mysticjoz
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- Apr 10, 2007
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- somewhere... over the rainbow!
Hi all...
Ok.. so we have laws... I abide by them.. as I am sure most do. Except my ex!!
I moved out of Massachusettes 5-6 years ago. BUT, when you have children and they are born IN the state of Ma.. you are "married to the state" which I found out when I wanted to move them to NH for a "better and safer life" !
So... OK I can not move OUT of the state without the permission of the other parent! Who...
#1) had 2 cases opened by DSS (department of Social Services)
a) the first one stated he "abused my son physically" ... they came to MY home.. they went through MY closets, refridgerator, and even tried lifting my childrens clothing!! (to look for "bruises").. needless to say, they said they came to me because "I was the custodial parent".. they dropped it.
b) the second case by DSS stated he was "drinking and using drugs while caring for the two minor children..." AGAIN they came to MY home.. and gave both him and I "assessment plans" which included the boys going to couseling.. I complied. He did not. He was told he had to attend AA meetings, etc.
#2) when the judge found out these charges and the fact that my ex voluntarily entered a group for men that batter thier wives (EMERGE) he also ordered my ex to comply with the DSS assessment plan and NOT to drink prior to seeing the kids.
Now, To move to NH he fought it.. It went all the way to trial!! I had NO lawyer and learned over a few months how to represent myself and my children. How to submit "exhibits" and "facts" ... I even had to put my own mother on the stand! But I won the right to move them out of Mass...
the child support was set at $226.00 per week with $26 per week going to the father for "the inconvenience of our move to NH!" (gas, repairs, etc) that was in 2003!
In July 2004 (one week before a scheduled vacation with the kids ).. I found out when he did NOT show up to pick up the boys that "he was arrested for his 5th DUI!!!" To make matters even better "he cut off a cop and they had it all on video tape!!" So.. he went for a jury trial and spent July 2004 - October 2006 behind bars! Lost his liceance for life!
Now, all that time he was still getting the $26 per week for gas and repairs and to this day he still does!!!! I have tried to get this judge to hear this fact .. with no luck! (that's almost 4 grand!)
While in jail they sold the house and made a $120,000.00 PROFIT and tried to lower the child support to $50 a month! This time I was up against his lawyer who did end up looking like a jackass!
I won 1/2 of what was left after one month! $50,000 in escrow for the boys to get thier $200.00 per week.. my ex mother in law was and still is in charge of the child support payments.
Back then I addressed the $26 a week he was getting and the judge ignored it.
Now... he sits in Maui for the 3rd time since getting out of jail.
I had him served the day before he left (for a modification and reimbursement of the $26 per week times 4 years and an increase in child support since the cost of raising the two boys has greatly increased since 2003!! )
AFTER my ex got served - my child support stopped!!
I have gotten 1 child support payment in a month!!.
The boys and I just barely avoided eviction!
So... I have to ask opinions.
First ... How many people do YOU know who got 5 DUI's BEFORE going to jail?
Why does this judge NOT listen to facts and figures???
How can I get this judge to listen? IF I can not afford a lawyer myself
but they can!
Does it seem my ex is (was) "above the law?"
Is the judge purposely ignoring facts on money issues? or is
this just a case of "ignorance" on the judges part??
Also.. I have tried to move this case here, and my ex postponed that too!
I am open to any and all suggestions and input! Positive or Negative.
I am not trying to air my "dirty laundry"... I do need some opinions! (At the least they will motivate me to get the paperwork more in order and ready for court! ,,,, again )
Ok.. so we have laws... I abide by them.. as I am sure most do. Except my ex!!
I moved out of Massachusettes 5-6 years ago. BUT, when you have children and they are born IN the state of Ma.. you are "married to the state" which I found out when I wanted to move them to NH for a "better and safer life" !
So... OK I can not move OUT of the state without the permission of the other parent! Who...
#1) had 2 cases opened by DSS (department of Social Services)
a) the first one stated he "abused my son physically" ... they came to MY home.. they went through MY closets, refridgerator, and even tried lifting my childrens clothing!! (to look for "bruises").. needless to say, they said they came to me because "I was the custodial parent".. they dropped it.
b) the second case by DSS stated he was "drinking and using drugs while caring for the two minor children..." AGAIN they came to MY home.. and gave both him and I "assessment plans" which included the boys going to couseling.. I complied. He did not. He was told he had to attend AA meetings, etc.
#2) when the judge found out these charges and the fact that my ex voluntarily entered a group for men that batter thier wives (EMERGE) he also ordered my ex to comply with the DSS assessment plan and NOT to drink prior to seeing the kids.
Now, To move to NH he fought it.. It went all the way to trial!! I had NO lawyer and learned over a few months how to represent myself and my children. How to submit "exhibits" and "facts" ... I even had to put my own mother on the stand! But I won the right to move them out of Mass...
the child support was set at $226.00 per week with $26 per week going to the father for "the inconvenience of our move to NH!" (gas, repairs, etc) that was in 2003!
In July 2004 (one week before a scheduled vacation with the kids ).. I found out when he did NOT show up to pick up the boys that "he was arrested for his 5th DUI!!!" To make matters even better "he cut off a cop and they had it all on video tape!!" So.. he went for a jury trial and spent July 2004 - October 2006 behind bars! Lost his liceance for life!
Now, all that time he was still getting the $26 per week for gas and repairs and to this day he still does!!!! I have tried to get this judge to hear this fact .. with no luck! (that's almost 4 grand!)
While in jail they sold the house and made a $120,000.00 PROFIT and tried to lower the child support to $50 a month! This time I was up against his lawyer who did end up looking like a jackass!
I won 1/2 of what was left after one month! $50,000 in escrow for the boys to get thier $200.00 per week.. my ex mother in law was and still is in charge of the child support payments.
Back then I addressed the $26 a week he was getting and the judge ignored it.
Now... he sits in Maui for the 3rd time since getting out of jail.
I had him served the day before he left (for a modification and reimbursement of the $26 per week times 4 years and an increase in child support since the cost of raising the two boys has greatly increased since 2003!! )
AFTER my ex got served - my child support stopped!!
I have gotten 1 child support payment in a month!!.
The boys and I just barely avoided eviction!
So... I have to ask opinions.
First ... How many people do YOU know who got 5 DUI's BEFORE going to jail?
Why does this judge NOT listen to facts and figures???
How can I get this judge to listen? IF I can not afford a lawyer myself
but they can!
Does it seem my ex is (was) "above the law?"
Is the judge purposely ignoring facts on money issues? or is
this just a case of "ignorance" on the judges part??
Also.. I have tried to move this case here, and my ex postponed that too!
I am open to any and all suggestions and input! Positive or Negative.
I am not trying to air my "dirty laundry"... I do need some opinions! (At the least they will motivate me to get the paperwork more in order and ready for court! ,,,, again )