another one bites the dust

frosty3907

Non-Gambler
As so many have said before including myself "That's it, I'm done."
Gambling had consumed my life from 18-32 - my life has centered around it and suffered, I don't find joy in anything else except my wonderful partner who has had to put up with my idiocy for five years now.

I don't know why I feel this time is different, but when I woke up this morning instead of feeling desperation and dread I felt relief, that for some reason I didn't have to do this anymore. I know I have typed similar things to this before and believed them, I know the urge will return in spades and all the old excuses will crop up again, my brain crying out for stimulation.

But you know what I'm going to do? Not gamble.

I'll try and read a book but be too distracted so I'll end up just sitting in a chair or laying in bed.

Two or three months will pass, as they have before (once or twice) and I still won't feel better, I'll wonder if I ever will, maybe I won't. But I'll still pick up a book or half watch a movie. Anything but gambling, I can't stand to see those reels spinning anymore, it makes me sick.

I wish you all the best, especially those who, like me, are in denial about what gambling is doing to you, I hope you come to a realization long before I did and if not I hope you can forgive yourself for all the lying, desperate manipulative things you do to those around you and I hope they can forgive you, and me, for them too.

Time to go lock the accounts (again) - several accredited casinos allowed me to unlock despite emails to them confirming gambling addiction. I don't blame them for my addiction but their responsible care leaves a lot to be desired.

I'm sure I'll miss you all, and all this, but forgive me for saying I hope I don't see you soon except in the quit gambling forum which I would like to be restricted to thanks.

Time to read a book.
 

chuchu59

gambling addict
PABnonaccred
CAG
Good Luck from now on Frosty. I hope you can start a new thread soon with a better caption, something like 'Another one who is reborn'. Just lead a happier life from now on. We shall be missing you but will be comforted in the knowledge that you will not continue to be plagued by gambling addictions.
 

Blathaon

Senior Member
Gambling should be fun, when it stops being fun and start to take over your life then it's time to quit.
It's good that you have realized that you have a problem, maybe the fact that you publicly announced it here might help you keep on track.

Good luck to you.


I would like to recommend a book, The willpower instinct(How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It) by Kelly McGonigal

This is not a book about gambling but about willpower and self-control, it's a good read and it offers self-control strategies to help you achieve your goals, whether the goal is to break a bad habit, create new healthy habits or stop procrastinating.

I would recommend this book to everyone, you don't need to have a major problem in your life to benefit from it. If nothing else, you might learn something.


( i realize that this sounds a bit shilly, but what the hell, give it a chance :))
 

Mousey

Ueber Meister Mouse
You already know this won't be easy and in a strange way that knowing is a good thing and puts you a step ahead.

All our best to you!
 

frosty3907

Non-Gambler
my first challenge

oh man... I was just logging into all my casino software to contact live help to request permanent account locks and one of them has $20 bonus chips in there.

Every part of me, not just the gambler, screams that I can't just flush that down the toilet? It's money!

oh man...
 

frosty3907

Non-Gambler
well, i compromised - sent the account info to a friend and told him he can have it.. not a perfect resolution perhaps but i'm just impressed i was able to not play it.
 

Azzurri

Banned User
Well done on being so brave, and I wish you the best of luck moving forward. I hope you have, or can seek, the support you'll need. :thumbsup:
 

suzecat

Dormant account
well, i compromised - sent the account info to a friend and told him he can have it.. not a perfect resolution perhaps but i'm just impressed i was able to not play it.

Looks very impressive to me :thumbsup:

Sometimes it might help you to remember what you used to do before gambling? Whatever it was that might help keep your brain active and happy. You know best how to plan your future and my money is on you........ oh crap!! that sounded like gambling :oops: geese I can be a real dumbazz ............
 

dunover

Unofficial T&C's Editor
Staff member
webmeister
PABnonaccred
PABnononaccred
CAG
mm3
I suppose gambling to me is like sex - I talk about it far more than I get to do it. :oops::oops:

When I get time to play, usually on the odd afternoon or Saturday night (play online I hasten to add...!) I deposit my cash and hope for a long game. I accept that I'm going to lose at least 4% of each pound over the year. My budget goes, and that's it until next month. If I make withdrawals after my deposit limits have been met, I've got a proportion of my fun money back, sometimes a quarter, sometimes level and sometimes I bank a profit for the month. At the same time I can see how easy it would be to over-indulge my pleasure, if I had the money and time to do so.

