - wait for Playstation 3 - then join or start up a review site comparing both products...

I have been considering building my own PC for the next one, and this will involve, above all, TIME, time spent in an activity which is not gambling, and could take some while, at least the first time. The payoff will be the opportunity to sample the casinos as they are meant to be enjoyed, but will also allow me to at last use my iPod, and archive my old camcorder footage, even preserve my old vinyl record collection.

Now THAT's a damn good idea...

 

[EasyRhino]

Van, I also want to wish you luck in quitting. I think that's probably the best choice for you. Heck, you can still come back to the forums and chat (just don't look at the winners screenshot page!).

And I think you nailed it: gambling is - at its best - a fun waste of time (like playing video games or going out and drinking or whatever). And at worst, it's a ruinous waste of time.

 

[jetset]

Play Station 3 is on a couple of ambitious Christmas lists presented to me, but I was reading this week that the damn things are priced at around $600?

 

[winbig]

Play Station 3 is on a couple of ambitious Christmas lists presented to me, but I was reading this week that the damn things are priced at around $600?

Yes, and the going rate on ebay will (is) $1600

 

[Simmo!]

PS3 looks amazing from the game screenshots I've seen. But my experience of computer games is that playing solo gets boring after a while.

However if you are looking for a passtime that gives a similar rush to online gambling, then take up one of the FPS games in multiplayer mode on your PC. I had several years doing this in a "clan" playing Quake/Q2 and Unreal Tournament and I can honestly say that it was fantastic fun and had a sense of community and competitiveness that really got you involved.

I'm a bit out of touch with the latest FPS games, but I would seriously consider looking into this as an alternative form of entertainment. The thing about gambling is the "rush" of a good win. You get this with FPS in team and deathmatch games online. Recommended

These days you also have the MMORPG ("Massively-Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Game") games which combine real money with multiplayer gaming. I've not played these but I can see the attraction.

Hey, maybe we should set up a server for one of these games and form some teams? We'd probably mostly be at the same level as each other now too Might form a nice occassional distraction with some community about it.

 

[KasinoKing]

Some great posts in this thread - especially Silcnlayc, Amatrine, Cynthia & VWM!

Pretty similar story for me (as I expect most of you know, as you've all read the 'How did I start' page on my site ); started on the 2p fruities at around 13-14yrs and gradually moved on to bigger & worser things - club machines. I lost count of the times I went down the town & blew £100 or more on these cash vacuums and called myself all the names under the sun on my way home, tail between legs. Total insanity - and I knew it.

When I started online in 2001 I quickly fell into the loss-chasing trap and started getting scary credit card bills. After about 4 months I knew where I was heading & had to make a decision: Stop gambling, or stop losing. I knew the former would be very hard, so I chose the latter, which is slightly easier. I became a 'bonus hunter' with a view to enabling me to carry on playing whilst hopefully chipping away at my gambling debit (or at least, not making it any bigger).

5-years later I'm still doing the same thing and I'm still winning (average 9 winning months in every 10). I paid off ALL my debts several years ago and my gambling has been entirely self-funding since 2002. And I'm still low-rolling all the way! I physically can not make myself do big bets - the thought of losing more than say $10-15 in one go sends shivers down my spine!
What I do is not rocket science, but it does need a fair amount of self-control, discipline & above all, patience! I do spend way too long on the PC, I know it. But TV bores the pants off me & while I'm winning I'm happy doing it.

Gambling is not suitable for everyone, it is dangerous & does wreck lives, so I urge anyone who feels they are losing more than they can afford or are comfortable with, to take action before it gets too bad. (Been there, done it, got the t-shirt, ain't going back!)

Admitting you have a problem & doing something about it is much harder than pretending it's not happening, so well done to Mr.Van and others like him - I wish you the very best.

 

[POlka78]

PS3 looks amazing from the game screenshots I've seen. But my experience of computer games is that playing solo gets boring after a while.

However if you are looking for a passtime that gives a similar rush to online gambling, then take up one of the FPS games in multiplayer mode on your PC. I had several years doing this in a "clan" playing Quake/Q2 and Unreal Tournament and I can honestly say that it was fantastic fun and had a sense of community and competitiveness that really got you involved.

I'm a bit out of touch with the latest FPS games, but I would seriously consider looking into this as an alternative form of entertainment. The thing about gambling is the "rush" of a good win. You get this with FPS in team and deathmatch games online. Recommended

These days you also have the MMORPG ("Massively-Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Game") games which combine real money with multiplayer gaming. I've not played these but I can see the attraction.

Hey, maybe we should set up a server for one of these games and form some teams? We'd probably mostly be at the same level as each other now too Might form a nice occassional distraction with some community about it.

Iam sure your advice is well-intentioned but for a compulsive person this would be like changing from crack to heroin. I played for years Fps on the highest competition level while i dont have any problem with gambling, only in it for the bonus , i stil look back at my fps phase as serious wasted time.

 

[Simmo!]

