Ok so I really need some advice about keeping a cool head at the tables especially after losing a ton of chips like I just did I mean cmon was in 5th place with 27k in chips get JJ nobody raises me so of course I raise it up he flats which concerned me a bit flop is completely low
great right? it was 832 So have over pair to board so of course I bet him he insta calls me again this concerned me then another 2 comes... I didn't put him on a set of 2s because it wouldn't fit the one hand I contemplated him holding was 88. Nevertheless my hand was too strong and because I just did not put him on an overpair because of his preflop actions I kept re-raising him till he was all in and sure enough my worst fears were answered lucky bugger had only flopped a set and turned a full house! but because the flop was all low cards as I said I thought he may have it but it was a longshot surely or so I thought! So now I had lost 16k in chips several expletives followed fn this fn lucky you know the drill and a slam of my desk for good measure! So how on earth do people stay calm following a bad loss like that because after that I just crumbled a few coolers happened as usual then I get an ace and raise it almost all in then just shove him and of course he has 99! and no ace comes! Played my fn ass off in this tourney is the main reason I am steamed! Any tips to keep a cool head after a dire hit to my stack?! I seem to be on tilt every tournament right now!
Your opponent didn't raise PF, so you're right, premium hands unlikely.
You haven't said the suits of the flop, so I can't see if a flush-draw was there. You say you contemplated him holding 88, but didn't trust your gut. Fair enough, but also note they could've been holding an open-ended straight draw. By the turn you still say you weren't considering a set, but there's now possible quads there, as well as FH, the open-ended straight, (as well as a possible flush).
When you bet into someone, you're asking them a question, (
'how strong is your hand?'). When they call, they are answering (either
'my hand is strong', 'I have pot-odds and a lot of outs', or
'I think I can out-play-you'). Whilst most of us don't believe we can be out-played, because of the number of available draws and/or made hands from the board you've described above, please listen to your gut & internal alarm bells. You said "
he insta calls" your every bet, there is his answer...
"I'm strong". After is immediate call on the flop, perhaps checking the turn would've been a better option? If they'd had bet, then you'd have more information. If you're still not sure if they're bluffing & confident in your hand, then you have the opportunity to re-raise. If they call or re-raise again, then you can be pretty certain you're beat. At that point, you're drawing to two cards (the other two J's). At that point, you can also be pretty certain you haven't got pot odds to call, so throw your cards away. (Forget what you see on TV (the editing shows ~10 hands from 12hrs of play), people really don't bluff as often as we think they do).
Rather than keeping your thoughts on how strong you believe your hand to be, consider how many hands could be made that could beat you. Pocket pairs pre-flop may be good enough, but as soon as the flop is out, ~70% of your hand is made... any pair-only hand doesn't look so strong any more. MUCH better to feel relieved about the chips you saved by not over-playing your hand, than kicking yourself for losing a big chunk of your stack.
When things like the hand you mentioned happen, perhaps click 'sit out' for a few hands & review the hand history. Look at it critically - is there anything different you could've done? If your opponent(s) did get lucky / suck-out on you there's nothing you can do about it. If they got lucky, it may not be great, but hope they keep playing the same way against you... you will win more than you lose. However if you can see where you could've played the hand differently, then chances are it will help you feel less aggrieved about what happened. Try to learn from it & I'm pretty sure when you rejoin the game, your play will be a lot better.
If that doesn't work...
Hi !
Quit playing for a while , playing on tilt is donating your money to others .