Important Messages For All Women On The Forum

GGW Laurie

Well-Known Member
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they
look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They
are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other
hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a
woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors
around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their
purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard
and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:
00a.m. And 8:30a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store
parking lots. The number two: office parking lots/garages. Number three:
public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and
quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about
getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it
only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't
worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other
similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

Keys are NOT a deterrent because you have to get really close to the
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys
you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following
behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is
it?, or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,'
'We're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify
them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and
yell STOP! Or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd
leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to
fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and
carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding
it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by
outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch
the attacker either under the Arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the
upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told
him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and
was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the
guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you
can stand it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is
extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him
want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is
that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing
trouble and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and
bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them
as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I
ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of
your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd
behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the
guy really was trouble.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If
you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans : If a robber asks for
your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from
you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse
than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail
lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The
driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating,
working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.)
DON'T DO THIS! The predator w ill be watching you, and this is the perfect
opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head,
and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF,
repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything,
wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the
back seat they wi ll get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail
out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote

5 A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side
floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger
door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their
vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the
passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you
may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to
walk you back out.

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible
places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!
The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even
then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you
raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking,
well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting
women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his
vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

And to the guys on the forum, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters,
daughters, etc., you may want to pass this onto them, as well.
Last edited:

GGW Laurie

Well-Known Member
You do not have permission to view link Log in or register now.
for analysis.
thanks gm for the input, i did know that it was on snopes, but with the holidays headed this way, if one woman reads this or someone in your family and it saves just one life or another rape victim, then i dont mind posting it, i could care less where or what snopes has to say when it comes to protecting women from being raped , there were alot of important facts that are true in protecting ones self and i will stand by that fact.............laurie


Banned User
Most of what LaurieJim is true. I didnt read the snopes thing but if they said its not true, snopes is wrong this time. Maybe they didnt interview rapists or something but every fact that was mentioned is right and do 80% of them anyway.

I never get in the car w/o looking
I never NOT lock the doors as soon as I get in
I never park in the back of a lot
I always look at my surroundings while going to my car

Snopes can be a good thing but when it comes to giving tips for women to watch themselves, you can never be wrong