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Discussion in 'The Attic' started by chayton, Jan 25, 2012.

    Jan 25, 2012
  1. chayton

    chayton aka LooHoo CAG PABnonaccred webmeister

    Occupation:
    Freelance Designer
    Location:
    Edmonton Canada
    Yeah I know, quit holding my breath, right? :)

    Ray's mom is in the hospital right now. She's this tiny thin little person, she has this way of tilting her head when she's talking to you that reminds me of a bird. She's very clever, she does lots of writing - stories and poems and songs, plays solitaire, does the crosswords, plays piano when her hands aren't too bad. She usually full of energy and has a silly sense of humor and giggles like a schoolgirl. She is absolutely without a doubt the sweetest and most caring person I've ever met.

    She was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis when she was 18 years old, and was tried on a bunch of different medications that mostly didn't help but caused some liver and kidney damage. Her hands are completely twisted, but she still manages to do practically everything. Her husband (Ray's dad) died when he was in his 30s of hepatitis, leaving her a single mom of 4 kids. She had 2 brothers that helped out when they could, but they survived mostly on welfare. She did a great job raising the kids, later after they'd all grown up and moved out, she remarried, and the second husband passed away several years later and she's lived alone ever since.

    Several years ago she found out that she had a particularly aggressive form of bladder cancer. Because of her age (I think she was 89 at the time) they didn't want to do chemo as it would be too hard on her, but they did radiation. She and the family are people of strong faith, they prayed and prayed and when it came time for her last tests, the cancer was gone - with no surgery and no chemo.

    About a year ago she started having a lot of 'flare-ups' with her arthritis - along with her hands, it also affects her shoulders and legs, and when she's having one of these, she's almost bedridden. She also ended up having some chest pains and in the hospital they realized that she had pneumonia. The decision was made to sell her house because nobody was comfortable with her living alone anymore - even though she was elderly, up til then she was more than capable of taking care of herself. Her house was surrounded by all these beautiful flowerbeds that she was constantly mucking around in, and she was even shovelling her own walks in the winter up til just recently!

    So when she got out of the hospital last time, she went to stay with Ray's sister. The rest of us took care of packing and cleaning up her house - which amazingly sold less than 2 weeks after being listed. She's been doing alright, but never really bounced back from this pneumonia problem and she was down to less than 100 pounds. But she wrote a song and Ray offered to record it, she came over and played the piano and sang her little heart out. Ray burned her some CDs and she sent one to everyone she knows, and she's been getting rave reviews! She's always after Ray to burn her a couple more CDs (because she remembers someone she forgot to send it to) and I tease her that she's handing out her CD to strangers waiting for a bus. Everyone loved her first song so much that she did another one that Ray recorded - and she's working on a couple more. lol, we all think it's the coolest thing.

    But last week she had a little stroke....just a small one, she was standing looking out the window and felt a strange numbness in her left arm. It sort of went away but she couldn't hang onto anything with her left hand. Then on Monday morning she had another one and fell in the bathroom, Ray's sister called and we went over there. To make a long story a little less long, we had to call for an ambulance to come and take her to emergency, and she's currently in the stroke ward at the hospital. Her prognosis isn't bad...but it's not good either.

    Sigh...so here's the thing, she's 92 years old - 93 next month on her birthday. She's had a long and happy life, she's got a ton of grandkids and 2 great-granddaughters she adores. We should all be so lucky. It's something that we all face sooner or later, and I know all that...but I can't help it, it makes me sad to think of the world without her in it.

    I pray that if it's time for her to go, it will be peaceful and easy and fully aware of how much she's loved.

    :) thanks for listening.
     
  2. Jan 25, 2012
  3. Nifty29

    Nifty29 Dormant account

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    Big ((((((hugs))))))) for you Chay

    :)

    I hope that someone so special does not have to endure pain on her final journey.
     
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  4. Jan 25, 2012
  5. cdomi66

    cdomi66 Experienced Member

    Occupation:
    truck driver
    Location:
    Calgary, AB
    She sounds like she's a gift to all who know her. What an amazing woman...
     