So, as you say, you need a substitute. You said that reading a book you can't concentrate. I can't relate to that because if I read everything else gets sidelined and I'm absorbed, so you must be far more stuck to online gaming than I ever was. I'm not sure how I'd deal with that, but I will agree that like you say, the only real way is to deny yourself the opportunity to do it by keeping busy and focus on other things. When the 'other things' become habit and more productive to your mindset than gaming, then you've beaten it and are a real winner. Good luck with your efforts mate.
 

frosty3907

Non-Gambler
I suppose gambling to me is like sex - I talk about it far more than I get to do it. :oops::oops:

When I get time to play, usually on the odd afternoon or Saturday night (play online I hasten to add...!) I deposit my cash and hope for a long game. I accept that I'm going to lose at least 4% of each pound over the year. My budget goes, and that's it until next month. If I make withdrawals after my deposit limits have been met, I've got a proportion of my fun money back, sometimes a quarter, sometimes level and sometimes I bank a profit for the month. At the same time I can see how easy it would be to over-indulge my pleasure, if I had the money and time to do so.

So, as you say, you need a substitute. You said that reading a book you can't concentrate. I can't relate to that because if I read everything else gets sidelined and I'm absorbed, so you must be far more stuck to online gaming than I ever was. I'm not sure how I'd deal with that, but I will agree that like you say, the only real way is to deny yourself the opportunity to do it by keeping busy and focus on other things. When the 'other things' become habit and more productive to your mindset than gaming, then you've beaten it and are a real winner. Good luck with your efforts mate.
Thanks. But it's actually 4% per spin you'll lose :)

Also, do I need to ask someone specific to be restricted to this forum? Still able to view the other forums.
 

chayton

aka LooHoo
webmeister
PABnonaccred
CAG
Also, do I need to ask someone specific to be restricted to this forum? Still able to view the other forums.
I'll report your original post so Bryan or the mods will add you to the quit gambling group, that should restrict access to the rest of the forum. :thumbsup:
 

frosty3907

Non-Gambler
Today was much harder (already), evil thoughts returning.
But didn't gamble the $200 cash I had.
Was hoping from a bit longer reprieve from the itch but I guess it's to be expected, time between gambling hangover and gambling urge had had been reduced to pretty much zero long ago.
 

Godn

Dormant account
To go out with $200 in your pocket and not gamble when you have a addition to gambling takes a lot of discipline! you should be very proud of yourself,
When I was younger my grandad gave me some advice he said once you win big you'll never stop chasing it. At the time I believed it but I have seen some highly addictive gamblers prove that theory wrong,

So I wish you all the best in your struggle
 

frosty3907

Non-Gambler
Oddly enough 32red are the only casino making it difficult to self exclude so far.
Everyone else when I said the magic word "gambling addiction" closed my account permanently over chat but 32red want me to go to a URL, chase down my username (by reinstalling the software) and exclude from 6 months.. Despite requesting a permanent close over chat.
 

Tirilej

Still a Lady
CAG
MM
Oddly enough 32red are the only casino making it difficult to self exclude so far.
Everyone else when I said the magic word "gambling addiction" closed my account permanently over chat but 32red want me to go to a URL, chase down my username (by reinstalling the software) and exclude from 6 months.. Despite requesting a permanent close over chat.
They need to have it written down in case you come back later. It's for their protection too.

Just do it. Then you've taken another big step.
 

secret2

irishbrit62
MM
Me too

I just have had enough of sitting infront of this computer and isolating.

I am done. I need to run out of my house and feel the air and take my Annie out for walks and Jim my husband needs my attention, also.

I have sent emails to CWC and JC to close my accounts and with my blessings to them, also. They have been good to me. Thanks guys. :)

It's time to move on.

As some of you may know that I have not posted much recently it is because of bad behavior. Now is the time to make changes.

I will still be here but not gamble. How can I leave you guys??? Lol...ya great bunch.;)
 

Nightfly

Full Member
Turn the page

I just have had enough of sitting infront of this computer and isolating.

I am done. I need to run out of my house and feel the air and take my Annie out for walks and Jim my husband needs my attention, also.

I have sent emails to CWC and JC to close my accounts and with my blessings to them, also. They have been good to me. Thanks guys. :)

It's time to move on.

As some of you may know that I have not posted much recently it is because of bad behavior. Now is the time to make changes.

I will still be here but not gamble. How can I leave you guys??? Lol...ya great bunch.;)
Totally understand. I'm scratching the surface also. Closed several accounts in the past few months. Time for a change.
 
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