Iam sure your advice is well-intentioned but for a compulsive person this would be like changing from crack to heroin. I played for years Fps on the highest competition level while i dont have any problem with gambling, only in it for the bonus , i stil look back at my fps phase as serious wasted time.

Yes it is addictive but in a different way and without the financial implications. I look back at my FPS phase as a lot of fun and I made some good friends out of it that I still have 6 years later More like changing from Crack to Caffeine IMO

 

[amatrine]

Re

I can agree on both points. There are times I have taken a break only to get really addicted to some online game. Dont laugh , but the worst was neopets.
I originaly set it up for my daughter. Then I realized this was fun. They have casino games, auctions, challenges, and you can collect rare items, set up a store. Anyway, I would sit at my computer 12 hours straight playng this game, I used to have dreams at night about getting real magic paint brushes,lol. This went on for a year and a half to the point I had millions of neopoints, and I FINALY started getting bored of playing it. I then sold my neopoints, and got burned on the deal, they reveresed the paypal, and after that I never went back,lol I did make some freinds in my guild, that phone me to this day. There was also that short stent with pogo, but that only lasted about 6 months and I got bored. I can say when I was playing neopets and hit the big progressive on thier slot for a million neopoints I was just as excited as if I hit a million dollars,lol Back then when I played casinos I generaly only played MG and once in a while. I got in trouble the first time I realized RTG had nickle games. I thought wow I can play all day on a little bit of money. But it sucks you just as dry. $1500 a month playing nickles and never wining anything. I did better playing 200 a month mg, and at least I won sometimes . Anyway, I have an addictive personality myself , I smoke, and cant quit for the life of me. The computer itself has always been an addiction. I had a computer since the vic 20 came out. I remember being 12 years old playing video poker for the first time, ( not real gambling) and my brothers and I fighting over the computer to play it every night.
Then when the mini coomdore 64 came out, us fighting over that to play games. Then when BBS boards came out , the real fights began,lol
I guess thats why for me, I have to just hang up my computer every once in a while. If they didnt have online gaming I would not play so much. I lived in Reno, and didnt gable that much, I vist the indians about 10 miles away mabey three times a year. But When I can sit here in my pjs and play and not have to go anywhere and deal with a lot of people, parking issues etc, I can get carried away when Im bored to death. Im SOOO glad I start working tomorrow)) Of course I would be sick with a cold at the moment. But I wont let that stop me. I need this job for my sanity

Ama

 

[The Dude]

I've taken a number of your suggestions and uploaded a page on the main site. You can either bookmark this or send the URL to whomever it may apply to. Thanks all for your contributions.

If you think that there are other improtant links or what-nots that should be included, please let me know. Thanks!

https://www.casinomeister.com/quit-gambling/

 

[MrVan]

i am sure many people will appreciate that ^^

 

[onemoorebaby]

I also have been feeling this way of late. I have an addictive personality and I also smoke and cant give up (patches, gum hynotherapy you name it I have tried it). I though have wondered if I stoppped the online gambling if I could quit smoking too. I smoke 90 percent of the time when i am spinning. This is disgusting I know but even if I have just put one out and I get freespins well i light one up without hesitation. Its even been nicknamed my "feature smoke".

I spend too much online and I do know that but I get such a thrill from it.

I started out when microgaming casinos first came out. I maxed my credit card in three days playing keno of all things lol.

I hated the slots as they were not like the land based ones here and had no features, That was until that snake charmer one came out (cant think what its called) then the slots online came into my life.

The free spins are what kill me. I play until i get them. Then i get them and play until i get them again and so on until i have nothing left. Its a vicious cycle. Come to think of it in all these years I have only cashed out ten times maximum.

My most recent win which was a jackpot at party casino for 8k. I was only betting 18 cents and i nearly sh&t.
I cashed out 3000 and guess what I did then, yep played the rest all back.

I got rid of all my credit cards and shut my neteller asking for it to never be opened again thinking that would slow me down but nope then i found ecocard which can be funded by money transfer. Then a group of my favourite casinos started accepting money transfer too and boom I was back at it full steam ahead again.

I do enjoy it and really wish i could deposit a certain amount per week and stick to it but I'm just not disciplined enough.

I recently put a whole heap of games on the computer I really like these sim ones where you make cities, zoos, circuses etc and I have spent a little more time playing them instead of gambling but of course something always pulls me back. Whether it be a complimentary bonus added to an account that I get emailed about or a too good to refuse bonus. In this last week i have had 13 comps emailed to me.

To all the players who are disciplined I really applaud you as its not easy.

 

[KasinoKing]

The computer itself has always been an addiction. I had a computer since the vic 20 came out. I remember being 12 years old playing video poker for the first time, ( not real gambling) and my brothers and I fighting over the computer to play it every night.
Then when the mini commodore 64 came out, us fighting over that to play games.

Wow! That takes me back!
I've still got my VIC20 & C64 in the attic - been there for donkeys years - I wonder if they still work...
(Also got a 486 with Windows 3.11 if anyone wants to make me an offer..?)

Good luck with the new job!