My father passed away today from Cancer.

gfkostas

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My father passed away today after a 3 years battle with liver cancer. He was my best friend and I will sorely miss him.

Dear Lord_Have_Mercy,

Your father finished his work on earth and left the stage in a manner that leaves those of you left behind with a cry or agony in our hearts. Is anyone strong enough to stay conscious through such teaching as you are receiving? Probably very few. And even they would only have a whisper of equanimity and peace amidst the screaming trumpets of their age, grief, horror, and desolation.
I can't assuage your pain with any words, nor should I, for your sadness is father's legacy to you. Not that he or I would inflict such sadness by choice, but there it is. And it must burn it's purifying way to completion. For something in you dies when you hear the unbearable, and it is only in that dark night of the soul that you are prepared to see as "God" sees, and to love as "God" loves.
Now is the time to let your grief find expression-no false strength. Now is the time to sit quietly and speak to your father, thank him for being with you these few years, and encourage him to go on with whatever his work is, knowing that you will grow in compassion and wisdom from his experience. In my heart I know that you and he will meet again and again and recognize the many ways in which you have known each other.
And when you meet you will know, in a flash, what now it is not given to you to know: why this had to be the way it was.
Our rational minds can never understand what has happened, but our hearts-if we keep them truly open will find their own intuitive way. Your father was in your life to do his work on Earth, which include his manner of death. Now his soul is free, and the love that you can share with him is invulnerable to the winds of changing time and space.
In that deep love, please include me.

In love
~gfkostas~
 

satori

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I'm sorry for your loss. It's never easy to lose someone you love. The pain will lessen but never go away. Hopefully, you'll be able to focus on the happy memories as time goes on. I lost my mom to cancer 3 years ago on 10/30 and it's still tough.
 

babs7262

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So sorry

Im sorry for your loss. I don't know you very well but know that losing a parent to cancer is terrible. I lost my mom to it. If you need someone to chat with, please feel free to contact me at [email protected]

Sometimes it is easier to talk with someone who can be objective. Im going through this right now with my Aunt and it is a horrible thing. At least he is no longer in pain. You've probably heard that a million times today but it is so true.

Please just make sure you talk to someone and not get lost in a casino to relieve your pain. Im not saying that to be funny, that can happen and I don't want things to get even worse for you.

Be Well
Barbara
 

jenn1381

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My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I hope you can gain strength in each other. And remember that the pain that you feel is because of the great love you shared. As much as it's not a comfort now, in the future it might be. If we didn't feel that pain, it would mean that their time on earth was wasted. And what a shame that would be.

Take care.
 

Simmo!

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Sorry to hear that LHM. I went through the same thing in June. It's hard but take some solace in the fact that he's free of pain and now in a much better place.

Simmo!
 
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Casinomeister

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I'm really sorry to hear of this, LHM. My sincere condolences are with you and your family.
 

Pepmintpatty

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Sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my dad 5 years ago to pancreatic cancer. My condolences to you and your family. May the Lord continue to watch over you all.
 

jenn1381

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Not picking on you but......?:eek2:

If you were to die... and no one mourned your death... no one was sad and felt that sting... It would mean you weren't loved. If you aren't loved, you're wasted skin. We can do great things in life, make lots of $, etc. But the greatest thing we can do is love and be loved.
 

dominique

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I am very sorry to hear that.

You have been blessed with a father you love, and I know the pain it is to see your loved ones go.

I feel for you!
 

Lord_Have_Mercy

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Thanks Everyone. We all are truely a family here at casinomeister. The reason I chose this name (LHM), was because I knew when we found out want type of cancer he had. It would take the work of the Lord to spear him. He fought for 3 years from a cancer (liver) that normally kills you within 8 months. On top of that he had lung cancer also. I really miss him and hope to continue to be strong throughout this. Even though Im grown (32 years of age). I dont know where I will go for wisdom and advice. He always was there for me whether I was RIGHT or WRONG!

You guys are my family also and this is where I come to vent off or ask my questions. Most of you have respected me, while others have expressed their comments in a strong manner. I love you guys here!
 

gfkostas

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If you were to die... and no one mourned your death... no one was sad and felt that sting... It would mean you weren't loved.

If someone don't cry for you does that mean that he doesn't love you? I see you associate pain as a confirmation of your loving someone but that isn't something I agree with.

If i were to die and be able to look at those left behind I wouldn't like it at all if they were depressed fpr me. That's not love, that's addictive sentimentality.
 
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