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  6. Jan 25, 2012
  7. LHofsdal

    LHofsdal Ueber Meister MM

    Occupation:
    Retired
    Location:
    NY
    Oh Chayton, I am sorry, she really does sound like a wonderful woman. I know it is tough, but hang in there.

    Lori
     
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  8. Jan 25, 2012
  9. silcnlayc

    silcnlayc Just one more spin pleez! CAG MM PABnonaccred PABaccred

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    IT Director of Operations
    Location:
    Left Hungary
    What a nice tribute to someone that is so loved to share her story with others. She sounds like a beautiful woman, with a great heart. Hopefully she goes peacefully in her sleep with her loved ones there to let her go on to her next journey.

    Huggzzz for her and all of you, prayers for peace.

    .
     
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  10. Jan 25, 2012
  11. anniemac

    anniemac Ueber Meister MM PABnoaccred

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    retired
    Location:
    Texas, USA
    Cindy,

    I've lost a husband, mother, and father and this is what I have learned from all of this. You are never truly without them. They have touched your life in such a way that they will always be with you.

    This wonderful little woman has touched you in ways that will be with you forever. She has touched the people around her and made them better for it. Celebrate her life and what she has given the world and what she will continue to give. Don't give up on her just yet. She sounds like a feisty woman that might surprise all of you. If not, then mourn her passing and then remember and honor her life and what she left for you.
     
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  12. Jan 25, 2012
  13. chayton

    chayton aka LooHoo CAG PABnonaccred webmeister

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    Freelance Designer
    Location:
    Edmonton Canada
    Thanks for the nice thoughts everyone - she is pretty amazing, everybody who's ever met her just loves her. And we're absolutely not giving up on her - after all, she's got to do at least 8 more songs to make a full CD! Plus she's pretty tricky, she beat cancer after the doctors gave her only 6 months. But this last year has been tough on her, and every time she gets ill it takes a bit longer for her to bounce back.

    So we're keeping a positive vibe that she'll pull through this too. But it's like the smell in the air before it rains, if you know what I mean...you don't know when, but you know it's coming.
     
  14. Jan 25, 2012
  15. Mousey

    Mousey Ueber Meister Mouse CAG

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    Up$hitCreek
    What a wonderful lady! And I know she's a great pleasure to have in your life. I do hope she recovers nicely. And if not... I hope her remaining days and hours on this earth are free of misery.
     
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  16. Jan 26, 2012
  17. SlotMonster

    SlotMonster SoftSwiss Representative webmeister

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    (((((HUGS)))))

    Awesome little old lady! :notworthy

    I want a CD too!!! :notworthy
     
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  18. Jan 26, 2012
  19. secret2

    secret2 irishbrit62 MM

    Occupation:
    driver
    Location:
    New York, United States
    Yes, she does indeed sound like a wonderful lady!

    I ditto what Silcnlac said. Our loved ones that have passed on are with us always.

    God Bless, Chayton.
     
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  20. Jan 26, 2012
  21. ksech

    ksech Dormant account

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    What an amazing woman! We can only hope WE are remembered in such a way. She is very blessed and I'm sure when it's time, God will take her peacefully. It's those who are left behind who suffer. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
     
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  22. Jan 26, 2012
  23. jod5413

    jod5413 Is That Better?

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    What a wonderful lady she sounds like! You and the entire family are blessed to have someone like her to love and cherish. She WILL be in your heart forever and for now, just be with her and hope she is kept as pain free as possible, Chayton. Hang in there, I will be praying for all of you. :)
     
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  24. Jan 26, 2012
  25. GGW Laurie

    GGW Laurie Dormant account

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    Self Employed
    Location:
    In the Beautiful South !!
    Cindy,

    What Annie said is the truth , I couldn't have added anything different , just stay strong and know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers and I am here for you just like you were for me , your a special loving friend.

    Love ya,
    Laurie
     
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  26. Jan 26, 2012
  27. samoas

    samoas Senior Member

    Occupation:
    Office manager in fine dining
    Location:
    Philly born & raised 2 traffic lights away
    ((((CHAYTON))))

    Your family is in my thoughts & prayers.

    So painful to watch someone go through this anguish when they have been such an integral part of your daily life.
     
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