It's difficult as a moderator to know where individuals draw the line. The best I can do is to judge on how I would react...it's not perfect but it's about the best I can do without understanding people's thresholds.
I deliberately don't take part in confrontations, partly because I feel as a moderator it could get awkward, partly because I feel the best way of treating people who are rude and abnoxious is simply to ignore them.
When I see posters responding to criticism, I make a judgement based on their attitude: if I see sensible and considered responses, I keep a close eye and might delete / edit posts etc if the criticism gets too personal. If they show aggression back, I leave them to fight it out. Invariably it ends in tears but you make your bed IMO. A *lot* of posters here report posts they feel are unfair too and that plays a big part. This thread currently has zero open complaints for what it's worth.
IMO if you want to be confrontational, then you have to be prepared to take it too.
I don't see my role as Moderator as being a nanny though and I certainly don't read every post and thread - I'd never get any work done! If someone has a problem with another poster and asks for help, I'll take a look and decide what action should be taken, but please don't expect me to take sides and fight battles because that's not what we're here for.
Gambling, like politics, is emotional and will attract all sorts. You have to trust participants to use their best judgement in participating but at the end of the day I'm happy to step in if a poster PM's me asking for me to look into something or reports a post. I appreciate a lot of people find it difficult to deal with criticism and I also abhore rudeness, but it's a two-way street.
If you think someone has been rude, report the post. We don't/can't read everything but we'll happily look into it. Until today I haven't been following your situation so I don't really fully know what it's about I'm afraid and no-one's reported anything which is unusual in threads where attacks are getting personal.
Cheers
Simmo!
Interesting.
I think it's because it has happened before and nothing was done. And even currently it's being "pooh poohed" off as if it was NO BIG deal.
But it was a big deal to me.
I mean - don't get me wrong - I can handle my own... And sheesh - Simmo - If it gets THAT bad - I can ALWAYS (grin) Out type anyone on this forum with the exclusion of JHV...
Perhaps my style of posting irritates some - but realistically that has never been grounds for the situation that has occurred in the last couple of days.
In my humble opinion MY situation started with the WANNABET POST - to the 3dice post by Funeral (who we made up by the way) - and then I posted an affiliate question - which got completely derailed --- and then the 4.4 post...
I mean - it's a lotta reading - but if you know the background on folks - and you know the comments made - then you get the picture.
I cannot - and am not the ONLY person who sees it.
And I was shocked at the lack of response.
Probably because people got that deer in the headlight look - or maybe the popcorn tasted really good - I dunno.
But what I do know is that if this is NORMAL behavior and acceptable behavior then I am not sure what I think of that.
I believe it was a organized group of "we're gonna do this to this person"...
Call me paranoid if you will - but then go read the comments - and then --- take a day to read thru those SAME people comments -- to others - and where those people are now... hmmmm methinks most are gone - or they've slipped under the "PROTECTION - OF THOSE WHO FORCED THEM THERE" THUMBS...
I'm not about to be forced to do anything I don't believe in.
And I'm not gonna take being treated like dog meat by someone because I refuse to bow down to them.
IN all HONESTY - I truly appreciate you locking the thread - because it wasn't going to go anywhere... It would be one person saying "get your head together - you're crazy - nothing was said about YOU" and me saying "yes there was - and I'm not crazy I'm also not stupid... " and so on and so forth.
You're absolutely right - I have 2 or 3 choices - I can leave and say no sweat off my figurative testicles... or I can stay and keep trying to be ME... or I can try and stop this from happening to ME again by confronting and dealing with it - and putting it out for everyone to see...
Remember - some of it has to do with timing... So - if you don't get the concept completely - but can feel it a little bit... You're missing the timing element...
ANYHOW - thanks for trying to understand it...
I'm sure there are other points of view - but right now I can only see my point of view.
Not that I think I'm perfectly right - but I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I am not ALL wrong.