Inappropriate behavior warning

Casinomeister

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Thought I would post this here since this has to do with the forum as a whole: after my return of being gone for a week (the moderators were absent as well), I found that a few members had a lapse of good judgement - two of whom were suspended or banned (Lojo - 90 days, and tim5ny - permanent ban).

Lojo's offence - telling members to "shut the fuck up" on two accounts, and he has had his account suspended three times in the past for similar offences. Tim5ny - for his misogynistic and garbage thread about oral sex, and his comment "She's just someone's whore.. like most bitches!" Tim has been banned twice for racist or misogynistic comments in the past.

No one has the right to tell anyone here to shut the fuck up - and I shouldn't have to say what is wrong with Tim's comments.

What is alarming to me, is that there was not a general outcry. Only a couple of members came to me pointing out their concern - as you know, it's impossible for me to read every posting; I rely on members to police their own behavior and ensure that their peers are not behaving badly.

There are a number of members who are in lurk mode because of some of these incidents, which is alarming as well. I am not merely alarmed that they are not posting, what is disappointing is that they are not claiming their forum back.

I don't control who posts and what is posted. My job is to ensure that the forum is functioning and that it is well organized. I am also committed to making this a place welcome to all - but most of that responsibility falls into your hands. It is a member's board - and it is you who is charged with providing relevant and thought provoking discussions. And it is you who is charged with ensuring that the environment here is relaxed, enjoyable and/or conductive to serious undertakings (as in the complaint sections).

For those of you that may find other members annoying - don't forget you have an ignore button. Check your User CP and use this. And for those of you who find a posting offensive, please click the "report this post" and alert us (the moderators) to problematic posts/threads. We are counting on you.

If you are one of the lurkers, please jump in and get involved. I have some very cool and unprecedented things planned for this forum in the upcoming weeks. You won't be disappointed. :D
 

Chatmaster

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It is pity this had to happen. It is always sad to see people behaving in such a manner. But I guess it boils down to one thing. If you do not have any self respect, you probably will show no respect to others at some stage. :mad:

I have been a lurker for some time now, because settling a new business takes allot of time and effort. But one reason I always come back is the company. One of the key factors that makes Casinomeister stand out is the fact that you can have your say, anyway you like it in a relaxed and mature environment. It is good to see that it stays the way it is.

I have some very cool and unprecedented things planned for this forum in the upcoming weeks. You won't be disappointed. :D
Can't wait to hear more on this :D
 

Casinomeister

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Thanks Chatmaster - it's good seeing you back again. :thumbsup:
 

classymom

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I will miss Tim. I understand having to keep a little order or things will get out of hand. I will miss Tim, he made me laugh:)
 

GGW Laurie

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I will miss Tim. I understand having to keep a little order or things will get out of hand. I will miss Tim, he made me laugh:)
......i will miss tim also and i feel the blame for lojo being banned for 90 days as i was one of the peeps he told to stfu which he did say he was sorry for in his own lojo way. i did not report it as i felt it was not intended at me by him personally but by maybe some heavy duty partying on his part. i think the worst word you can say to someone is to shut up as this makes one feel belittled and we all have feelings that can be hurt with just a few words. lojo is a great poster prolly one of the best on here and he has a good heart, i hope he will come back like the old lojo with great posts and standing up for the ones that need his advice...................laurie
 

Casinomeister

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The thing is, you can't just go and post whatever you like and then the next day blame it on the booze. "Shut the fuck up" - whether it's an acronym or not - is way out of line. I don't care how good a poster is, that is abusing other members and is uncalled for. Lojo has been given his share of warnings and admonishments. If a member feels they need to abuse others or act obnoxious, then there are consequences. I cannot permit members to behave badly.

Tim, nice guy that I'm sure he is, has crossed that border several times. It's a shame, but if you want a forum where people can refer to the women membership as "bitches" and "whores" - well, I just have to say that you won't find it at Casinomeister.

It's not like these guys were not warned.
 

oldtrvlagt

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Thank you for that..I run in to that enough when I play poker online...there are a lot of "men" (sorry to say that) that can't stand being beat by a woman and think they have to resort to inappropriate language to make themselves feel better.
 

BingoT

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I do have to say this.
When the words "bitches" and "whores" are used I have to say it's Low Repect.Would anyone here like anyone to call your wife this "NO" But we all have our days.
In 22 years I never called my own wife a B and that's even if I was drunk too.
I do wish you would give Tim one more and only one more chance and that's it.
We all learn by our mistakes.

The S T F U is not good to say even to your own Mother

Life is to short

They both make some great contributions here.
 

missmayda

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Those guys make me laugh too, and I will admit, I didn't read those comments, but whenever I see something like that it does make me a bit uneasy :oops:

What I am really in awe of is the ethics this board is run on. Not only with this situation (and others like it) but in general.

