I've heard both sides of the tough love/rock bottom argument plenty of times, I've been here before and the thing with rock bottom is unless you actually snuff yourself there's always potential for a new low.
I can appreciate most of the arguments being made here, like I said this isn't my first time or account here and they've all ended similarly, although not so catastrophically in terms of dollar value, but I think a lot of the anger from some people is because they see themselves, or at least a potential version of themselves in this behavior and need to deny it could ever happen to them.
In terms of my mindset at the moment; I'm getting by, I still have two young kids and a wife to take care of, all with COVID, which is a handful, and my business- which is by design isolated financially from my grasp, and I am focusing currently on using the Sinclair method to kick the booze, then after that I will be investigating any remaining treatments available for my psychological issues, once healthcare manages to recover somewhat in Australia.
I am not offended by people preaching at/to me unless it is done in a mean spirited away as those pm's from a few pages were.. even those I mainly felt sorry for someone to be able to have such vitriol for another human.
Anyway sorry this is all a bit rushed I'm real short on spare time, both kids are screaming, as usual, and all my posts need to be mod approved so likely come in long after the arguments are concluded.
E: I know I sound rather blasé about the whole thing but that is because, well I am- I've done this before, I know about how many days the self loathing lasts, then gets buried and eventually the old urges resurface, it all unfolds in about the same timeframe. So even though the idea of drinking or gambling at the moment makes me feel physically ill to the point I haven't been able to eat in at least four days, I know that soon enough I will be thinking about it again as just one beer or $100 for whatever reason or stress my mind concucts.
And so; so so so- what to do?
Well, for me the only thing that has ever worked is the Sinclair method- extinction of the hardwired reward systems accumulated over a lifetime.
What this means in practice is that I take a pill, wait an hour, and then have a beer.
Except the beer now tastes like water, or worse, makes you sick.. surprisingly quickly your brain unlearns decades of ingrained habitual abuse.
Solving the alcohol problem is of course only half the battle- but I like to think it will, combined with existing safeguards, be enough to finally realize that if I can't win with a $200k deposit what's even the point, I'll never win that back.
