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OK guys here is the story and honestly the worry in me has built up and I need to just let it out so here goes.
i have a 15 year old son. Some background info. He is not as healthy as other kids. He was born with low NK cells which are your natural killer cells. Meaning if you were to catch strep for example: your NK cells would identify and attack trying to stop the strep before it infects you. Well with my son he needs to get the strep then the white blood cells come out and battle the infection. It makes it very hard for him and hard on his body because it takes longer to heal. Example strep with you would be 3 days with him at least 7. it causes him high fevers and other issues. I have dealt with this with the attitude ok he at least has white blood cells so he is better off then other kids. I am use to the monitoring of him when he gets sick. A cold put him in the hospital one time for 10 days. The flu almost 20 just to give you an idea. OK he is 15 now and is getting stronger not as many illness and finally gaining weight and so on. Now I will tell you why I am upset.
Right before xmas he started coming down with a cold/congestion. The first thing I had him do was take contacts out. (he just got the contacts last month. Full contacts not just daily disposables for sports). So he was on decongestant. He chest congestion was getting worse so we had to switch him to stronger one. the next day he comes up to me and both his eyes were swollen. he looked like Rocky. I called Dr. not knowing if reaction to new meds or if something else. He said get him to ER to make sure.
Took him to ER. He tells the nurse it feels like something is in his eye. She argues and says yes its infected. He says no I feel something there. She writes on form infection. OK i looked at her and said look his eye is in pain its swollen if its not reaction to meds can we check to see nothing is in his eye. She says yes but its most likely an infection. I realize at this point there is no point in arguing with a want to be Dr. and when he gets brought back in room I will talk to Dr myself.
OK Dr. walks in room and says so we have an eye infection. I said no we need to check for meds reaction or something in his eye. He said no its not reaction I think its infection. OK my instinct started at that moment. I looked and said please he is in pain can we check for something in the eye. He said fine and numbed the eye and dyed it -- while he is doing this I had to turn my back to sign a form I missed what he was doing. I AM KICKING MYSELF RIGHT NOW> See he never checked under the lid.
Now he says ok I see nothing its infection take these drops and if not better follow up with Optomologist. OK This was Friday morning. By Saturday night my son was in extreme pain. We couldn't even turn a light on in house it would hurt so bad. All he did was sleep and wake up in pain. I was gonna bring him back to ER and he kept saying no mom give it another day maybe it will get better. KICKING MYSELF AGAIN> I SHOULD HAVE LISTENED TO MY INSTINCTS>
Monday morning I call Optomologist first thing when they opened they got him in real quick. Dr looks at a red eye that now has started to bleed with goop and yuck everywhere.
he numbs the eye puts dye in and finds the piece of contact that broke off dried out and scratched my sons cornea.
OK how they didn't see in ER because they never looked. Now he has new meds and instructions started them yesterday. 2nd dose this morning son comes in room after 15 min and his right side of face and throat is all swollen. KICKING MYSELF>
I call Dr and he says OK the eye is fully infected and is spreading continue with meds and Ill see him on Friday. Don't let him near anyone and he needs sleep to battle this. Gives me instructions. Well here is why I'm upset. Now he is in pain. Now he is battling one hell of an infection which for you and me would be OK but for him its pure hell. Now we have to hope the infection goes down and not up because so close to the brain. Now we have to hope the infection and cut does not effect his eye site. This is a nightmare!
All because one dam nurse didn't want to listen and me being an Idiot and not watching. I know and yes I am blaming myself. I should!!! I knew something was going on. Why didn't I go with my gut. So now I sit here lack of sleep and worried as hell typing this to let out some of the guilt I am feeling.
I know many of you are gonna say don't blame yourself. I Thank you now for that thought. But it's my job as a mom to watch out for him and I know better especially with him. I have to watch out even harder because of his condition.
Anyways I am just kicking myself and needed to let it out. Please say a prayer to your God. I know I should be grateful for all I have and I know there are children out there that are even sicker however the next 48 hours can be life changing for him and I think we need all the help we can get right now. Iv'e said to my God please do not let this spread to the brain that would be many long days and nights in the hospital and a very long battle for him.