When a casino has done wrong, you take them to task, but when someone comes here and bashes them for personal reasons, you defend them equally. That is awesome. I have enjoyed my time here, and can't wait for the new & exciting things to come! :notworthy
 

RobWin

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, and tim5ny - permanent ban).

Tim5ny - for his misogynistic and garbage thread about oral sex, and his comment "She's just someone's whore.. like most bitches!" Tim has been banned twice for racist or misogynistic comments in the past.

No one has the right to tell anyone here to shut the fuck up - and I shouldn't have to say what is wrong with Tim's comments.

What is alarming to me, is that there was not a general outcry. Only a couple of members came to me pointing out their concern - as you know, it's impossible for me to read every posting; I rely on members to police their own behavior and ensure that their peers are not behaving badly.

. :D

Bryan, I'm not sure if you missed it but I just wanted to say that I was poster #2 in that thread that Tim made and you can see what I tried to say to him in a nice and diplomatic way. I feel there are mothers and grandmothers on this board also that I would not want my own personal friends to talk like that around them...little lone a total stranger...and I really like Tim too as you can see from my post here...

I did not alert you to it, because I felt he did know better and I tried to bring his attention to it real quick by being poster # 2 in hopes that things would chill there, but then others jumped in the mix agging him on you know...

https://www.casinomeister.com/forums/threads/king-tut-owes-me-a-bj.22350/
 

classymom

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I also agree that degrading woman to those names are uncalled for. I have been married for 16 years and never once has my husband called me a " Bitch" even though we both know I am:lolup: I've only been a member a short time so I haven't read alot of the post with negative remarks made by Tim. So I respect your decision to ban.
 

USA2112

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What about a word censor mod? "filter" Once members find out certain sayings or words used in their post are not what they posted they are less likely to use them again. Can be a useful tool and funny if you use it right.

Just a thought! :rolleyes:
 

RobWin

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What about a word censor mod? "filter" Once members find out certain sayings or words used in their post are not what they posted they are less likely to use them again. Can be a useful tool and funny if you use it right.

Just a thought! :rolleyes:

That's a good point USA, but adults should be able to discern what's appropriate and what's not...
 

RobWin

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I do have to say this.
When the words "bitches" and "whores" are used I have to say it's Low Repect.Would anyone here like anyone to call your wife this "NO" But we all have our days.
In 22 years I never called my own wife a B and that's even if I was drunk too.
I do wish you would give Tim one more and only one more chance and that's it.
We all learn by our mistakes.

The S T F U is not good to say even to your own Mother

Life is to short

They both make some great contributions here.


Who would want to say something like that to their mother ?...:confused:

If I had ever talked to my mother like that my dad would have literally killed me...but on the other hand I would never have been that disrespectful anyway to my own mother...
 

USA2112

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That's a good point USA, but adults should be able to discern what's appropriate and what's not...

That's right, but some don't! and that's the problem. Visitors can be offended by certain statements. Not me, I just laugh or wonder what the point was sometimes. But there are rules.
 

RobWin

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That's right, but some don't! and that's the problem. Visitors can be offended by certain statements. Not me, I just laugh or wonder what the point was sometimes. But there are rules.

That's correct and the ones that don't follow them get banned !
 

jod5413

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Good start, Bryan!!!

Maybe some of those long time lurking members will decide to come out and start making this forum the great place it used to be. That would be a good thing.

And, for everyone that thinks Tim should get another chance, maybe you guys could find out where he goes and go with him? Just My Opinion.

Lojo, who already had a few chances before this ban, could have been given the permanent boot. His drunken rants, made up words, and nonsense filled posts might be one of the major reasons why the intelligent contributors to this forum have disappeared? Just My Opinion.

If people want an entire forum that is like the old "Wild Cards" or the new "The Attic", maybe they could confine themselves to that forum only, and let the articulate and intelligent lurkers have their Gambling Forum back to rationally discuss true gambling related subjects, and the occasional real humor, not begging for money and sucking up to perceived "whales", whining and being paranoid, and the sophomoric, pseudo humor? Just My Opinion.

Nothing personal to anyone here, there are a bunch of nice people, but an eze board is where some of these current threads might possibly belong?

Just My Opinion. Anyone wanting to agree OR disagree, feel free to PM me. :D

Once again.....Bryan, A Big Thumbs Up!!! :thumbsup:

Jod
 

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Casinomeister

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I have used censors before - it blots out the potty mouth language. I found it sophomoric and it's something you apply to a kid's board - not one for seasoned gamblers.

I might as well rename the "Pitch a Bitch" section :p
 
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