Thank you
Michelle/Chocmartini
i have a 15 year old son. Some background info. He is not as healthy as other kids. He was born with low NK cells which are your natural killer cells. Meaning if you were to catch strep for example: your NK cells would identify and attack trying to stop the strep before it infects you. Well with my son he needs to get the strep then the white blood cells come out and battle the infection. It makes it very hard for him and hard on his body because it takes longer to heal. Example strep with you would be 3 days with him at least 7. it causes him high fevers and other issues. I have dealt with this with the attitude ok he at least has white blood cells so he is better off then other kids. I am use to the monitoring of him when he gets sick. A cold put him in the hospital one time for 10 days. The flu almost 20 just to give you an idea. OK he is 15 now and is getting stronger not as many illness and finally gaining weight and so on. Now I will tell you why I am upset.
Right before xmas he started coming down with a cold/congestion. The first thing I had him do was take contacts out. (he just got the contacts last month. Full contacts not just daily disposables for sports). So he was on decongestant. He chest congestion was getting worse so we had to switch him to stronger one. the next day he comes up to me and both his eyes were swollen. he looked like Rocky. I called Dr. not knowing if reaction to new meds or if something else. He said get him to ER to make sure.
Took him to ER. He tells the nurse it feels like something is in his eye. She argues and says yes its infected. He says no I feel something there. She writes on form infection. OK i looked at her and said look his eye is in pain its swollen if its not reaction to meds can we check to see nothing is in his eye. She says yes but its most likely an infection. I realize at this point there is no point in arguing with a want to be Dr. and when he gets brought back in room I will talk to Dr myself.
OK Dr. walks in room and says so we have an eye infection. I said no we need to check for meds reaction or something in his eye. He said no its not reaction I think its infection. OK my instinct started at that moment. I looked and said please he is in pain can we check for something in the eye. He said fine and numbed the eye and dyed it -- while he is doing this I had to turn my back to sign a form I missed what he was doing. I AM KICKING MYSELF RIGHT NOW> See he never checked under the lid.
Now he says ok I see nothing its infection take these drops and if not better follow up with Optomologist. OK This was Friday morning. By Saturday night my son was in extreme pain. We couldn't even turn a light on in house it would hurt so bad. All he did was sleep and wake up in pain. I was gonna bring him back to ER and he kept saying no mom give it another day maybe it will get better. KICKING MYSELF AGAIN> I SHOULD HAVE LISTENED TO MY INSTINCTS>
Monday morning I call Optomologist first thing when they opened they got him in real quick. Dr looks at a red eye that now has started to bleed with goop and yuck everywhere.
he numbs the eye puts dye in and finds the piece of contact that broke off dried out and scratched my sons cornea.
OK how they didn't see in ER because they never looked. Now he has new meds and instructions started them yesterday. 2nd dose this morning son comes in room after 15 min and his right side of face and throat is all swollen. KICKING MYSELF>
I call Dr and he says OK the eye is fully infected and is spreading continue with meds and Ill see him on Friday. Don't let him near anyone and he needs sleep to battle this. Gives me instructions. Well here is why I'm upset. Now he is in pain. Now he is battling one hell of an infection which for you and me would be OK but for him its pure hell. Now we have to hope the infection goes down and not up because so close to the brain. Now we have to hope the infection and cut does not effect his eye site. This is a nightmare!
All because one dam nurse didn't want to listen and me being an Idiot and not watching. I know and yes I am blaming myself. I should!!! I knew something was going on. Why didn't I go with my gut. So now I sit here lack of sleep and worried as hell typing this to let out some of the guilt I am feeling.
I know many of you are gonna say don't blame yourself. I Thank you now for that thought. But it's my job as a mom to watch out for him and I know better especially with him. I have to watch out even harder because of his condition.
Anyways I am just kicking myself and needed to let it out. Please say a prayer to your God. I know I should be grateful for all I have and I know there are children out there that are even sicker however the next 48 hours can be life changing for him and I think we need all the help we can get right now. Iv'e said to my God please do not let this spread to the brain that would be many long days and nights in the hospital and a very long battle for him.
Thank you
Michelle/Chocmartini
. It's easy to say but not so easy to do. Fact is many things that might hold a bit of partial truth well stay stuck in your head..."why didn't I check" "why did I turn my back" "why didn't I keep pushing the nurse / doctor." Just because we share a small bit of partial responsibility doesn't mean we could have done anything to change the outcome of what happened. 
(I tried for you man...I tried).....
